Do your DHs hear the baby cry at night?

Telyco · December 2009

Sometimes my DH wakes after a while (if I think Evan is going to fall back to sleep on his own and I'm letting him CIO for a bit) but other times...like tonight, he sleeps right through it. I gave Evan a few minutes but could tell he wasn't going back to sleep without help.

So I got some motrin (he's working on all 4 upper teeth right now) went in and rocked him for quite a while. When I came out I just heard snoring from DH : )

Part of me is glad - I want him to get a good night's sleep...he works really hard and then comes home and helps me a ton and does a lot of the housework because I'm so useless right now. BUT - it makes me nervous that I am the only one that hears our baby (soon to be babies) wake at night.

MelissaSue81 · December 2009

You know... one night I gave DH a ton of crap cuz I got up with the baby and he didn't hear her cry or whatever.. But I think it was THE very next night, he had gotten up with her and was up for awhile and I totally slept through it.. And more recently, he said something to me like "I got up with her at 4".. and I had no idea he was up at 4, but I was up with her at 5 and he had no idea THAT had happened.. So i realized I am not perfect there either.. Which does kind of worry me, but if she was REALLY crying for a long time, one of us would hear her I'm sure..

Stellabella125 · December 2009

i have asked my DH the same question. He can be quite the heavy sleeper. He just says that he relaxes when I'm there so he might not wake up as suddenly as if he would if i was working at night and not at home. lately though he has been better about hearing them. Bella and Joe both have a good set of lungs on them.

wendyj · December 2009

There are times when it goes both ways. There are nights when he sleeps soundly, and I hear every breath Ian makes. Other nights, I'll have no clue he got up for Ian and I won't even know it until he tells me the next morning.

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt · December 2009

DH never hears him cry at night. He sleeps like a log! I was so worried to leave for NY at 4am b/c I figured the baby would have to be yelling at the top of his lungs to wake DH up.

JenJar · December 2009

Honestly, there have been many times that DH hears him before me. But, if he works the next day, it's usually those night that he then turns to me and says, "Jen....he's crying." Yeah....thanks, babe.

NikCole · December 2009

He will hear him cry, but can roll over and fall right back asleep since he knows I will get up. Some nights he will get up and help, if Evan won't go back to sleep or something. Most mornings DH will ask me "was Evan up during the night?" and I can't believe that he doesn't hear him!

I am planning on going to visit my best friend in NC in the spring, and I told DH I was nervous he wouldn't wake up if Evan did. He assured me that he would, he just blocks it out when he knows I'm there. Plus the monitor is on my side of the bed on a low volume (since I'm a light sleeper) He said as long as the monitor is on his side and turned up a little he will wake up.

battybtags · December 2009

I would say most times DH is oblivious-you could set a bomb off next to him and he'd sleep through it! It depends how long and hard she cries though-but I always hear her first-I'm a very light sleeper. One day last week he stayed home from work and I had to work-he claimed the baby let him sleep until 930! She NEVER wakes up later than 815 so I know she was babbling to herself for an hour before he heard her! So from now on the monitor comes in our room when hes off for the day-even though theres only one wall separating our room and hers!

kac0807 · December 2009

So funny that you just posted this because I was just talking about this! DH doesn't hear her all the time! Sometimes he does, but usually I have to wake him up to tell him! So frustrating sometimes, because I am the one getting up and going to work!

mrsoc · December 2009

I definitely hear him sooner and more often than DH...but he is a much sounder sleeper. He also can fall back asleep way quicker after waking up. It takes me some time usually...even when I am exhausted.