So I Punched My Sister Twice in the Head...

jrolls79 · December 2009

Weekend started off good. Got to my mom and dad's Thursday night. They had just gotten back from picking my 25 year old sister from the airport. We all had very nice dinner and sat around talking about the baby and who would be in the delivery room. The next day, Friday, we got up to go visit my grandma. While I was getting dressed,my sister was in the living room on the computer and my husband was sitting on the couch watching tv. Every time he tried to converse with her she called him 'fatty' or 'jobless'. (DH lost job a couple weeks ago at no fault of his own.) I did not think this was funny. She came in the bathroom to see why I was taking so long. I told her to cut it out with my hub. She thought I was joking and kept calling him fat and unemployed. I got in her face and told her I was not joking and she better cut it out. Then, that biitch grabbed me by the neck and squeezed. This is not unusual for her. Even though she is younger, she has always bullied me and beat me up. However, THIS time I am PREGNANT and my sister is CHOKING me! I made a fist and gave her a warning punch to the head. She didn't stop. I hit her again as hard as I could. She let go alright and fled the room in tears to my mom. This is the first time in my life I have ever hit someone with a closed fist. She refused to apologize to me or my hub so we didn't speak the rest of the weekend. Normally, I would not hold a grudge but I shudder to think of the damage she could of done to me. I mean, who attacks their pregnant sister? I really wish I could say this is unusual behavior for my sister but it is not. I think she is incredibly spoiled or has very serious undiagnosed mental problems. How was everyone's weekend. Anyone else get in to a fist fight?

LCB34 · December 2009

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

ETA: I meant to say I would NEVER get in a fist fight, much less when pregnant.

Alison5437 · December 2009

LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

LCB34 · December 2009

Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

You took the words right out of my mouth........

MissMcCauley · December 2009

Alison5437 · December 2009

Great minds think alike love, great minds think alike

jrolls79 · December 2009

Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Mrs. Major · December 2009

File assualt charges.

mfransdell · December 2009

ericaandsy · December 2009

LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight, much less when pregnant.

Completely agree!!

wingedbride · December 2009

kandjrolls2:
Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Surely you realize that violence in response to violence can often lead to escalation. That was not your smartest choice.

And, I saw in a previous post you said your family was messed up and your parents fought a ton when you were little which messed you up and made you wait 10 years to have kids. So, more than mental problems, sounds like your sister has problems from seeing this behavior in her parents. And, you may too since you punched her in reponse to her aggression.

ericaandsy · December 2009

wingedbride:
kandjrolls2:
Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Surely you realize that violence in response to violence can often lead to escalation. That was not your smartest choice.

And, I saw in a previous post you said your family was messed up and your parents fought a ton when you were little which messed you up and made you wait 10 years to have kids. So, more than mental problems, sounds like your sister has problems from seeing this behavior in her parents. And, you may too since you punched her in reponse to her aggression.

This!

mfransdell · December 2009

wingedbride:
kandjrolls2:
Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Surely you realize that violence in response to violence can often lead to escalation. That was not your smartest choice.

And, I saw in a previous post you said your family was messed up and your parents fought a ton when you were little which messed you up and made you wait 10 years to have kids. So, more than mental problems, sounds like your sister has problems from seeing this behavior in her parents. And, you may too since you punched her in reponse to her aggression.

Atleast she gave her a warning punch right? lol. I nearly died at "warning punch".

Blah, blah, blah though In all seriousness violence is no laughing matter. You really should have just called for your DH and mother to help then filed charges on her.

The Housewife · December 2009

kandjrolls2:

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Oh, your not white, so you can't be trash.. Confused

So lets say 3 years down the road, you are pregnant again with a toddler that is throwing a tantrum and hitting/kicking are you also going to resort to violence to solve that problem?

Regradless if your sister has problems, you are an adult and adults use their words.

KelandJohnW · December 2009

Screw everyone else, i would've done the same thing, if someone is choking me Im gonna defend myself back, put yourself in her situation.

used_tampon · December 2009

wingedbride:
kandjrolls2:
Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Surely you realize that violence in response to violence can often lead to escalation. That was not your smartest choice.

And, I saw in a previous post you said your family was messed up and your parents fought a ton when you were little which messed you up and made you wait 10 years to have kids. So, more than mental problems, sounds like your sister has problems from seeing this behavior in her parents. And, you may too since you punched her in reponse to her aggression.

Oh, snap! She's gotcha rolls, she's gotcha.

Ali9381 · December 2009

pixy_stix · December 2009

I would have punched that biotch in the head while she was sitting on the couch. No warning, just walked up and.... uh...

::looks around::

::whistles and walks away::

CinnamonBun · December 2009

While violence never solves anything - if someone is choking me, I think I am going to defend myself. So if that means I punch them, so be it. Besides, how do you yell for help when you are being choked????

SarahBukisi · December 2009

well, yeah, i would punch too. if someone is choking you its kind of hard to call for help.

but as soon as she left me alone i would call the cops and file charges.

and sounds like you all need therapy...

who strangles their prgt sister? and then what kind of family support is going on. i would never let your sister watch your kid either.

mrs.g_6708 · December 2009

a.) Indifferent

b.) you need to stay away from your sister.

shipoopiisforme · December 2009

maybe you need a bouncer for future family get togethers.

mrs_sisco · December 2009

Oh how mature of both of you...she is 25 and you are the older sister...? This sounds like how two 5 years old would fight it out. Indifferent

mystikaljess · December 2009

I agree, if someone is choking me, I'm going to defend myself.

wingedbride · December 2009

I think the best defense is a good offense. And was the smarter choice in this situation.

The OP said that her sister is known to be a problem, has choked her before and is aggressive. So, is this a person whose face you are going to get into?

I agree the sister is out of control, but starting a confrontation with someone you know is aggressive and chokes is just stupid.

soko987 · December 2009

The Housewife:

kandjrolls2:

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Oh, your not white, so you can't be trash..

So lets say 3 years down the road, you are pregnant again with a toddler that is throwing a tantrum and hitting/kicking are you also going to resort to violence to solve that problem?

Regradless if your sister has problems, you are an adult and adults use their words.

Kind of hard to use your words when you're being choked out. Just sayin'.

jkmcnamara · December 2009

kandjrolls2:
Alison5437:
LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me
1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.
2. I am not white.
But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Well, congratulations! You're just regular trash!

jrolls79 · December 2009

You know what, I wish I would have called the cops. That would have been very smart. I didn't call for help because I couldn't speak being as I was being choked by my six one sister. I was trying to tell this story with a funny angle but there was nothing funny about it. As I said in my OP I have never been in a fight in my life. Up to a few years ago, I have been a very passive doormat until I did go to therapy to deal with my 'issues'. I guess I got all the passiveness from my parents fighting and my sis got all the aggressiveness. However, when it comes to my family ( my hub and baby) I will not ever let anyone attack them verbally or physically. I only hit my sister to keep her from her hurting me or the baby. I didn't go looking for the fight. But I do agree with all you of you that said I should have called the cops. I should have. That would have been the very logical thing to do.

Shayna0182 · December 2009

I think I would have pushed her back from me, then grabbed my hubby and left. Seriously, I would have just told my parents that you can't stay there with her. Why did you punch her? I get that it was probably instinct, but what if she would have punched you in the stomach or something? You should definitely not let her be in the same room as your baby without you or your husband, and I would be damned to let her hold the baby. Not if she acts all mental like that.

jrolls79 · December 2009

Oh, I am very sorry if I offended anyone by clarifying my race. I just thought it was funny that's all. Didn't mean anything by it, DH and I were having a laugh about it. Sorry.

wingedbride · December 2009

kandjrolls2:
You know what, I wish I would have called the cops. That would have been very smart. I didn't call for help because I couldn't speak being as I was being choked by my six one sister. I was trying to tell this story with a funny angle but there was nothing funny about it. As I said in my OP I have never been in a fight in my life. Up to a few years ago, I have been a very passive doormat until I did go to therapy to deal with my 'issues'. I guess I got all the passiveness from my parents fighting and my sis got all the aggressiveness. However, when it comes to my family ( my hub and baby) I will not ever let anyone attack them verbally or physically. I only hit my sister to keep her from her hurting me or the baby. I didn't go looking for the fight. But I do agree with all you of you that said I should have called the cops. I should have. That would have been the very logical thing to do.

And seriously consider not being around her or not confronting her in an angry manner. Thankfully this did not escalate and you did not get hurt, but surely you can see how that could potentially happen? Why risk the confrontation.

astitt04 · December 2009

I would have punched her too! Its not childish when your defending yourself (and unborn child). Are you supposed to just stand there and let her choke you, i think NOT! jeesh

pixy_stix · December 2009

kandjrolls2:
Oh, I am very sorry if I offended anyone by clarifying my race. I just thought it was funny that's all. Didn't mean anything by it, DH and I were having a laugh about it. Sorry.

I was actually sympathetic to you until this. Funny? No.

618mom22boys · December 2009

Where was your DH or mom when this was going on??

jrolls79 · December 2009

pixy_stix:
kandjrolls2:
Oh, I am very sorry if I offended anyone by clarifying my race. I just thought it was funny that's all. Didn't mean anything by it, DH and I were having a laugh about it. Sorry.

I was actually sympathetic to you until this. Funny? No.

I meant funny that people were calling a half black half cuban girl white. That's all. Not prejudiced. Married to a white boy.

The Housewife · December 2009

soko987:
The Housewife:

kandjrolls2:

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.

Oh, your not white, so you can't be trash..

So lets say 3 years down the road, you are pregnant again with a toddler that is throwing a tantrum and hitting/kicking are you also going to resort to violence to solve that problem?

Regradless if your sister has problems, you are an adult and adults use their words.

Kind of hard to use your words when you're being choked out. Just sayin'.

I find it hard to believe that it went from nicely asking her sister to stop the rude remarks to the sister choking her without some other sort of yelling, name calling, rude remark, ect. If she would have handled the situation correctly to start with, knowing her sister is a bit off her rocker I highly doubt the physical fight would have happened.

jrolls79 · December 2009

618mom22boys:
Where was your DH or mom when this was going on??

Other side of the house with the tv blaring. Not sure if anyone could have heard me if I was able to speak anyway.

Miss.Modular · December 2009

and you don't think you have an undiagnosed mental problem too? and lol at "This is the first time in my life I have ever hit someone with a closed fist."

i am assuming this means you have hit people with an open fist before? this is so trashy , i love it!!

stepgirl21 · December 2009

Oh my....

LnR70707 · December 2009

I'm going to butt in here and suggest that anyone who replied they would have punched the sister too, sign up for a self defense class (obviously you'd have to wait until after the pregnancy). There are some very simple, very effective moves that require a lot less effort (raise your arm and twist away) than punching to break a choke hold. Every woman should learn these.

KatieM1106 · December 2009

L&R70707:
I'm going to butt in here and suggest that anyone who replied they would have punched the sister too, sign up for a self defense class (obviously you'd have to wait until after the pregnancy). There are some very simple, very effective moves that require a lot less effort (raise your arm and twist away) than punching to break a choke hold. Every woman should learn these.

I agree! But I also believe that in the moment the OP was doing her best to protect her baby. AND I hope that she will file a police report:

1) for herself, so she can get a restraining order if needed, and to have the incident in writing in case anything else ever comes up

2) as a responsible citizen; if this woman would hurt her own sister, I would be very concerned about what she may do to others.

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