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DH really upset that he can't feel LO kick

Cyndi79Cyndi79 member
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My husband keeps trying to feel our daughter kick, but every time she does, he says he can't feel her.  He's really bummed about it, and I wish he could feel her.  Anyone else at 23 weeks, and can't feel kicking outside yet??  
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  • Pamela_BPamela_B member
    I can't and it is frustrating because DH wants to feel it already.
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  • MhildMhild
    I'm at 21 weeks and still can't feel inside kicking yet! Crying Darn anterior placenta!
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  • bonnin507bonnin507
    I can't feel LO from the outside yet either (just a few days behind you).  I know my DH gets frustrated sometimes too.  I know he wants in on the action.  Hopefully by Christmas LO will give daddy that gift.
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  • NeverKnewNeverKnew member

    Feeling baby kick at this point is really tricky, because it's not so much that you can't feel the baby from the outside, it's that your DH has to be right there and able and willing to get his hand on your belly in time to feel before movement stops.

    Our son is a tease, so DH really only felt him once at 18 weeks.  Then maybe once again at 24 weeks or so.  THEN the baby got bigger, space became crowded, and almost every movement I feel on the inside, he can feel from the outside.

    So, what I guess I'm saying is, try to encourage DH.  It won't be long before he'll be able to feel her!  She is going to get much, much stronger very soon!

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  • Baby_Bunny_HopefulBaby_Bunny_Hopeful member
    DH just felt him kick a week ago... I was 23w3d... I've felt LO kick since 18w1d
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  • gingerfamilygingerfamily member

    I just started feeling it from out outside 1-1.5 weeks ago.  I've tried to get H to feel it but every time he tries she's done moving. 

    It'll happen.

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member

    imagePamela B.:
    I can't and it is frustrating because DH wants to feel it already.

    Yea, same here...he thought he felt one a few weeks ago, but now he's doubting it because she's bigger with harder kicks now and he can't feel them at all.  He just looked to sad last night... :( 

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member

    imageMhild:
    I'm at 21 weeks and still can't feel inside kicking yet! Crying Darn anterior placenta!

    I feel them most while sitting at my computer desk for long periods, but besides that, I can't feel them much.  I bet soon enough, we'll be on the 3rd tri complaining about how painful the kicks are!!  :) 

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member

    imagebonnin507:
    I can't feel LO from the outside yet either (just a few days behind you).  I know my DH gets frustrated sometimes too.  I know he wants in on the action.  Hopefully by Christmas LO will give daddy that gift.

    I hope that for the both of us!  I told my husband that come April she'll be kicking his a$$ all the time!  :) 

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member
    imageNeverKnew:

    Feeling baby kick at this point is really tricky, because it's not so much that you can't feel the baby from the outside, it's that your DH has to be right there and able and willing to get his hand on your belly in time to feel before movement stops.

    Our son is a tease, so DH really only felt him once at 18 weeks.  Then maybe once again at 24 weeks or so.  THEN the baby got bigger, space became crowded, and almost every movement I feel on the inside, he can feel from the outside.

    So, what I guess I'm saying is, try to encourage DH.  It won't be long before he'll be able to feel her!  She is going to get much, much stronger very soon!

    My husband has been keeping his hand on my belly while we're watching TV, and she's kicking while his hand is there, he just can't feel it yet.  :(

    Thanks for your words, it's nice to get info from a 3rd tri momma!  I'll keep encouraging him to try, and hopefully he'll get kicked soon.  :) 

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member

    imageBaby_Bunny_Hopeful:
    DH just felt him kick a week ago... I was 23w3d... I've felt LO kick since 18w1d

    I've been feeling her since about the same time.  DH thought he felt her, but he's doubting it now since she's much stronger & he can't feel it when I tell him she's kicking.  :(  I'll be 23 weeks tomorrow, so hopefully within the next week or 2 he'll feel her.  Thanks!   

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  • Cyndi79Cyndi79 member
    imagemrsh0606:

    I just started feeling it from out outside 1-1.5 weeks ago.  I've tried to get H to feel it but every time he tries she's done moving. 

    It'll happen.

    That makes me feel better.  I keep reading posts about husbands feeling kicks much earlier, so I was a bit worried.  I'm going to encourage him to keep trying...I just get so sad to see his disappointment.  Hopefully it will happen within a week or 2.  I hope your husband feels your daughter soon too! 

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