So I Punched My Sister Twice in the Head...

The Housewife

KatieM1106:

L&R70707:

I'm going to butt in here and suggest that anyone who replied they would have punched the sister too, sign up for a self defense class (obviously you'd have to wait until after the pregnancy).  There are some very simple, very effective moves that require a lot less effort (raise your arm and twist away) than punching to break a choke hold.  Every woman should learn these.

I agree! But I also believe that in the moment the OP was doing her best to protect her baby. AND I hope that she will file a police report:

1) for herself, so she can get a restraining order if needed, and to have the incident in writing in case anything else ever comes up

2) as a responsible citizen; if this woman would hurt her own sister, I would be very concerned about what she may do to others. 

But if she gets a restraining order we will never get to hear the story of how the sister body slams someone at the baby shower.

AliciaCM

kandjrolls2:

Alison5437:

LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would NEVER get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

sorry kinda pushs the white trash envelope for me

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.  

as opposed to the born fetus in ur ute (see post form a week ago about the ute abbreviation) or was this opposed to the unborn fetus in ur kidney?

LMAO, i am so glad we had some drama tonite, i was getting bored, lol...

i will say that i would have used physical force to get her off me too.... maybe not a closed fist punch but w/e

I also like the "I have never hit someone with a closed fist before" comment... As opposed to an open hand, and in that case I slap people around all day... lmao again!!!!

jrolls79

KatieM1106:

L&R70707:

I'm going to butt in here and suggest that anyone who replied they would have punched the sister too, sign up for a self defense class (obviously you'd have to wait until after the pregnancy).  There are some very simple, very effective moves that require a lot less effort (raise your arm and twist away) than punching to break a choke hold.  Every woman should learn these.

I agree! But I also believe that in the moment the OP was doing her best to protect her baby. AND I hope that she will file a police report:

1) for herself, so she can get a restraining order if needed, and to have the incident in writing in case anything else ever comes up

2) as a responsible citizen; if this woman would hurt her own sister, I would be very concerned about what she may do to others. 

I think you two have the best advice of the night. I do need to take a self defense class.  I travel a lot for my job and do need to know how to protect myself. I really should have called the cops. I guess, I was thinking there is no way to prove she was choking me with both hands. I am pretty dark skinned so I didn't have like red marks on my neck but it was sore. My sis had the cops called on her earlier this year when she got into a disagreement with her hair stylist. But my mom, the lawyer, got the charges dropped. I think it's time my family stops rescuing her before she gets herself in very serious trouble. Thank ladies for the advice. I will do both.

skaplan000

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

alovelylady

Ok, so I heard about this post over at the 6-12 board, and after reading everone's response, I must stick my foot in the door.

 I was raised in a very tight knit family. Parents never fought, etc. I always got along with my sister and my parents.

 I would have knocked the hell out of my sister if she put her hands on me like that, especially if I was PG. It may be where I am from, but if someone puts their hands on you, you defend yourself, physically. And if not, your a ***.  So, you may call me white trash, but I call you a ***!

alovelylady

skaplan000:

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

OMG! LMAO!

alovelylady

alovelylady:

Ok, so I heard about this post over at the 6-12 board, and after reading everone's response, I must stick my foot in the door.

 I was raised in a very tight knit family. Parents never fought, etc. I always got along with my sister and my parents.

 I would have knocked the hell out of my sister if she put her hands on me like that, especially if I was PG. It may be where I am from, but if someone puts their hands on you, you defend yourself, physically. And if not, your a ***.  So, you may call me white trash, but I call you a ***!

whoops! Didnt realize you couldnt say that word!

HayleyandMark

CinnamonBun:

While violence never solves anything - if someone is choking me, I think I am going to defend myself. So if that means I punch them, so be it. Besides, how do you yell for help when you are being choked????

I agree! I'm not the type to start a fight but if my sister where CHOKING me I would definitely defend myself. What are you supposed to do wait until you wake up from passing out to call for help? It's not like the sister was a teenager or something. She too was an adult. I'm not letting another adult put their hands on me without coming to my own defense.

madameprimm

This is probably the best thread I've read this evening/early morning. I'm sorry but anyone who thinks that self defense in any form (punches, self defense techniques, etc) is wrong is either an idiot or naive. You can't possibly think it's smart to just let someone choke you, pregnant or not just because you don't want to resort to violence.

Oh and major fvucking LOL at the person who called her white trash. I mean her avatar makes it pretty obvious that she's not white. AtD people, AtD.

HisWifey82

pixy_stix:

I would have punched that biotch in the head while she was sitting on the couch.  No warning, just walked up and.... uh...

::looks around::

::whistles and walks away::

 

LMFAO...hilarious.

I am sorry that you have to deal with this kind of violence while pregnant. That is completely inappropriate. Non-pregnant I definitely would've beat your sister down if I were in your situation. However, being that your pregnant and you risked harming your fetus by fighting her back. The better option would've been to called 911 and filed assault charges! But then again, I understand that you had to do what you had to do in order to get out of her choke hold.

Your sister seems like a disrespectful biotch and you should've put her in her place a long time ago. I am glad you finally stood up for yourself.

I wouldn't say your trash because of this incident but you guys definitely have some issues you need to work through! Your sister should never put her hands on your, pregnany or not, that just wrong!

Keep your head up girl and stay away from the psycho!!!!!

Ivana_Stolichnaya

You should have aimed for the throat.

Anniekins214

You ladies can couldda/wouldda/shouldda the situation until the cows come home, but let's be honest; when you're scared, you react. ?You don't always stop and think, "What would be a good choice right now?" ?

I agree that the OP should not have gotten in her sister's face, and the situation should not have escalated like it did. ?However, I can't say I would do differently if I were being choked.

babya2010

I have nothing to say but...wow.

me92603

WT

acppa

SarahBukisi:

well, yeah, i would punch too. if someone is choking you its kind of hard to call for help.

but as soon as she left me alone i would call the cops and file charges.

and sounds like you all need therapy...

who strangles their prgt sister? and then what kind of family support is going on. i would never let your sister watch your kid either. 

This. 

GenRN45

kandjrolls2:

I got in her face and told her I was not joking and she better cut it out. Then, that biitch grabbed me by the neck and squeezed.

If you knew your sister is unstable, and you know she has a violent history, then self defense classes won't help anything, until you learn to not get in her face.

hitting her shouldn't be the issue here. The issue should be that you admit you got in her face.

You should have ignored her immature comments and walked away before your actions caused the situation to escalate. YOu admit she's unstable. Getting in her face, as you say, was stupid.

AppleMomma

LCB34:

This is not something that I would share with the public.......

Then again, I would get in a fist fight ever, much less when pregnant.

ETA: I meant to say I would NEVER get in a fist fight, much less when pregnant.

THIS!!! Hello?

Your sister needs help... 

lpennie16

lol

overshare

MegGary

Anniekins214:

You ladies can couldda/wouldda/shouldda the situation until the cows come home, but let's be honest; when you're scared, you react.  You don't always stop and think, "What would be a good choice right now?"  

I agree that the OP should not have gotten in her sister's face, and the situation should not have escalated like it did.  However, I can't say I would do differently if I were being choked.

This. I have no clue what I would of done. Especially if I was pregnant at the time. As mothers & mothers to be you'd be surprised what you'd do to protect your child.

Echowysp

The Housewife:

kandjrolls2:

1. I was not in a fist fight. I was defending the unborn fetus in my ute.

2. I am not white.

But I do realize this story has a sort of Jerry Springer vibe to it. I actually come from a very good family. I think my sister might have problems.  

Oh, your not white, so you can't be trash..

 

Um, comprehension isn't your strong suit, is it?  She pointed out she isn't white in response to being called WHITE trash.  Get it now?

GBCK

KelandJohnW:

Screw everyone else, i would've done the same thing, if someone is choking me Im gonna defend myself back, put yourself in her situation.

If someone was choking me, sure.

 

here's where I get stuck though...this was 'normal' for sissy.

Knowing that your sister is PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE, why the Fluck do you go places where she is?

This is a time for the 'cut direct'.

 

Look, I have some very jackedup family.  I don't have relationships with them.  Because my mom, for all the crazycakes she ate, insisted on breaking the cycle of abuse.  She cut off abusive people--including parents and siblings.  She set boundries.  We didn't see them on holidays because the illusion of 'fmaily togetherness' is NOT worth it.

 

So...you know sissy is like this...do NOT go places where she is.  problem solved w/o fistfights. 

MattysGirl81

Jerry Springer anyone?

Wow.  Your family sounds klassy. 

*KC*luvs*RJ*

CinnamonBun:

While violence never solves anything - if someone is choking me, I think I am going to defend myself. So if that means I punch them, so be it. Besides, how do you yell for help when you are being choked????

You can't call for help if you're being choked.  Your airways are blocked.  In her situation, punching her sister may have been her only option.  There may have been no one close by, we don't know where the bathroom was in relation to where her DH was, so she may have had no other option to help herself than to punch her sister. 

If her sister had slapped her or punched her in the face and she had resorted to punching her sister in the head, well then I'd give her the side eye.  However, you have to think about what was going on and realize that there may have been no other way.

I certainly don't condone violence, but I think it's unfair to call her trash when she was corned in the bathroom and being choked.  Would you rather she had done nothing and be dead?