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2nd Trimester
How often will your LO see his/her grandparents?
Do you live in the same town as your parents/ILs? Will your LO only see grandparents at holidays? How important is it for you for your LO to have a close relationship with grandparents?
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Re: How often will your LO see his/her grandparents?
is it bad that my first reaction is "probably more than their Mommy will want them to!!"
DH's parents live about 3 minutes away, and I can see it now - the constant visits, the constant "you need to come every sunday for dinner" etc. MIL has this issue with us needing some personal space.
My Mom lives about 40 minutes away, so maybe once a week?
You can be close to grandparents and not see them all the time. I was VERY close to mine and they lived far away.
We do not live near either set. They will see her several times a year, though.
We live in the same town as DHs parents and my parents only live 15 mins away. So...I have a feeling we will be seeing them A LOT. To the point that I will probably have to limit it just so DH and I can spend time alone with our daughter. (You know, like a normal family! lol)
And it is very important to us that our kids have a great relationship with grandparents.
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It is very important to us. My parents live 25-30 minutes away depending on traffic. His parents live 30-35 minutes away depending on traffic. They will see them as often as possible. I am pretty sure our parents will be over all the time and we will be down there all the time.
I was very close to my grandparents and without a doubt, I want the twins to be like that with my parents. They are going to spoil them rotten.
As for my bio parents, they will see them as often as we can manage. They live in Russia so that will be slightly mroe difficult. Hopefully, they will come down as often as possible and we will go there when we can.
Very important that my kids are tight with the g-parents. My folks are about 4.5 hours away by car. DH's folks are about 12 hours away by car (2 by plane).
DD currently sees my parents at least once a month for an entire weekend (Thursday - Sunday). DD sees my husband's parents about once every 2/3 months.
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I'm sure what we'll end up doing is seeing them once a week (like visiting every Sunday or something). This is how it was with me and my grandparents growing up. Still, I cherish my alone time with DH and I'm sure I'll cherish alone time with my DH & LO, so knowing we'll only have one day a week where we'll all be home together is a little depressing.
My parents live across the country so they'll probably see LO only a couple times a year. I'm going to try to set up some kind of video chat, though, so that they can watch LO grow and still have a relationship with him!
Every weekday for my parents. My mom will watch her while I'm at work.
Unfortunately, dave's family is far away so we'll only see them twice a year at most.
My mom has a home daycare and will be our day care provider so she and my dad will see LO at least Mon-Fri and probably at least every other Sunday (thats when my brother, SIL and nephews visit).
MIL and SFIL will probably see LO once a week or once every couple of weeks.
FIL I have no idea. He's in the Army and is overseas right now and is based in NY when he's in the states.
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DS is with my mom M-W and also on F.
He is with my MIL on Th.
This baby will see our parents just as often
Wer also see them on most weekends as well due to parties, family functions, etc. My parents are 20 mins away and my in-laws are 15 mins away. And they live about 10 mins from each other.
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DH's parents live right behind us, a quick 2-3 min walk! (We live on 1.5 acres, have 2 acres of trees between the houses and his parents are on 2 acres) So, they will see LO often!
Its nice to have them so close!
My parents live 3.5 hours away and will likely not see quite as often due to the distance. I will try and make an effort to get up there as much as possible, but that drive is not fun!
MIL and SFIL live in a nearby town (20 minutes), so at minimum, the baby will probably see them once a month. We're actually hoping that MIL will be able to watch baby once a week, so that will up that significantly.
FIL and SMIL live in FL and we only see them when then come to town really, which is about two or three times a year. I won't be able to go down there for a visit for a while since I'll have no benefit time left when I go back to work. Oh well! They made the choice to move down there when all of their kids and grandkids live here.
My mom lives out of state (about 10.5 hour drive) but I think she'll probably come visit more than she does now. We also flip flop holidays, so we always see each other for TG and x-mas. However, it will likely still only be a max of 5 times a year unless she decides to move out this way. The plan is that eventually when baby is old enough, we will start sending him to grandma's for a month in the summer.
I feel you pain with the ILs!!
We currently live 2 hours from my parents and 4 hours from my husband's mother and aunt (who live together). After the baby is born, we are going to try to move back to my hometown, so hopefully we will be in the same town as my parents, and then 2 hours from the IL (that is a good enough buffer). We are trying to move to be closer to family.
DH's mom and aunt have already told us 3 times that DH's mom wants to be involved in the baby's live...well, no kidding! Then get in your car and come visit!
Both sets of grandparents are in Ohio and we're in Colorado. So far, we've made it home 1-2 times a year and will probably continue to do so -- although I really am NOT looking forward to traveling with two kids.
My parents are willing to travel to us, so DD sees them more frequently than DH's parents -- every few months, and right now she saw them for Thanksgiving and they're coming back later this week to celebrate Christmas.
We also have a webcam that we use to chat with both sets of grandparents and some aunts/uncles.
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Haha. My first reaction too is "too much!" We live in Idaho, and it so happens that my parents, his mom, both of my brothers, their wives and children, my aunt and uncle, my grandpa and his wife, his sister, his dad and stepmom, and his grandma all live in town with us, and to drive across town it takes 20 minutes tops. My grandmother and other gma and gpa all live out of state, but plan on being here when she gets here - and we usually make trips to oklahoma/california once a year or every other year to see them, so that's all she'll see them.
My mother has already told her boss she's taking half days to babysit when I go back to work - so my parents get to see her every day. DH's mom and sister both want to watch her, but neither really have time, but we usually see them every weekend.
My parents are about 3.5 hrs away, IL's are about 11 hrs away. I am hoping that we will see them all at least 3-4 times a year.
However, we will likely be moving, and that will probably mean that they will all be much further away, so we will try to see anyone as much as possible, and when the LO gets older, they will probably visit each set of g'parents for a week in the summer. This is all speculation though, we will see how it actually works out.
Our baby will see his grandmothers as often as is possible. They both live in different states than we do. We visit my family more often because we can drive there. MIL flies down once a year right now though she's planning on retiring soon so she may visit more often. We will also try to fly up there to visit a few times- it's a great vacation state and we love it there, just really expensive to get there!