Sharing names or keeping them secret?

emilynichole1 · November 2009

Are you going to tell people the name you have picked out or wait until the big day??

kellialayne · November 2009

We are sharing. I am terrible at keeping secrets.

ajetter · November 2009

i have a hard time keeping a secret when people ask me point blank questions... so far we haven't settled on a name, but I think we will probably share.

Mom_E224 · November 2009

I haven't thought about it this pregnancy! We kept it a secret with DS and it was something fun to do....so I think we will probably keep it a secret this time too! We will be telling the sex though and that always makes for interesting name suggestions. lol

celiabwatson · November 2009

We're keeping it a secret (well, I neglected to tell my husband we were keeping it a secret until he'd already told some people... so we're keeping it a secret now). I have a weird thing about not wanting people to call my son by name while he's inside me. I can't even call him by name in private, it feels weird. I'm fine with people talking to him, just don't call him by name. Unfortunately my family all knows the name (I didn't realize how I felt about it until I'd already run the name by them) and they're coming for Thanksgiving. Hopefully they can control themselves.

MrsWindyCity · November 2009

We're keeping it a secret - of course, at this rate we might not even know the name till the bid day.

WildcatPrincess · November 2009

I don't want to, but MH is a blabber mouth. We're picking out a few and not actually naming baby until birth day, but I know even that way people will pick which name they like and start calling it that. I feel weird calling a baby inside me that I've never seen by name.

BrainySmurfette · November 2009

I'm going to have to keep it secret from my family. They have already insulted names I really like, and my parents successfully pressured both of my sisters into not using names they really loved for their children. I don't want to have to deal with the comments.

emilynichole1 · November 2009

With our DD we told people and got some rather rude comments. MIL told us we would ruin DD's life if we named her Lily!? She just speaks before thinking. We just picked put our name for DD2 and I am excited and really want to share it but I do not want reactions like last time. As a side note, we still named our DD Lily and I love it but that doesn't mean it wasn't hurtful.

emilynichole1 · November 2009

BrainySmurfette:
I'm going to have to keep it secret from my family. They have already insulted names I really like, and my parents successfully pressured both of my sisters into not using names they really loved for their children. I don't want to have to deal with the comments.

I think we may tell a few select people like my mom & sisters but keep everyone else in the dark until she is born. I think it would be harder to made rude comments when there is a beautiful baby face to put with the name.

kellialayne · November 2009

emilynichole1:

With our DD we told people and got some rather rude comments. MIL told us we would ruin DD's life if we named her Lily!? She just speaks before thinking. We just picked put our name for DD2 and I am excited and really want to share it but I do not want reactions like last time. As a side note, we still named our DD Lily and I love it but that doesn't mean it wasn't hurtful.

What?? She is crazy (no offense)! How will naming your child Lily ruin their life? That is ridiculous!! People and their comments... Sometimes I just want to slap people and say, "Are you listening to yourself????"

emilynichole1 · November 2009

kellialayne:
emilynichole1:

With our DD we told people and got some rather rude comments. MIL told us we would ruin DD's life if we named her Lily!? She just speaks before thinking. We just picked put our name for DD2 and I am excited and really want to share it but I do not want reactions like last time. As a side note, we still named our DD Lily and I love it but that doesn't mean it wasn't hurtful.

What?? She is crazy (no offense)! How will naming your child Lily ruin their life? That is ridiculous!! People and their comments... Sometimes I just want to slap people and say, "Are you listening to yourself????"

Believe me, NO offense taken, she says hurtful things all the time. She really does mean well she just says what ever pops in her head w/o ever considering how it may make someone feel.

2bMrsAnderson · November 2009

we are telling.

avada_kedavra · November 2009

a few people know, because i can't keep a straight face when people guess. we just refer to the baby as baby g or baby m..... depending on the sex

BrainySmurfette · November 2009

emilynichole1:
BrainySmurfette:
I'm going to have to keep it secret from my family. They have already insulted names I really like, and my parents successfully pressured both of my sisters into not using names they really loved for their children. I don't want to have to deal with the comments.

I think we may tell a few select people like my mom & sisters but keep everyone else in the dark until she is born. I think it would be harder to made rude comments when there is a beautiful baby face to put with the name.

That's more or less what I'm thinking. Plus, it's a done deal once it is on the birth certificate.

IrishBrideND · November 2009

We weren't going to tell people, but we decided to. Our name is pretty traditional so we figured we wouldn't get negative comments. So far so good!

Neen33 · November 2009

DH believes that it is bad luck to share the name before the big day. I think it's a british tradition.

maeghan21 · November 2009

We're not finding out sex and keeping names a secret, although my mom knows the boy names b/c we've been talking about the "great debate" over whose family name we'd use! We don't have any girlsnames picked out yet.

julietbride · November 2009

We're telling, I couldn't keep it a secret:)

KMom14 · November 2009

We had every intention of keeping it a secret from our very opinionated families, but as soon as we found out he was a boy the secret went out the window! We prefaced it with..."Here's our name, but we don't want to hear any negative opinions!"...and they've kept it all to themselves (if they have any!)

TMDMJAOCT07 · November 2009

We're not telling, then again we're not 100% on either gender name yet. A few people are annoyed with us because we are not sharing the name (s) we have picked out (or started to pick out) and we are on Team Green. But, I just shrug my shoulders. I don't want opinions on names or comments from people.

gingerfamily · November 2009

We're keeping it a secret.

MrsDonk · November 2009

I'm sure we'll share with everyone. Neither one of us are good at keeping secrets.

mrsjenni · November 2009

Telling. I see no point in keeping them a secret.

Temp536318000007725 · November 2009

We are keeping it a secret. My parents and friends are a little annoyed, I think, but oh well!

crittermama · November 2009

We'll tell once we know the gender and pick the name. We'll tell our parents and then anyone else who asks (though I'm sure our parents will tell everyone who knows us).

Mrs.Syntax · November 2009

We're not telling anyone at all.

canesbaby · November 2009

We aren't choosing names until after the baby is born. A month or so we'll start keeping track of our top 2-5 names for each gender, but I don't think we'll share that list. We are weird about names and have a lot of trouble choosing... it took us a few days after getting our dog to decide on a name, so I don't know what we're going to do about a baby!!

epona3 · November 2009

I think we're keeping them a secret (except from my 2 BFFs that I can't keep secrets from, but they won't tell!) b/c I don't want to see my mom cry when we don't use the name she wants us to (she's been telling me for the last 2 years that we must use DH's middle name for a boy. It's a nice name, but that's not what we're naming a boy.) Also, my MIL is prone to blurting out things w/out thinking, and I don't want to hear it!

CW<3JW · November 2009

We are sharing. One because if it's a boy we're naming him after my husband (he would be the IVth). If it's a girl, we found a nice, simple name that goes with our last name (it's a tough match). I have found that there a lot of people out there that I know that are pregnant right now, and they are all using the same middle girl's name as us!!! But mine is a family name, so whatever. It's not that a big a deal to keep it a secret, since we don't know the gender anyway.

lite-bright · November 2009

No, not sharing. Everyone will find out when she's born.

I only want DH's and my opinions during the process, and we reserve the right to change our minds at any time until we fill out the birth certificate. Plus, we've already shared gender, so the name will kind of be the 'surprise' we share when she arrives. We did the same thing with DD and liked it that way.

FemmeNat01 · November 2009

If they ask, I will tell. Otherwise, no. And only like our close family. Everyone else can wait!

AnotherChance · November 2009

We just told everyone that we're not choosing the name until he's born, and we really don't even have a short list of possibilities yet...even though we do have a list. We just don't want to hear any negative comments. So, they will all find out once he arrives.

auslyn804 · November 2009

I am sharing and did share once I knew what the name was for sure. It wasn't until 36 wks with ds. If I said "I'm thinking of this, this, and this"....it's too many opinions for me. But when I said "I am naming him this" then I didn't get that.

BeanLooWeen · November 2009

We kept DS's name a secret and it just about killed everyone...which I think is hilarious. I'm a really good secret-keeper and can keep a straight face when people guess. Although no one actually guessed DS's name correctly (imagine that!) lol

We'll be doing it again this time...if I can actually think of a name.

mrs.oz · November 2009

We're not even naming our baby till it's born. We have a handful of names picked out but we're not going to name our baby till we see it.

JenG1979 · November 2009

Secret for now, we haven't even spilled the beans on the sex yet, which we are revealing on Thursday!

bakedlaurabean · November 2009

So far we are sharing with friends. After we find out the sex, we will share the name with family (slightly less likely to give their opinions since it will already be set in stone). I want everyone to refer to baby by his/her name before she is born. I think it's much nicer to know the baby's name before birth.

AmandaToo · November 2009

It's a secret. It helps that everyone thinks we don't know the sex, too. But we know & we have a name chosen. We are pretending to be on team green, so no one's even bothered to hassle us about the name. It might be hard over the holidays, but I think we can do it!

Emmybean · November 2009

I really really don't understand keeping names secret.

Actually, I take that back. My H's cousin named her son after her sick father, and told everyone they were planning on some outrageous names ahead of time to throw everyone off. They didn't tell anyone the real name until the new grandparents got to town. That was sweet and touching.

Other than that, though, I think it's completely narcissistic to think that one's preshus name choice is so sacred that no one else should know it before it's on the birth certificate.

IrishBrideND · November 2009

Emmy: the only reason we were going to is because I honestly didn't want to deal with comments. It wasn't a narcissistic thing, I just know people have to always give their opinion, and I didn't want to have to deal with it.

I'm over it now, and realize I don't give a crap what other people think

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