Well, nothing else has happened since yesterday, at least.
I went home and made up a story for nanny about a coworker whose nanny dislocated the shoulder of a similarly-aged boy she was caring for, simply out of not knowing any better. OUR nanny flipped...her...lid. Seriously, got nearly hysterical at the thought that that happened to a kid, and was all in a complete frigging TIZZY that I had to worry about that or that I even had the slightest inclination that she herself might do that. (I think in her mind it was an intentional act of anger, not simple neglect.) Hi-LARIOUS. And even this morning, nanny was all in angst and concerned that I'm now worried that SHE might do that (well, DUH), and told me her work life is centered around my baby's safety, yadda yadda yadda. Told me to call 25 times a day, blah blah blah.
Can you tell I'm sick of hearing about it from her? I cannot STAND being lied to or deceived, even by someone who's apparently too stupid to know better. And it makes it even worse that she says all this nonsense to my face. I know she believes what she's saying, and I do know that she cares a lot about HC, but nanny is just too dumb to be taking care of my child anymore. I'm pretty sure she's fibbing about naptimes and activities purely because she just doesn't want us to be mad at her for not doing something right. The problem with that is, it seems to be preventing her from owning up to the minor things that she's messing up, which is some of what had me not able to fully trust her in the first place!
I know you all have heard quite enough about this woman, and someone even replied to my post yesterday about it, and @ Jessica85, you're absolutely right. But there are some aspects of this situation that I haven't included in my stories, and I tend toward the dramatic side, so trust that I've never really felt my baby to be in imminent danger (up until yesterday, at least) from this woman. Nanny is stupid and ignorant, but not a mean, vicious person. She's not knowingly abusive and doesn't ignore or neglect HC day in and day out, otherwise HC would have let me know long before now that she's not comfortable with nanny. And I haven't seen any changes in behavior that might indicate a fear to be left alone with her, you know? But I do appreciate the 2 cents, so to speak. So no worries.
Suffice to say that DH and I are talking nearly nonstop about what to do and when to do it, which is tough to do with him out of town and not due back until tonight. He's working from home next week so he'll be there to watch nanny and HC fairly often, which gives us a bit of time to move ahead with firing her and getting HC settled at the daycare I checked out last week. It means a whole new adjustment period for us, but I have hope that it'll be much easier to transition her now than it was 4 months ago, for a lot of reasons.
Thank you all for reading/listening/responding/supporting; I appreciate the responses and righteous indignation on my and HC's behalf. Cross your fingers that today goes better (I've of course made it crystal clear that nanny should NEVER lift HC up like that, and I think she's aware of my stance on that, given that I told her if anyone did that to my kid I'd probably strangle them), and that next week's transition is at least not a complete debacle!