How to get her to go to bed by herself?

Re: How to get her to go to bed by herself?

• xbrooklyngrl

  October 2009

  One day I did something so simple, I said I had to poop, and she let me leave! It was something she could understand, I then had to change it to me having to shower or whatever.

  This was after reading her regular bed time story and stuff, so we still had our routine but at least I didn't have to wait until she passed out anymore.

  Good luck!

  

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• mlm1128

  October 2009

  I have no advice, but I need to be able to get back to this post and see what others say.  We end up laying with dd most nights...and she is going to be 4 i two weeks.  At this point, I'm pretty sure one of us will need to go away to college with her.

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• hopefulmom member

  October 2009

  Is Oliver always sleeping before she goes to bed?  If so, maybe make his bedtime a little later after she's gone to "carried on" and finally gone to sleep.  It's just a habit you have to help her break.  Won't be easy but certainly not impossible.

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• omurray

  October 2009

  When my DS was 16 months old, I was trying to wean him from having to be rocked to sleep at night and did a gradual progression that worked beautifully for him.  He never shed a single tear.  I wonder if something similar would work for you?  I explained to him the first night that I was gonna rock him for a few minutes, then put him in his crib and he was gonna fall asleep all by himself and mommy would fall asleep on the floor.  We did that for 4 nights in a row (I left the room after I knew he was asleep).  Then I told him, okay, I'm gonna rock you and put you in and I'm gonna sit right outside your door and leave the door open a little.  We did that for 4 nights.  Then I told him I'd do the same thing, but close the door all the way.  We were home free after that.  Good luck!

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• neesernicole

  October 2009

  We are there but it's getting better. I have done what xb has done b/c the bathroom is right across from her room. i close the bathroom door and keep on walking and she falls asleep.

  I also don't lay with her when I read her stories. I sit beside her on the edge of the bed. As much as I love snuggling, I pass out too and waste the whole night away.

  After i'm done with stories, turn out the light, I move to the floor, then I move to the wall by her door and then i gradually get out into the hallway. The time keeps going down each night and I def had fears of living with her in her college dorm room.

  
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  Ethan {1.11.10} & Malia {12.28.06}

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• ccm1203 member

  October 2009

  We still lay down with DS but only for a few minutes. I would tell her before she gets in bed that you will lay with her for a few minutes and then you have to get up to do XYZ because you are going to bed soon.

  Cheryl, Evan 4.25.05, Paige 7.2.07

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• Zenya member

  October 2009

  either leave in increments (I'll be back when I'm done with the dishes... etc) or move yourself out of the room bit by bit.  Or maybe a reward/bribe?  It won't be hard if she's ready.  There are a couple of gentle, graceful ways to make the transition.  Don't let people scare you into letting her CIO. (my own pet peeve).
  

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