Family drama vent....

qtjess1110 · October 2009

Listen to this, My BIL wife left him this week they are getting divorced after 2 years of marriage (long story). Well 2 weeks from now my mom is having a party for me at her house, Mostly family some friends.Well my MIL tells me that she and my FIL are coming to the party and that my BIL is coming too but he is bringing a girl. WHATTTT isnt this a little soon. Almost all the people are gonna expect to see his wife and he is gonna show up with another girl. Not to mention this girl is my MIL (best friends Daughter) WTF. I didnt say anything cause I was in shock. Should I just let this girl come and ignore the situation or should I say its inapropriate to bring some one else so soon? This is so embarressing. LOL.And my husband is also at a loss at to what to do he is just as lost as me.

lilitaliangirl · October 2009

Um, yeah I would def say it's too soon. I would tel MIL that you think it might be inappropriate for him to bring her and to expect ALOT of questions on the situation. But, they are grown adults and if that's what they want to do so be it - they'll look like the "bad guys" - let her know you don't want any part of it.

Now, if it were my MIL, she feeds on drama and would probably get excited knowing all the gossip is about to start.

Good luck. Sounds like a the start of many ulgy situations.

qtjess1110 · October 2009

MIL loves DRAMA ok.

lissah23 · October 2009

JMHO but I really don't think anyone has a right to tell him what's appropriate or not...it's his decision to start dating, not anyone else's.

Brittany Nasn · October 2009

if it was me i would ask him not to bring her. my brother and i are close and he would understand if i explained it to him. good luck

Krisx2 · October 2009

Um. Ya. That sounds like a big mess. I would definetly voice my opinion and say that it is NOT appropriate to bring her. That just crosses to many boundaries to count.

qtjess1110 · October 2009

I dont mind at all he is dating some one. But basically he is still a married man, JMHO.

Krisx2 · October 2009

lissah23:
JMHO but I really don't think anyone has a right to tell him what's appropriate or not...it's his decision to start dating, not anyone else's.

I agree that it's nobody's business to tell him whether dating within the same week is appropriate or not. But bringing the date to a party is not really seemly at this point in time.

qtjess1110 · October 2009

So looks like I am going to say something...Ughhhh and the drama begins. LOL

mooeta · October 2009

Maybe he's uncomfortable coming to a baby shower alone. I'd cut him some slack. You weren't in his marriage, you don't know all of the things that went one. Maybe this is his way of getting over his wife, maybe he just needs some companionship right now and some understanding by those around him. I wouldn't say anything.

kpasl7 · October 2009

Wow thats messed up. I def think it's way to soon.

skylined21 · October 2009

I agree with some of what was said prior. It is a party he is invited to and would think he could being a guest if he wants, without a stipulation on who the guest is. If it were my brother or Dh's brother I'd try to be as understanding as i could for him right now, and try not to give him any crap about if he wants to date or whom he wants to date. I'm sure he's having a difficult enough time with out anyone trying to tell him what's "appropriate" for him to be doing right now, especially since he is an adult.

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