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inbetweendreams · December 2009

I have my annual appointment next week, and I'm going to ask about their view on VBACs. Part of me hopes they either don't do them or they tell me I'm not a good candidate. I'm afraid of going through another 24 hours of labor and ending up with a c-section anyway. I'd almost rather just cut to the chase. At least I know what to expect with a c-section.

My 41 weeks of pregnancy were absolutely perfect. I felt great the entire time, didn't gain much weight and just loved every single minute of it. DH and I always said we wanted two kids, but I feel like a second pregnancy will be payback for how great the first one was. People just don't get off that easily.

RobynandJason05/06 · December 2009

Pattypoundcake:
RobynandJason05/06:

EuroChick:
This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL. I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person. I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff. Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out. My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday. It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out. Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

yeah I agree with you. We had to terminate medically in the 2nd tri after going thru IVF before Justin and we were completely devastated. My sister was pregnant 7 weeks ahead of us. It was an unbareable pain for my DH and I BUT... on the flip side. Life does go on. Pregnancies happen and so do births. My DH and I realized so much during this loss and we had a phennomenal marriage, my older son was healthy and happy we had great family and friends. We worked thru our loss and if we didnt Justin our miracle baby wouldnt be here. To me I cannot possibly dwell on what could have been or should have been life goes on.

My aunt had to do the same after ART. Turned out the baby had anencephaly. It was a double whammy...awful. I am sorry you went through that.

OMG how awful. Our baby had no kidneys and i had no amniotic fluid. We were given 0 chance survival rate.

Mrs.tlcS · December 2009

redstars93:
Ciconrad:
disbride061103:

I've made my feelings well known on the whole TTCAL/1st tri debacle. The ladies on the loss board (who are also some of the same ladies on TTCAL), treated me like crap when I had my m/c. As far as the whole inviting people to showers/parties, I would never want someone to fret over whether to invite me to something. Do I get sad when I see people who are due around the same time as me? Sure, but there isn't anything I can do about that.

Wow - I am really sorry you had that experience. Pg Loss and TTCAL were so hopeful after I had my m/c (of course that was over 2 years ago). I met a few really great women who m/c'd around the same time as me and we really bonded. I am on Parenting After a Loss a good bit, I have picked up that the PgLoss and TTCAL boards are not as supportive as they used to be. That is so sad to me.

Yeah, that board has turned. There are still some great ladies over there but there is a major clique that jumps on a lot of new people.

I'm pretty sure I'm KU (testing early on Sunday) and will not post a BFP there because they'll probably call me a "goat" even though I'm there a lot.

A goat? ??

mustangsallie · December 2009

I bought a sweater to wear for our Christmas pictures and left the tag on and returned it after the pics were taken.

I will give DD a toy or something to play with while we are the grocery store and when she gets distracted I take it away and shove it on a random shelf so that I dont have to buy it.

I am really really overweight and I am totally going to ask my Dr for a pill at my next visit.

IckyThump · December 2009

mustangsallie:

I bought a sweater to wear for our Christmas pictures and left the tag on and returned it after the pics were taken.

I will give DD a toy or something to play with while we are the grocery store and when she gets distracted I take it away and shove it on a random shelf so that I dont have to buy it.

I am really really overweight and I am totally going to ask my Dr for a pill at my next visit.

lol, I've done this. I feel bad because I worked in retail in college and know what a PITA it is to reshop things, but if it keeps DS quiet so I can get some errands done, it's worth it to me.

redstars93 · December 2009

Mrs.tlcS:

A goat? ??

It's what they call people (that they don't know) that post a BFP. Sometimes the BFP is a drive by (which is rude) but sometimes it's a newer member and the newer people will know the girl posting. So the older crowd starts getting snarky on her while the newer crowd is sincerely congratulating her.

LilMissLadybug · December 2009

Ciconrad:
My SIL (DH's sister) works full time and does 90% of the childcare responsibilities for their 2 yo. Her fiance is "working on his PhD", which is why my SIL has to take a 2 yo to work with her from 10-4 everyday. They can't afford daycare on her salary alone but fiance has to "concentrate on his research" all day and their daughter doesn't allow him to do that. Luckily she works for the family business and my niece is an angel. She has crib there in an unused office and she naps in the office from 1-4.

Her fiance's is obsessed with video games. Plays them all night long while SIL does all the child and house responsibilities. They had to get a bigger apartment with 3 bedrooms recently because SIL couldn't take all his video game equipment in their living room and their kid was tripping over everything. So yea, extra rent for a video game room. So we get their christmas lists yesterday and the fiance has on his "Target gift cards - all their video game stuff is on sale right after Christmas". Seriously? You are 32 and that's your entire list. YOU ARE LAME.

The situation annoys me and it shouldn't, it's not my life. I just want to ask them if they don't see the ridiculousness in my SIL taking her kid to work while he "researches" (I suspect some serious gaming) and then he spends all night playing video games. Maybe you could do some research at night so the kid doesn't have to sit in an office all day??? I also think my SIL needs to get a backbone. Ughhh...

ick. I do not understand that. I have a couple family members that are like that. Cannot stand it.

JessMil10 · December 2009

redstars93:
Mrs.tlcS:

A goat? ??

It's what they call people (that they don't know) that post a BFP. Sometimes the BFP is a drive by (which is rude) but sometimes it's a newer member and the newer people will know the girl posting. So the older crowd starts getting snarky on her while the newer crowd is sincerely congratulating her.

I find it odd that they snark people who get BFP when it is TRYING TO CONCEIVE after a loss.

punkfiction_v.3 · December 2009

aidan has a tv in her room. like a nice tv. its mounted on the wall so she can't turn it back on, but she watches 15-30mins of a movie at night to cool down. no cable, just dvds and without it, i always wonder if we'd have bedtime problems like people complain about. but with it - we just say "time for bed!" and thats it. when she was in her crib, she'd talk for a bit the movie turned off, but now in her bed, she goes to sleep before its even over. its a dream. and i dont feel guilty about it whatsoever. she can't watch whatever she wants to, she cant watch it all night. its not one bit different than those who say "well my kid sits with us in bed/sits in the family room/etc and watches tv before bed". my kid just doesn't chill out for bed with everyone around.

TMs1stBaby · December 2009

redstars93:

I'm officially worried that DS does not walk on his own (i.e. without holding onto me or the furniture).

I called the pedi this morning.

DS1 didn't walk independently until aroud 16-17 months. FWIW - DS now doesn't walk at all ever - he is 100% exclusively running - I call him my little Forrest Gump. "From then on if I was going somewhere - I was run-ning"

LilMissLadybug · December 2009

punkfiction_v.3:
aidan has a tv in her room. like a nice tv. its mounted on the wall so she can't turn it back on, but she watches 15-30mins of a movie at night to cool down. no cable, just dvds and without it, i always wonder if we'd have bedtime problems like people complain about. but with it - we just say "time for bed!" and thats it. when she was in her crib, she'd talk for a bit the movie turned off, but now in her bed, she goes to sleep before its even over. its a dream. and i dont feel guilty about it whatsoever. she can't watch whatever she wants to, she cant watch it all night. its not one bit different than those who say "well my kid sits with us in bed/sits in the family room/etc and watches tv before bed". my kid just doesn't chill out for bed with everyone around.

Emilee would have one if we have room for it. Instead I let DD cuddle up in our bed and watch 30mins of Sprout before she has to go to bed.

mattnlinz03 · December 2009

I know this is pretty bad on my part, but here goes.

I am really grossed out by DH. Since September I have been on a pretty strict diet for health reasons and can't eat the bad crap that we use to eat. Well, since then DH has been eating twice as much fast food and junk and has gained a ton of weight. I know it shouldn't matter, but he was so fit and toned when we first met and now it is just gross how he looks. I make comments and he just says that he doesn't care. I am worried that he is going to let himself go and turn into those people on the biggest loser.

I love my new super skinny body and I don't want to gain the weight back that I know I need to to be at a healthy weight. I lost it from health issues that I had no control over.

redstars93 · December 2009

TMs1stBaby:
redstars93:

I'm officially worried that DS does not walk on his own (i.e. without holding onto me or the furniture).

I called the pedi this morning.

DS1 didn't walk independently until aroud 16-17 months. FWIW - DS now doesn't walk at all ever - he is 100% exclusively running - I call him my little Forrest Gump. "From then on if I was going somewhere - I was run-ning"

LOL Love it.

brandonsfuturewife07 · December 2009

it has snowed twice in NM since we left our house, and i am terrified the pipes are going to freeze and something terrible is going to happen. i have not told DH what the weather is like down there because i don't want him to be any more stressed out than he already is.

lite-bright · December 2009

I don't really want to take DD to see "Santa" for photos. She's pretty wary of strangers, takes a little while to warm up to people and I can totally see it turning into a shriek-fest as soon as I hand her over.

I just don't feel like waiting in line and overpaying for pictures of my DD upset and crying on Santa's lap. DH wants to do it to start a tradition and b/c he thinks pics like that can be just as memorable. I'd rather wait until she's older and can be excited about Santa instead of scared.

mamamoos · December 2009

my DS is addicted to the TV. like, seriously addicted. i started letting him watch a lot when i was on ML bc i was constantly nursing DD and it was an easy way to keep him occupied. it got to the point where the TV was on all day, and at least 2 hours of that was DVR'd YGG.

now the first thing he does when he wakes up in the morning is grab the remote and bring it to me to turn on YGG. when i don't because we will be walking out the door to go to the sitter's (either ILs or my parents, depending on the day), he throws a fit. when he walks into the sitter's, he goes for the remote and brings it to them to turn on YGG (we all have episodes DVR'd for him). and when we get home at night, the first thing he runs for is the remote. it is ridiculous. and i'm not a stickler about TV watching by any means. this is just so excessive....

ManciniMom · December 2009

I feel really bad that I haven't taken care of myself during this pregnancy the way I did with DS. I still take my prenatals and try to watch what I eat but I'm definately not as on top of it as I was with him. Also, with him I wrote down everything - every feeling- every appointment etc. I have yet to write anything or take any belly pics with this one. I just feel like ds consumes most of my time and a part of me feels like I "owe" him all this attention before the baby comes and take most of my attention away. Of course I'm excited for this baby though.

I really can't seem to get a grip on the upkeep of my house and it's driving me insane. I feel like everytime I try to tackle a project another comes along and then I turn around and I have laundry, dusty furniture and things everywhere. I just want someone to come in ONE day and completely reorganize everything in my house for me.

I hate that this Christmas we are going to have to "go lean" but it's what we need to do to pay down bills.

Bride2bMO · December 2009

I agree about the whole TTCAL drama. We don't all experience grief the same way, but some people are adult enough to realize that their pain is NOT someone else's fault, least of all some random chick on first tri who doesn't love being pregnant. I don't love being pregnant.

One of my dearest friends had FOUR losses before having her son, who is 11 months old now. And to have him was an ordeal full of medication and daily shots.

And was she bitter? Not even a little. She's amazing. Two of the losses occur ed while I was pregnant with DS, and yet she was still supportive and sympathetic throughout the ordeal.

I have another friend who was born without a uterus. And oh, does she love babies. She is the first one to throw people baby showers and to just love all over their babies. A sweeter girl you will not find.

And look at Bunniesaresoft from BOTB. Back in the day, when she was onto cycle 17 or whatever, she was still full of grace and kindness. (so glad things worked out for her!!)

There are all sorts of victims of tragedy who don't become hateful people.

And I said it before, but I do not believe for one second that these ladies will abstain from making a single negative comment about their child, when God willing they have one, in it's lifetime. Venting does not equal undeserving or unappreciative.

femmeftle9 · December 2009

southernbelle82:

I'm sick of how overly sensitive people are these days. Every little thing offends people. When someone says something you don't like, they do NOT automatically owe you an apology. This is supposed to be a free country and a free country means you have the freedom of THOUGHT. 9 times out of 10, the person that's offended is overreacting and needs to suck it up and move on. No one is ever going to agree on everything. We shouldn't have to.

I get that sometimes words can be hurtful, but they're just words and ultimately, YOU are in control of how they affect you.

I mean seriously, I could say I hate the color pink and people would get pissed off and offended and think I'm horrible and owe people who love pink an apology. (For the record, I love the color pink, I'm just using it as an example)

People need a tougher skin and priorities in life.

ITA... I think "PC" has reached a new level of ridiculous.

KMLP · December 2009

redstars93:
JessMil10:

KMLP:
I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently. I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs. lol
LOL, I agree. I don't wear pants at all, just a t shirt.
And now you all know a little to much about me.
I love nightgowns! I started wearing them when I BFing because they had buttons down the front so I could just unbutton for night BFing and not remove my entire shirt.
And now I wear them because they are soooo comfy. And my DH likes them too

My DH likes them, too! hehe Easy access!

femmeftle9 · December 2009

redstars93:
JessMil10:

KMLP:
I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently. I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs. lol

LOL, I agree. I don't wear pants at all, just a t shirt.

And now you all know a little to much about me.

I love nightgowns! I started wearing them when I BFing because they had buttons down the front so I could just unbutton for night BFing and not remove my entire shirt.

And now I wear them because they are soooo comfy. And my DH likes them too

My DH just gets mad when I wear any clothes to bed!

Amrice78 · December 2009

KMLP:
redstars93:
JessMil10:

KMLP:
I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently. I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs. lol
LOL, I agree. I don't wear pants at all, just a t shirt.
And now you all know a little to much about me.
I love nightgowns! I started wearing them when I BFing because they had buttons down the front so I could just unbutton for night BFing and not remove my entire shirt.
And now I wear them because they are soooo comfy. And my DH likes them too
My DH likes them, too! hehe Easy access!

I'm the total opposite. I despise nightgowns or my legs being bare when I sleep. I don't like the feel of the skin of my thighs touching - yuck

mrsdiamonds · December 2009

mustangsallie:
I bought a sweater to wear for our Christmas pictures and left the tag on and returned it after the pics were taken.

I will give DD a toy or something to play with while we are the grocery store and when she gets distracted I take it away and shove it on a random shelf so that I dont have to buy it.

I am really really overweight and I am totally going to ask my Dr for a pill at my next visit.

Lol, I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this

katater · December 2009

Ciconrad:
My SIL (DH's sister) works full time and does 90% of the childcare responsibilities for their 2 yo. Her fiance is "working on his PhD", which is why my SIL has to take a 2 yo to work with her from 10-4 everyday. They can't afford daycare on her salary alone but fiance has to "concentrate on his research" all day and their daughter doesn't allow him to do that. Luckily she works for the family business and my niece is an angel. She has crib there in an unused office and she naps in the office from 1-4.
Her fiance's is obsessed with video games. Plays them all night long while SIL does all the child and house responsibilities. They had to get a bigger apartment with 3 bedrooms recently because SIL couldn't take all his video game equipment in their living room and their kid was tripping over everything. So yea, extra rent for a video game room. So we get their christmas lists yesterday and the fiance has on his "Target gift cards - all their video game stuff is on sale right after Christmas". Seriously? You are 32 and that's your entire list. YOU ARE LAME.
The situation annoys me and it shouldn't, it's not my life. I just want to ask them if they don't see the ridiculousness in my SIL taking her kid to work while he "researches" (I suspect some serious gaming) and then he spends all night playing video games. Maybe you could do some research at night so the kid doesn't have to sit in an office all day??? I also think my SIL needs to get a backbone. Ughhh...

Um, this is absurd. And should p!ss you off! DH and I *both* have PhDs, and both did stressful/intensive research to get there. But um, it is actually one of the more flexible arrangements *if* you are disciplined about your work. I finished my PhD while pregnant and with a newborn. So this should not be happening. He should step up. It gives the rest of us academics a bad name for being lazy/selfish/etc. Sorry, just hit close to home.

I never do this but here we go:

DH has an interview for an awesome job but I am really nervous about what would happen if he got it because it would likely require significant travel half the year. That stresses me out, but reasonably I know it is a really good thing for us if he gets it. Also, I got DH a wii and a wii fit for Xmas and I am hoping to buy games for him that i can play. And I'll avoid the Wii Fit b/c it doesn't have pregnancy setting.

Bride2bMO · December 2009

Now a dog-related confession. My dogs are annoying and disgusting and I am so tired of them. I woke up to discover diarrhea on the floor. I went to get the cleaning supplies and when I returned the huge steaming pile of poo was GONE and one of my dogs was licking his lips.

I am just not the type who can get rid of a pet, but I so wish that I was. They had their teeth cleaned yesterday and it was the happiest day I've had in months because I realized they were not here.

I have a litany of complaints against them - the diarrhea is the least of my problems (lest you think I'm heartless!).

JessMil10 · December 2009

I think it is weird when people post on 1st tri asking about how people told their DH's and such. I could not imagine DH NOT being the first person to know I am pregnant, even over a bunch of women on the internet. I understand wanting to do something cute or surprise him but this would not be the first place I ran!

star173 · December 2009

redstars93:
Ciconrad:
disbride061103:

I've made my feelings well known on the whole TTCAL/1st tri debacle. The ladies on the loss board (who are also some of the same ladies on TTCAL), treated me like crap when I had my m/c. As far as the whole inviting people to showers/parties, I would never want someone to fret over whether to invite me to something. Do I get sad when I see people who are due around the same time as me? Sure, but there isn't anything I can do about that.

Wow - I am really sorry you had that experience. Pg Loss and TTCAL were so hopeful after I had my m/c (of course that was over 2 years ago). I met a few really great women who m/c'd around the same time as me and we really bonded. I am on Parenting After a Loss a good bit, I have picked up that the PgLoss and TTCAL boards are not as supportive as they used to be. That is so sad to me.

Yeah, that board has turned. There are still some great ladies over there but there is a major clique that jumps on a lot of new people.

I'm pretty sure I'm KU (testing early on Sunday) and will not post a BFP there because they'll probably call me a "goat" even though I'm there a lot.

Oh, redstars! I sure hope you are! And what the hell is a "goat"?

LilMissLadybug · December 2009

JessMil10:
I think it is weird when people post on 1st tri asking about how people told their DH's and such. I could not imagine DH NOT being the first person to know I am pregnant, even over a bunch of women on the internet. I understand wanting to do something cute or surprise him but this would not be the first place I ran!

Same here. With DS I showed DH the test immediately after it said 'pregnant' .. With DD I called him crying because it wasn't planned and not a good time for us lol. Nothing special here!

*Bre* · December 2009

katater:
Ciconrad:
My SIL (DH's sister) works full time and does 90% of the childcare responsibilities for their 2 yo. Her fiance is "working on his PhD", which is why my SIL has to take a 2 yo to work with her from 10-4 everyday. They can't afford daycare on her salary alone but fiance has to "concentrate on his research" all day and their daughter doesn't allow him to do that. Luckily she works for the family business and my niece is an angel. She has crib there in an unused office and she naps in the office from 1-4.
Her fiance's is obsessed with video games. Plays them all night long while SIL does all the child and house responsibilities. They had to get a bigger apartment with 3 bedrooms recently because SIL couldn't take all his video game equipment in their living room and their kid was tripping over everything. So yea, extra rent for a video game room. So we get their christmas lists yesterday and the fiance has on his "Target gift cards - all their video game stuff is on sale right after Christmas". Seriously? You are 32 and that's your entire list. YOU ARE LAME.
The situation annoys me and it shouldn't, it's not my life. I just want to ask them if they don't see the ridiculousness in my SIL taking her kid to work while he "researches" (I suspect some serious gaming) and then he spends all night playing video games. Maybe you could do some research at night so the kid doesn't have to sit in an office all day??? I also think my SIL needs to get a backbone. Ughhh...

Um, this is absurd. And should p!ss you off! DH and I *both* have PhDs, and both did stressful/intensive research to get there. But um, it is actually one of the more flexible arrangements *if* you are disciplined about your work. I finished my PhD while pregnant and with a newborn. So this should not be happening. He should step up. It gives the rest of us academics a bad name for being lazy/selfish/etc. Sorry, just hit close to home.

I agree. I'm working on my thesis right now, and will be pursuing a PhD immediately afterward. Its kind of offensive when you put "PhD" in quotes like its no big deal. Seriously? Do you know what it entails? It requires a lot of research and a lot of time. I'm not saying your friend's H isn't probably screwing around on video games more than he should be, but sometimes we grad students need an outlet that has nothing to do with our field of work.

lizzyjames · December 2009

mustangsallie:

I bought a sweater to wear for our Christmas pictures and left the tag on and returned it after the pics were taken.

I will give DD a toy or something to play with while we are the grocery store and when she gets distracted I take it away and shove it on a random shelf so that I dont have to buy it.

I am really really overweight and I am totally going to ask my Dr for a pill at my next visit.

LOL. Guilty!

towedLCD13 · December 2009

When we eat out, DS often gets chicken strips. I try to peel off the fried part because it is so unhealthy. The flameful part of it - - I eat the fried part myself. Embarrassed

eta: I mean I actually eat the fried crunchy pieces I have pealed off of his food. Not just that I eat shicken strips.

femmeftle9 · December 2009

My sister posted on FB that she finally got the military check she & BIL have been waiting on. I had to stop myself from commenting "so I guess you will be paying me back now??" Every time I've asked her about the $120 she owes me, she gets a biitchy attitude. (I had offered to spring for niece & nephew's Santa outfits - so they will match DDs, as I had a coupon I was using at Gymboree).

But I just remembered that I am currently in possession of her stupid silver Tiffany's necklace and bracelet... DH had the jeweler repair them for her at no charge. She will not get either back until she forks over the cash.

Which leads into my next confession. I need the money to pay back my corporate card, as I have used the card on a couple of personal lunches/dinners. And I don't want DH to find out & nag me about it.

I am also a little irritated with the roommate right now. Her H is in the Army, and she is having my DH sign a "lease agreement" so they get a housing allowance. Her H is not living with us, she is (due to her job relocation). She said just a couple of weeks ago that they were pretty sure they did not qualify for an allowance, and now I'm sure she's somehow justified defrauding the system in her head. And maybe I'm wrong & they found a way that they qualify... but I seriously doubt it. And to top it off, it's not like she NEEDS the housing allowance so much... she got like a $25K raise when she relocated. I feel like it's so unethical, and I don't want anything to do with it.

lollipop320 · December 2009

mattnlinz03:

I know this is pretty bad on my part, but here goes.

I am really grossed out by DH. Since September I have been on a pretty strict diet for health reasons and can't eat the bad crap that we use to eat. Well, since then DH has been eating twice as much fast food and junk and has gained a ton of weight. I know it shouldn't matter, but he was so fit and toned when we first met and now it is just gross how he looks. I make comments and he just says that he doesn't care. I am worried that he is going to let himself go and turn into those people on the biggest loser.

I love my new super skinny body and I don't want to gain the weight back that I know I need to to be at a healthy weight. I lost it from health issues that I had no control over.

Is it bad that I share the same feelings as you? DH has gained over 60 pounds since I met him and his family has so many health issues ranging from diabetes to heart disease. I don't want him to follow in thier footsteps and I worry for DS too.

DH always says he will change and starts doing better and working out, but then he quits and gives up within a week. I'm so sick of him "crying wolf" and never following through with it. It's just so disappointing. And I'm so sick of him making excuses and eating fast food nearly every day of the week. This all leads to so many arguments and it sucks.

MrsKellyOrBust · December 2009

I'm reading these while my 21mo old is playing independently Smile

and my 2 mo old is mesmerized by Murray Had A Little Lamb Embarrassed

LilMissLadybug · December 2009

femmeftle9:
My sister posted on FB that she finally got the military check she & BIL have been waiting on. I had to stop myself from commenting "so I guess you will be paying me back now??" Every time I've asked her about the $120 she owes me, she gets a biitchy attitude. (I had offered to spring for niece & nephew's Santa outfits - so they will match DDs, as I had a coupon I was using at Gymboree).

But I just remembered that I am currently in possession of her stupid silver Tiffany's necklace and bracelet... DH had the jeweler repair them for her at no charge. She will not get either back until she forks over the cash.

Which leads into my next confession. I need the money to pay back my corporate card, as I have used the card on a couple of personal lunches/dinners. And I don't want DH to find out & nag me about it.

I am also a little irritated with the roommate right now. Her H is in the Army, and she is having my DH sign a "lease agreement" so they get a housing allowance. Her H is not living with us, she is (due to her job relocation). She said just a couple of weeks ago that they were pretty sure they did not qualify for an allowance, and now I'm sure she's somehow justified defrauding the system in her head. And maybe I'm wrong & they found a way that they qualify... but I seriously doubt it. And to top it off, it's not like she NEEDS the housing allowance so much... she got like a $25K raise when she relocated. I feel like it's so unethical, and I don't want anything to do with it.

I would consider it a gift. I've been burned too many times with that and DH & I decided we would never loan out money or offer anything and expect it back in return. I assume her bracelet and necklace are worth more than what you loaned her, so it really isn't fair IMO. But I do understand the frustration!

Also w/ the roommate, I would flat out ask her and refuse to do that. If what she is doing is fraud I would let her know my feelings and tell her you want nothing to do with it. Things like this will eventually come back to bite you.

LoriFalce · December 2009

punkfiction_v.3:
aidan has a tv in her room. like a nice tv. its mounted on the wall so she can't turn it back on, but she watches 15-30mins of a movie at night to cool down. no cable, just dvds and without it, i always wonder if we'd have bedtime problems like people complain about. but with it - we just say "time for bed!" and thats it. when she was in her crib, she'd talk for a bit the movie turned off, but now in her bed, she goes to sleep before its even over. its a dream. and i dont feel guilty about it whatsoever. she can't watch whatever she wants to, she cant watch it all night. its not one bit different than those who say "well my kid sits with us in bed/sits in the family room/etc and watches tv before bed". my kid just doesn't chill out for bed with everyone around.

Joseph has the same. Except he does have cable, because Matthew rewired the whole house for it, and he proactively put in a locked switch so we can ground the kid in the future by taking away his TV. We never have a problem at bedtime because bedtime is Wonder Pets time. He watches Ming Ming, with the lights off and the door open. When it's over, TV goes off and door gets shut and he's fine with that. Sometimes he sits in there playing for a little while longer, but he never has a problem, except when he's teething or sick.

kgb1411 · December 2009

I have two

1) During dinner, my 18 month old ran out of water. I was holding my one month old, so I took the sippy to the sink, set the baby on the counter, rinsed out and filled up the sippy, and returned to the table baby and sippy in hand. I didn't realize what I had done until I was wiping bread crumbs off the baby...gross.

2) DS and I have been watching the Office every night for the last two months.

MrsRandom · December 2009

We went on a road trip over Thanksgiving and were driving along a highway that was DESERTED. It was late afternoon and still light outside and I needed to pee so badly it hurt! After driving for 20 minutes without finding a gas station, store, or any civilization besides randome dirt roads and houses I decided to go on the side of the road. We drove to a side road and found a random dirt road that seemed secluded enough and stopped so I could do my business. I squatted between the passenger side door (where my husband was sitting) and opended the back door for a little more privacy from the open road. I was about a foot from my husband and peeing. Well...apparently my bowels decided to let go more than pee because I could NOT control the enormous poo that escaped my ass. I was literally taken off guard and ended up unloading the biggest dump ever and I was literally a FOOT away from my husband. Um. ::dies:: THANK GOD for baby wipes.

To make matters WORSE. Yes it gets worse. Once I decided to just live with it and got back in the car, we drove off and noticed the mailbox....I had just pooed in some random person's driveway.

::dies infinity::

BetchySprout · December 2009

MrsRandom:

We went on a road trip over Thanksgiving and were driving along a highway that was DESERTED. It was late afternoon and still light outside and I needed to pee so badly it hurt! After driving for 20 minutes without finding a gas station, store, or any civilization besides randome dirt roads and houses I decided to go on the side of the road. We drove to a side road and found a random dirt road that seemed secluded enough and stopped so I could do my business. I squatted between the passenger side door (where my husband was sitting) and opended the back door for a little more privacy from the open road. I was about a foot from my husband and peeing. Well...apparently my bowels decided to let go more than pee because I could NOT control the enormous poo that escaped my ass. I was literally taken off guard and ended up unloading the biggest dump ever and I was literally a FOOT away from my husband. Um. ::dies:: THANK GOD for baby wipes.

To make matters WORSE. Yes it gets worse. Once I decided to just live with it and got back in the car, we drove off and noticed the mailbox....I had just pooed in some random person's driveway.

::dies infinity::

I literally just died laughing.

fIowerchild · December 2009

mattnlinz03:

I know it shouldn't matter, but he was so fit and toned when we first met and now it is just gross how he looks. I make comments and he just says that he doesn't care. I am worried that he is going to let himself go and turn into those people on the biggest loser.

Who says it shouldn't matter? Of course it matters!

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