is it too early for FFFC? i have a couple...

Mama Jan

i've been waiting all week.  and i never do fffc.

1. DH put the christmas lights on the house this week.  i took C out for the grand "lighting" of the house.  when the lights went on, i whispered to him "Say AWESOME!"  I thought DH knew I prompted it, but apparently he didn't know.  He still thinks "Awesome!" was a spontaneous response from C and he is telling everyone about it.  I don't have the heart to tell him I prompted it.

2. I need to POAS.  I mean, I don't because it's like 0.0001% chance a BFP but I still feel funny.  I need to POAS and I don't want to know the answer, so I'm not doing it... yet. 

Gina418

I POAS a few days ago - even though I knew my chances were as slim as yours! Just felt funny, so I did.

RobynandJason05/06

i think my friend intentionally got pregnant though she acted completely surprised and devastated.  the guy she has been seeing wasnt happy and wants her to have an abortion his divorce isnt even final and he has 3 kids.

She said she even knew when she was ovulating and can pretty much give the date of conception.  She has 2 teenage daughters and is 39.  Shes going to be doing it alone. 

RobynandJason05/06

I have another one.  My a##hole exhusband cant even call his son and hes leaving for Afghanistan for the next 4 months.  You would have thought he would want to see his kid before he goes but nope not even a phone call. 

I cant wait till the day my son tells him to pound sand. 

EuroChick

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

mrse1107

I'm tired of being broke. Like, "where's the money coming from this week" broke.

DH finally has a good job (after a LOONNG stretch of jerking off) and right now I'm out on maternity leave -- I will be going back after the 6 wks b/c financially I can't stay out.

But, I just am tired of playing "which bill do we pay first, on time etc..."

 its exhausting. and stressful.

EuroChick

mrse1107:

I'm tired of being broke. Like, "where's the money coming from this week" broke.

DH finally has a good job (after a LOONNG stretch of jerking off) and right now I'm out on maternity leave -- I will be going back after the 6 wks b/c financially I can't stay out.

But, I just am tired of playing "which bill do we pay first, on time etc..."

 its exhausting. and stressful.

I am sorry, that's really tough.  Especially with the stress of a newborn.  I hope things get easier for you soon.

Gina418

mrse1107:

I'm tired of being broke. Like, "where's the money coming from this week" broke.

DH finally has a good job (after a LOONNG stretch of jerking off) and right now I'm out on maternity leave -- I will be going back after the 6 wks b/c financially I can't stay out.

But, I just am tired of playing "which bill do we pay first, on time etc..."

 its exhausting. and stressful.

I'm in the same boat. DH took a part-time retail job recently to bring in a little more money, but we are struggling. If he doesn't find full-time work soon, we're going to be in trouble. I feel like he's not trying hard enough - I know there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't seem scared about losing the house/falling too far behind. He keeps saying "it'll be ok" - but I don't believe him. 

lvisser

DH was all set to get the BIG V done today.... until yesterday... we canceled... I guess we are just not ready to rule out number 3.  RIGHT NOW it scares the shiit out of me... but in 3-5 years.... hmm... maybe....

Ciconrad

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

I agree with this.  I had a miscarriage that I was absolutely devestated by.  It totally sucked to see people complaining about m/s and back aches when I would have given everything in my power to be experiencing it as well.  Which is exactly why I stuck to the Pg Loss and TTCAL board.  I didn't go to the trimester boards because it hurt too much.  Now that I have been through 2 first trimesters, I get how much it sucks and reserve the rights to complain.  I have awful 1st trimesters.  I am very sorry for anyone who lost a baby, but life goes on for everyone else.

Same thing with the baby showers - I got invitiations for baby showers after my m/c and I can't say I didn't cry when they arrived, but I wasn't angry.  I didn't go to them because I couldn't handle it, but like I said life goes on for everyone else.

LucyGoosey81

I want to TTC now, but DH doesn't want to just yet because we decided on June...once we pick a date, he gets hung up on it.    Anyway, The other night we thought the condom broke (it didn't), and it was a couple days before I thought I was going to ovulate.  I was really excited!  Mine are always so dumb...haha

Klmorgan83

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

I completely agree with you.  I'm not in the exact same situation as most of those on TTCAL because I do have one living child, but I also just suffered a loss.  But my sister is almost 30 weeks pregnant and having our loss does not in anyway take away or diminish my excitement for her or anyone else that is expecting.  Yes, it obviously hurts my heart to see anyone pregnant and know what I should be getting to experience again, but it's not their fault that we lost our baby and there is no reason to take it out on anyone else.

Ciconrad

My SIL (DH's sister) works full time and does 90% of the childcare responsibilities for their 2 yo.  Her fiance is "working on his PhD", which is why my SIL has to take a 2 yo to work with her from 10-4 everyday. They can't afford daycare on her salary alone but fiance has to "concentrate on his research" all day and their daughter doesn't allow him to do that.  Luckily she works for the family business and my niece is an angel.  She has crib there in an unused office and she naps in the office from 1-4. 

Her fiance's is obsessed with video games.  Plays them all night long while SIL does all the child and house responsibilities. They had to get a bigger apartment with 3 bedrooms recently because SIL couldn't take all his video game equipment in their living room and their kid was tripping over everything.  So yea, extra rent for a video game room.   So we get their christmas lists yesterday and the fiance has on his "Target gift cards - all their video game stuff is on sale right after Christmas".  Seriously?  You are 32 and that's your entire list.  YOU ARE LAME. 

The situation annoys me and it shouldn't, it's not my life.  I just want to ask them if they don't see the ridiculousness in my SIL taking her kid to work while he "researches" (I suspect some serious gaming) and then he spends all night playing video games.  Maybe you could do some research at night so the kid doesn't have to sit in an office all day???  I also think my SIL needs to get a backbone.  Ughhh...

mel41g

Gina418:

mrse1107:

I'm tired of being broke. Like, "where's the money coming from this week" broke.

DH finally has a good job (after a LOONNG stretch of jerking off) and right now I'm out on maternity leave -- I will be going back after the 6 wks b/c financially I can't stay out.

But, I just am tired of playing "which bill do we pay first, on time etc..."

 its exhausting. and stressful.

I'm in the same boat. DH took a part-time retail job recently to bring in a little more money, but we are struggling. If he doesn't find full-time work soon, we're going to be in trouble. I feel like he's not trying hard enough - I know there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't seem scared about losing the house/falling too far behind. He keeps saying "it'll be ok" - but I don't believe him. 

Similar boat.  DH job went away and they moved him to a different job.  He was getting a salary and a field allowance.  The new job doesn't qualify for a field allowance, so he isn't getting it anymore.  It just feels like a giant pay cut to me.  We re-did out budget and we will just make enough to pay for what we spend, but save nothing.  Luckily, we are good savers, so we have plenty saved, but it is still scary.  Now we are going to start the business we have considered but never been motivated enough to do.  I'm scared of failure.  DH is scared he is going to somehow loose his job.  But in our house, DH is the one panicking (and driving me crazy!) and I'm the one saying it will be okay.

LaLaSweets

I hate that my parents say this and that and never follow through. We will get Olivia this and that so then I don't buy it.. comes time and they didn't get anything stated not even close.

star173

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

It's because people tend to get very self centered during a time like that. I had two losses, and thankfully was only bitter about one girl- she announced her 1st pregnancy while I was having TTTC after a loss, then her second one a few days after my second loss. I of course didn't really blame her, but I was like- how could she do this to ME? Haha. I'm not defending this behavior, because I can't stand it, but I understand the temptation to think every complaint or baby shower invite is strictly there to make you grieve more.

 

disbride061103

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

I've made my feelings well known on the whole TTCAL/1st tri debacle.  The ladies on the loss board (who are also some of the same ladies on TTCAL), treated me like crap when I had my m/c.  As far as the whole inviting people to showers/parties, I would never want someone to fret over whether to invite me to something.  Do I get sad when I see people who are due around the same time as me?  Sure, but there isn't anything I can do about that. 

My confession:  I have been irrationally angry at DH this week.  We are TTC and I o'd this week.  He's been sick and grumpy not interested at all in sex (who can blame him, right?).  So, I've been angry because we missed yet another window for TTC.  It's not his fault, but I guess I need to blame someone. 

nbjenni

I've got a couple, but I'll save them for the new year.

ABMcKinney

Mama Jan:

i've been waiting all week.  and i never do fffc.

1. DH put the christmas lights on the house this week.  i took C out for the grand "lighting" of the house.  when the lights went on, i whispered to him "Say AWESOME!"  I thought DH knew I prompted it, but apparently he didn't know.  He still thinks "Awesome!" was a spontaneous response from C and he is telling everyone about it.  I don't have the heart to tell him I prompted it.

2. I need to POAS.  I mean, I don't because it's like 0.0001% chance a BFP but I still feel funny.  I need to POAS and I don't want to know the answer, so I'm not doing it... yet. 

Me too. And I also don't want to know the answer so I am not doing it.

britishbride05

i don't feel happy.  i love my daughter and husband, but ever since finding out we're pg with #2, dh has been snippy and really shuts down.  I know he's worried about money (i've been a sahm) and I know I'll have to go back to work soon after the baby is born.  Unfortunately, I'm a teacher- or, I'm certified to be- and there's a hiring freeze right now and it's not like I can just go back to my old job... it's not possible.  I'm tired of having to live paycheck to paycheck, i'm tired of walking on eggshells, i'm tired of feeling like a guest in my own home. 

and i'm tired of feeling all "woe is me." 

and that's the first time i've said all that "outloud"... but it's fffc, right?  so i figured i can get away with it.

 

Ciconrad

disbride061103:

I've made my feelings well known on the whole TTCAL/1st tri debacle.  The ladies on the loss board (who are also some of the same ladies on TTCAL), treated me like crap when I had my m/c.  As far as the whole inviting people to showers/parties, I would never want someone to fret over whether to invite me to something.  Do I get sad when I see people who are due around the same time as me?  Sure, but there isn't anything I can do about that. 

Wow - I am really sorry you had that experience.  Pg Loss and TTCAL were so hopeful after I had my m/c (of course that was over 2 years ago).  I met a few really great women who m/c'd around the same time as me and we really bonded.  I am on Parenting After a Loss a good bit, I have picked up that the PgLoss and TTCAL boards are not as supportive as they used to be.  That is so sad to me.

618mom22boys

RobynandJason05/06:

I have another one.  My a##hole exhusband cant even call his son and hes leaving for Afghanistan for the next 4 months.  You would have thought he would want to see his kid before he goes but nope not even a phone call. 

I cant wait till the day my son tells him to pound sand. 

This was awesome!  It made me lol.

Dead beat dads suck!!!!  DS1 sperm donor has not seen him in over 6 years!!  But in my sistuation that is how I want it.  DH is his dad now. 

 

 

IckyThump

star173:

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

It's because people tend to get very self centered during a time like that. I had two losses, and thankfully was only bitter about one girl- she announced her 1st pregnancy while I was having TTTC after a loss, then her second one a few days after my second loss. I of course didn't really blame her, but I was like- how could she do this to ME? Haha. I'm not defending this behavior, because I can't stand it, but I understand the temptation to think every complaint or baby shower invite is strictly there to make you grieve more.

 

I think that there needs to be a time limit on the self-centeredness. I'm not saying that after x amount of weeks/months, they should be over it, but it's absurd that some of these women feel that they can get away with this attitude of "I suffered a loss that killed me, and even though you said/did something completely not directed at me, it offended me and I can be as mean and biitchy to you as I want because I suffered a loss." We're all adults and human beings.

I feel awful for those ladies, but we've all been through some terrible things - you deal with it in a healthy manner and act civil and respectfully to people. Every single one of the TTCAL ladies in that thread need counseling, and I'm not being the least bit snarky.

618mom22boys

I hate my sMIL!  DH gets a bonus for every quarter, he works for his dad and step mom.  So that would mean a bonus in April, July, October, and than January.  Well we are still waiting on Octobers bonus!!  It is like $3000 we are waiting on.  We didn't get April, May or Junes bonus until late September.

Yesterday she was suppose to get the quarterly reports done, from July, August, and Septembers quarter.  Well she got pissed at my FIL and did not do it yesterday.  So that means we wont get the bonus next week.  What a ***!  We are waiting on that to go Christmas shopping with.  Our regular paycheck goes towards the house and bills so we don't have extra money.  She knows this but yet is holding it on us!!  She does this every bonus!!

I want to fing kick her in the crotch!

southernbelle82

I'm sick of how overly sensitive people are these days.  Every little thing offends people.  When someone says something you don't like, they do NOT automatically owe you an apology.  This is supposed to be a free country and a free country means you have the freedom of THOUGHT.  9 times out of 10, the person that's offended is overreacting and needs to suck it up and move on.  No one is ever going to agree on everything.  We shouldn't have to. 

I get that sometimes words can be hurtful, but they're just words and ultimately, YOU are in control of how they affect you. 

I mean seriously, I could say I hate the color pink and people would get pissed off and offended and think I'm horrible and owe people who love pink an apology. (For the record, I love the color pink, I'm just using it as an example)

People need a tougher skin and priorities in life.

lpennie16

I've been faking the big "O" ever since we got the greenlight for nook after DS2 was born. We've only done it a few times but I've faked every time. I think I am scared to just let go and have fun. I'm afraid it will hurt at some point so my mind races and I can't get to that place. I know its not fair to DH or to me. Hopefully this weekend I can relax and get there.

 

IckyThump

southernbelle82:

I'm sick of how overly sensitive people are these days.  Every little thing offends people.  When someone says something you don't like, they do NOT automatically owe you an apology.  This is supposed to be a free country and a free country means you have the freedom of THOUGHT.  9 times out of 10, the person that's offended is overreacting and needs to suck it up and move on.  No one is ever going to agree on everything.  We shouldn't have to. 

I get that sometimes words can be hurtful, but they're just words and ultimately, YOU are in control of how they affect you. 

I mean seriously, I could say I hate the color pink and people would get pissed off and offended and think I'm horrible and owe people who love pink an apology. (For the record, I love the color pink, I'm just using it as an example)

People need a tougher skin and priorities in life.

NewlywednOhio

I almost ran over a pedestrian last night.?

I was driving home from school, and it was dark and rainy. My windows were fogged up, so I looked down for a moment to try and turn on my defroster.?

Just as I did, a student walked out in front of me, I caught glimpse of his notebook (it was a bright orange color thankfully), and slammed on my brakes.?

He had his hands on the hood of my car when I stopped. That's how close I was!

The last thing I need on my plate is to kill someone. Yikes.

Brit1017

I should have sex with DH b/c he is going to have a serious dry spell very soon, but there is nothing I want less right now. He just doesn't get that 38 wks pregnant= my whole body hurts, I'm really uncomfortable, sex is uncomfortable, and it makes me have BH contractions for hours. I want my regular sex life back.

JessMil10

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

I completely agree.  I am so sorry for the losses those women experienced, especially some of the later miscarriage and stillbirths.  I cannot relate but what they went through must have been horrible.

BUT at the same time they can not hold it over everyone's heads for the rest of their lives.  People should not have to walk on egg shells around their friends/family, and people on the tri board should not have to be in fear because the TTCAL ladies may come over and pounce.

flutterz77

My DH left lastnight for the mountains hunting w/ his dad until Sunday...I'm slightly jealous that he's getting time away. The only time I've had to myself lately is on Sundays when I go grocery Shopping

KelzinBoston

JessMil10:

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

I completely agree.  I am so sorry for the losses those women experienced, especially some of the later miscarriage and stillbirths.  I cannot relate but what they went through must have been horrible.

BUT at the same time they can not hold it over everyone's heads for the rest of their lives.  People should not have to walk on egg shells around their friends/family, and people on the tri board should not have to be in fear because the TTCAL ladies may come over and pounce.

I'm a big poster of TTCAL, but honestly, I have to say I agree with you.  I can sympathize so much with these women (obviously), and I know some of their stories are so sad, but I don't like the random attacks either.  Just wanted to add my 2 cents.

ETA:  Please don't give the board a bad wrap, in general this is a fantastic place that has been a huge help for me through my loss.  There is a lof of love and support there, but a lot of pain and frustrations as well.

KMLP

I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently.  I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs.  lol

redstars93

I'm officially worried that DS does not walk on his own (i.e. without holding onto me or the furniture).

I called the pedi this morning.

JessMil10

KMLP:

I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently.  I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs.  lol

LOL, I agree.  I don't wear pants at all, just a t shirt.

And now you all know a little to much about me.

RobynandJason05/06

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

yeah I agree with you.  We had to terminate medically in the 2nd tri after going thru IVF before Justin and we were completely devastated.  My sister was pregnant 7 weeks ahead of us.  It was an unbareable pain for my DH and I BUT... on the flip side.  Life does go on.  Pregnancies happen and so do births.  My DH and I realized so much during this loss and we had a phennomenal marriage, my older son was healthy and happy we had great family and friends.  We worked thru our loss and if we didnt Justin our miracle baby wouldnt be here.  To me I cannot possibly dwell on what could have been or should have been life goes on.

aimeelv

I'm pretty sure I'm going to ask my OB to induce me on a scheduled date as long as my pregnancy is progressing healthily - hopefully very close to my due date.  DH is going to be out of state on a project for work and if he waits to get on a flight until I go into labor I'm afraid he's going to miss the birth.  If he takes time off before I actually go into labor, it's going to take away from the time he has to spend with us after the baby is here.  Hopefully my OB will agree!

BetchySprout

britishbride05:

i don't feel happy.  i love my daughter and husband, but ever since finding out we're pg with #2, dh has been snippy and really shuts down.  I know he's worried about money (i've been a sahm) and I know I'll have to go back to work soon after the baby is born.  Unfortunately, I'm a teacher- or, I'm certified to be- and there's a hiring freeze right now and it's not like I can just go back to my old job... it's not possible.  I'm tired of having to live paycheck to paycheck, i'm tired of walking on eggshells, i'm tired of feeling like a guest in my own home. 

and i'm tired of feeling all "woe is me." 

and that's the first time i've said all that "outloud"... but it's fffc, right?  so i figured i can get away with it.

 

I hope you can let go of the "woe is me"! Hiring freeze does not mean that they are not hiring teachers. They still have to replace teachers that quit, move, change jobs within the school, etc. Florida has been on a "hiring freeze" since before I graduated college. I got a job right away, and so did 99% of the other music teachers I graduated with...2 went into the military instead. Maternity leaves are also very good to snag because being a long term sub is a good way to get your feet in the door.

Don't lose hope!

BetchySprout

RobynandJason05/06:

EuroChick:

This is related to something which happened between 1st try and TTCAL.  I have major issues with the TTCAL ladies who go onto other boards C/P stuff and then bash the person.  I get that having a miscarriage and struggling with infertility is an exetremely painful thing but that is why you have separate boards for this type of stuff.  Sometimes people need to grow up and take a bit of perspective before flipping out.  My irritation extends to people who are having fertility issues and then get offended when you invite them to a baby shower or a 1st birthday.  It kind of puts you in a situation where if you don't invite them you are a jerk and if you do you are still a jerk because you knowing left them out.  Can't people be grown-up enough both on the internet and in real life to take themselves out of situations which will be difficult for them?

yeah I agree with you.  We had to terminate medically in the 2nd tri after going thru IVF before Justin and we were completely devastated.  My sister was pregnant 7 weeks ahead of us.  It was an unbareable pain for my DH and I BUT... on the flip side.  Life does go on.  Pregnancies happen and so do births.  My DH and I realized so much during this loss and we had a phennomenal marriage, my older son was healthy and happy we had great family and friends.  We worked thru our loss and if we didnt Justin our miracle baby wouldnt be here.  To me I cannot possibly dwell on what could have been or should have been life goes on.

My aunt had to do the same after ART. Turned out the baby had anencephaly. It was a double whammy...awful. I am sorry you went through that.

redstars93

Ciconrad:

disbride061103:

I've made my feelings well known on the whole TTCAL/1st tri debacle.  The ladies on the loss board (who are also some of the same ladies on TTCAL), treated me like crap when I had my m/c.  As far as the whole inviting people to showers/parties, I would never want someone to fret over whether to invite me to something.  Do I get sad when I see people who are due around the same time as me?  Sure, but there isn't anything I can do about that. 

Wow - I am really sorry you had that experience.  Pg Loss and TTCAL were so hopeful after I had my m/c (of course that was over 2 years ago).  I met a few really great women who m/c'd around the same time as me and we really bonded.  I am on Parenting After a Loss a good bit, I have picked up that the PgLoss and TTCAL boards are not as supportive as they used to be.  That is so sad to me.

Yeah, that board has turned. There are still some great ladies over there  but there is a major clique that jumps on a lot of new people.

I'm pretty sure I'm KU (testing early on Sunday) and will not post a BFP there because they'll probably call me a "goat" even though I'm there a lot.

redstars93

JessMil10:

KMLP:

I wear night gowns to bed quite frequently.  I can't stand the way pants get all twisted around my legs.  lol

LOL, I agree.  I don't wear pants at all, just a t shirt.

And now you all know a little to much about me.

I love nightgowns! I started wearing them when I BFing because they had buttons down the front so I could just unbutton for night BFing and not remove my entire shirt.

And now I wear them because they are soooo comfy. And my DH likes them too