does your DH go to all your appointments?

rapst1 · November 2009

I have an appointment next Monday, and it is my last 4 weeks appointment, and I am meeting the last Dr in the practice. DH doesn't know if he can come b/c of work, and I am considering rescheduling for a time that works for him. So far he has only not come to one appointment and it was with my regular Dr this summer and there wasn't much new to talk about. I was just wondering how many of you have your SO attend your appointments with you? and, do they go to all or just some?

What about when I get to my 1 week appointments? That is a lot of work for DH to miss, since he still has an hour drive after the appointment and the earliest appointment is 8:30, so he wouldn't get to work until like 10 (and that's if we don't have to wait). Is it necessary for him to go to all those appointments? I wish he could be there for all!

Sticky41284 · November 2009

My DH stopped going after the "big" 20 week appt. He's going to my next one though, for moral support since I left my appt last week in tears because of no progress!

abrazz · November 2009

DH has been to every appt. He is off on Mondays and so am I so he drives me there. I am really impressed. I told him he didn't need to go everytime but he wants to. Now we go every week. Just 2 more appts I hope!

beckypooh03@yahoo.com · November 2009

My DH used to go to all my appointments with me but started a new job 2 months ago and since then hasn't been able to go to any and will probably not go to any more! I'm not disappointment cause he was able to be there for the biggest milestones like hearing first heart beat and finding out the gender!

lefirebug · November 2009

My DH only came to my first appointment (to hear the heartbeat) and to my ultrasounds. We didn't feel like there was any reason for him to come to more... it would have been super difficult to try to navigate around his work schedule.

oohgrrl11 · November 2009

DH has attended all appointments where ultrasounds were involved. I think he missed 2 regular ones. He is layed off so his work schedule is not an issue. If he were working I would only want him there if it was an ultrasound or something special. My midwife said that alot of DHs miss appointments for work so I think it is normal.

Luv-a-Bug · November 2009

Hellllllz no. Mine went to 8 week and 20 week and that's it.

goldenleaves · November 2009

DH hasn't gone to any of my regular doctors appointments. He went to my big u/s, and that's it. He's saving all of his sick/personal time for when LO is here. He may go with me to some of the appointments near the end, but probably not.

Edit: And I bought a doppler, so DH got to hear the heartbeat at home.

LadyJavy · November 2009

My DH has been to every appt, but that is only because we only have one car b/c I take public transportation to and from work. I need the car to get to our Drs office, so he needs to come home for them anyway, so he might as well go. If I didn't need the car, he probably wouldn't go to every single one.

DiscusCoach · November 2009

I think even less goes on at my one week appointments then my previous monthly appointments. It would be a waste for my DH. If he were around - sure, but he works very long hours right now and it would be really hard to work that out. My one week appointments go something like this - pee in a cup nurse puts paper strip in the pee nurse takes my blood pressure OB comes in and listens to baby's heart beat OB answers any questions I have Total time - 10 minutes.

abba916 · November 2009

My Dh has come to all my appts so far...but he doesnt have that much a commute to work and he will get up early if he has something to get done before the appt so he can be present at the appt...I dont know if its necessary for him to be at them all but I think he wants to...

CloudNine2007 · November 2009

My DH came to the 1st appointment, 8 week u/s and 20 week u/s. I am not planning on him being at any other appointments unless there is a problem.

AggieDee · November 2009

No. DH came to the appts that had u/s but other than that I don't really see the need for him to be there.

amjayasuriya · November 2009

He comes every other week when he is off work and/or if something major is going on like last weeks ultrasound and this weeks non-stress test...other than that if its just internals he would rather work...lol..

JLG95 · November 2009

DH has gone to every appointment, class, etc. with me. We work in the same place, commute together and get tons of leave, so that has never been an issue. I think he really wants to be with me though: he has something going on at work during our next appointment and I told him I could go by myself, but he said no, he'll have someone else cover for him. Loves him....

noangel293 · November 2009

My boyfriend works so he has not been to any of my appointments. I scheduled the ultrasound for when we were both off to work so he was there for the ultrasound. Other than that, it's no biggie to me about the doctor's appointments... I'm only there for 15 minutes anyway.

4realyo · November 2009

Dh came to the very first appt to meet my midwife & he went to the 2 u/s I have had. Other than those, I dont see why your dh would need to go. Its not really exciting to watch me pee in a cup & get my belly felt up.

kristin7701 · November 2009

No, he's hardly been to any. He went to the 12 and 18w u/s, and one when I thought I broke some ribs (he drove me). His work schedule is too tough to make any other appointments and since nothing really happens at most of them, it doesn't matter to me.

twobecomethree · November 2009

DH only came to the first appt, the big 20 appt, growth u/s and one other appt bc he was home from work already. I don't usually ask him to come since the appts are so short and nothing really happens in them. He's been there for the big ones, which is enough for me.

YaraC · November 2009

My DH hasn't been to an OB appt since the first one (he has been to all of the u/s's which are done by a diff dr). They are so quick and uneventful there is just no reason for him to miss work for it. He is a teacher and it would involve substitutes and all that stuff. Plus I can shedule thems o that are conveneient for me and not worry about having to make them convenient for his schedule too.

Mereou12 · November 2009

Nope. Too hard for him to get off work for an appointment that lasts 5 minutes.

hopingforababyin09 · November 2009

My Dh hasn't been at all my appointments. I think that he has missed 5 or 6. He is going to miss my appointment on Wednesday because of work. I'm ok with it because nothing new is going to happen.

avbliss · November 2009

DH was going to appointments with me when I was seeing a different OB in the practice so that way he could meet them all, but for just regular check ups with someone he's met, he doesn't come because it is a lot of work to miss and since he's the only one working, we need him there making money. My mom has come to a few appointments with me and really enjoyed being able to be there and hear the babies heartbeat. Far more for her benefit then mine, since I'm fine going by myself. I'm now on the biweekly appointments, so there's no way DH can make it to them all.

MrsPatterson · November 2009

My DH only came to a few in the beginning - basically whenever we had an u/s. It would be a total waste of time for him to come to any other appointments (especially the weekly ones) because he would never ask any questions anyway and they usually last maybe 5 minutes tops.

AdamsWife08 · November 2009

My DH has only been to the two appointments that I've had ultrasounds at plus an emergency appointment that we had. Otherwise, I see no need for him to be at the appointments unless he wants to be.

jennybeams · November 2009

DH has been to every single one, even if it only lasts 10 minutes.

ballugurl · November 2009

Dh has come to every appointment. I told him he didnt have to go because they are so routine but he enjoys coming with

Bubbles1022 · November 2009

ballugurl:
Dh has come to every appointment. I told him he didnt have to go because they are so routine but he enjoys coming with

Same here!! Plus we both work at the same place and it is very easy for him to take the time in the middle of the day to go to the appointments. He boss is very supportive and does not mind at all.

dbos99 · November 2009

My DH came to the first visit to meet the doctor and then only again at 18 week appointment to see the big u/s. I don't anticipate him coming to anymore, but we will see.

madeleines_mommy · November 2009

No. The only one I had DH go to was the 20 wk ultrasound appt. I don't see the need for him to go watch me get weighed, pee in a cup, and get poked on. Def not if missing work is involved. I'm a big girl.. I can handle it myself

mrshutch · November 2009

My DH came to three appts. w/ DD- one for the big u/s, another one b/c DD wasn't cooperative at the first big U/S, and one b/c I'd fallen and I had to get checked out. I didn't feel it was necessary for him to be at any others, and he would've been mortified to have to be present for any internals!

hterry85 · November 2009

I think he has missed 2 so far due to work. But they just lost one of their other managers...leaving two people to work the hours of three, and as they are gettign ready for xmas (he's a retail manager). SO I'll be lucky to see DH at all, let alone at my doc appts!

mrshutch · November 2009

My DH came to three appts. w/ DD- one for the big u/s, another one b/c DD wasn't cooperative at the first big U/S, and one b/c I'd fallen and I had to get checked out. I didn't feel it was necessary for him to be at any others, and he would've been mortified to have to be present for any internals!

For this one, he came to the viability u/s since I was so scared after our last loss, and then the big u/s- even though we weren't finding out the sex, he had fun seeing baby. I don't anticipate him needing to come to any other appts.

justrachet · November 2009

He hasn't been to any of the regular check up appointments. He went to the 8 week one when we had the dating ultrasound, the big ultrasound, and the glucose test. If he happens to be available when I have a regular appointment, I'm sure he'll come, but I don't specifically schedule them so that he can make it.

levans23 · November 2009

i think the last one mine went to was a 28 week u/s. while it would be great for him to hear our lo's heartbeat every week, it's a lot of work to have to miss. and we've been lucky enough to not have any problems during this pregnancy, so it's not like i need him there for moral support. i'm usually in and out in 20 minutes.

CarlySara · November 2009

DH came to my first appointment and all of my u/s appointments. I haven't had him come to the other appointments because it's not that easy for him to leave work. He will be coming with me to my 36 week appointment though. That way we can both get any questions answered by the doctor that we may have, before I'm full term.

mrsnicolew · November 2009

DH went to the first appt and to the 20 week u/s. He'll go to the 36 week u/s as well. But that's it. I think it's silly for him to go to all of them when they mostly just consist of weight, BP, feeling any PTL symptoms?, any ?'s, see you in 4 or 2 or 1 week (s).

ernlei608 · November 2009

My DH has Tuesday's off, so if I can schedule a Tuesday appointment he comes to them. Otherwise nope, I do call him and let him know how the appointment went.

JameRoo430 · November 2009

It's an hour drive for my DH too but we would schedule the latest appt available (4pm) and my DH would go into work early and then make it up the next day too. My DH went to all of the appt's in the first and second trimesters, then went to appt.'s once a month when they started becoming more frequent. He's been coming to them all now though (and their twice a week) since my bp has been really high.

fellesferie · November 2009

DH came to the first appointment, which is when we saw the baby's heartbeat, and he came to the anatomy scan. If it was important to me, he would have come to all of them, but it's not a big deal for me, so I just tell him when I'd like for him to be there.

jhenry1204 · November 2009

Yup. I think he's missed two (due to work), and he will have to miss the one I have on Wednesday (again bc of work). HE HATES missing the appointments. I have no problem going alone, but DH really wants to be as involved as possible. He's going to be such a good, attentive Daddy! Big Smile

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