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nicolesspirit
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A real question for real answers ladies...
nicolesspirit
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Do you think you are a better mother than YOUR mother? Do you hope to be?
I have to say in all honesty that I am a much better mother, but in that cocky statement it is only because of having seen her mistakes I can focus on what not to do!
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Re: A real question for real answers ladies...
I don't think I would ever compare myself to my mother. She grew up out of the country and her parenting style was just different because she just didn't get that things in America are different.
She wasn't perfect but I know she did her best and I can only hope my kids feel how much I love and care about them as I knew she cared for me and my sisters.
That being said, I will probably do a lot of things differently but there are many things I admire about my mother and hope to be able to incorporate into my own method of parenting.
I hope to be nearly as good as my mom!
I don't have children yet so I guess I'm cheating by answering this but I hope I can be a better mom than my mom.
Not because she was a terrible mother, but because she was a great mother. Yeah, she's got her issues but with the situation she was given and how she handled it and how extremely little it affected me I think I turned out pretty darn good.
Yep.
I absolutely know I am a better mother. Considering she is an alcoholic with some majors issues, the standard wasn't set too high. I feel everything I went through, I learned from and if anything...it has taught me what not to do.
I am the oldest in my family. I know that I am a better mother than my mom was with me. She smoked when she was pregnant and was very young when she had me. My parents waited 6 years to have my siblings and by then she was more mature / a very good mom. But I know I am better with my first.
Amen sister! I know exactly what you mean. I even told my dad this when he came to visit after DD was born. He told me that I was very patient with DS. I told him that I learned from my parents...I learned exactly what NOT to do.
My Mom was a different mother to 4 different kids. I hope to be a better mother than she was to 2 of my older siblings, but as good as she was to me and my other sister.
I have to keep in mind though, that she was married at 18 and had her first at 19 so I can only imagine how that affected the way she did things.
This. My mom was much younger when she had me and constantly tells me that she is glad I waited until I was more mature because she made so many mistakes. I can't imagine handling an infant any earlier in my life, so I'm proud of her for doing as well as she did.
I don't know how she was when I was B's age, but from what I remember, yes, so far I think I am a bit better. She was always stressed and had a very short fuse and a temper, while I'm pretty easy going and rarely get upset with him (and when I do I step away to calm down, rather than scream and call him names.)
I hope to be better as he gets older too. My mother was very naive about what I was doing when not at home, and when she found out about some of it she was hurtful rather than understanding. I never got "talks" about sex, drugs, etc. yet was expected to remain a virgin until marriage, never try drugs, be a good girl and all of that. We weren't religious either, so I have no idea where I was supposed to be picking up these values.
Mes Petit Choux
I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice
times are different... we have access to more info now and more means than she did... can't compare apples and oranges... she struggled more and made more sacrifices...
I might be doing it the "better" way but she was braver doing it with less and stronger for it.
This.