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TTC After a Loss
Cow-girl
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Im leaving the bump for awhile....
Cow-girl
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Because apparently nothing is sacred and people are too damned nosy for their own good! I am so angry/upset/frustrated right now that I can see straight.
I posted yesterday on PL board about how I was torn about whether or not I wanted to go to my cousins wedding.. There are lots of issues here is the original post...
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/24132158.aspx
And today on fb she posts this on her status...... "Two days to go - excied but also very emotional today. All I can say is, be careful what you post on certain mesage boards and do not be naive enough to think that people won't see it."
Ok first of all, it makes me mad because what gives her a right to stalk me on a pg loss board when she is pg? Second, keep your damn comments to yourself because you havent been supportive of me anyway!
Do you guys think I am wrong to be angry?
I guess I will just take a bump break.. Most of you know where to find me on fb anyway... I will miss you ladies, but I cant take the stress of people stalking me... Since when did we go back to high school antics? Some people, blah!
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Re: Im leaving the bump for awhile....
I'm so sorry for your cousin's stupid response, I understand why you would need to miss the wedding and I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you feel.
Hugs.
Yah obviously she is still stalking me! B!tch
I would probably try to be polite as possible and explain how you feel. Write her a message telling her how you feel that this is a place to come for support----and yes, like it or not, you needed advice on how to handle her w/her thoughtless toward you. Hopefully she'll be mature enough to back off.
I'm sorry you're going through this. That's just ridiculous.
I'm sorry you've been stuck in this position Lynn. I agree - it's pretty sad if she can leave a nasty update like that, but not call to see how you are or support you.
(((hugs)))
I hope you see this before you go.I personally will miss you. I'm not on FB (DH ) is. I understand your feelings but I wouldn't let my stupid cousin ( and Stupid Cousin feel free to PM me if you want to respond) make me leave a place where I was getting the support and love that she obviously can't or won't give you...just my opinion. I pray for you and every one else on this board multiple times a day. Not trying to sound super holy cause I'm not just pray when it hits my mind which is often.
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What a biiitch. Don't let her drive you away... this is YOUR place to come, NOT hers. And if she does not like something you have to say she can come chat with us TTCAL girls and we can tell her where she can stick her snooty nose!!
I agree with this, mostly because I don't want to be without you. But of course do what you need to do, and we'll always be here for you.
Wow, completely rude and uncalled for. Also, I don't understand the lurking on a MC/PL board. Is there some sort of fascination seeing other women suffer?
We will miss you, sweetie. I hope things get better and you are able to come back. Take care of yourself.
I'm so sorry that your safe place to vent has been invaded. You don't deserve that. How snarky of her to post that on fb rather than just reach out to you. Not cool.
I wrote this to you already, but I'll post it so the other girlies can see.
"I'm sorry greiving for the loss of my child is making YOU emotional. I don't remember venting to you specifically, but the girls I do vent to know what I'm feeling. Maybe you should learn to mind your own business. When I come crying to you (which isn't going to happen) feel free to throw in your two cents."
FWIW, I love you Lynn!
personally, i think that if she has something to say to you she should say it TO you, and not be passive-aggressive with facebook status posts. which also means that i think if you have something to say to her, you should just say it to her.
does this mean you're not going to the wedding?
Your cousin sounds like a jerk. Yes you cousin who is probably reading this. You're a jerk!
I'm sorry you're going through this.
Yes, she is family but she can stay just that .. a distant family member, no longer a friend too. Relationships change ... even though it can be super difficult for you, keep your chin up! I'll miss you Lynn!!! I'm thinking of you and support whatever you decide.
Natural miscarriage - April 2009 ~ We love you, 'Blueberry'
Lydia, born July 12, 2010
Labor buddy to Kelly0615
Lynn, we can go jump her if you want.
But really, de-friend her ASAP. AND we can report her so she has to leave, not you.
Hey Cowgirl, I will be so sad to see you go for a while.
Maybe you'll be back with good news. 
It sounds like there are a lot more issues going on with this cousin than I totally understand. Despite how difficult it was for me to be around pregnant women, I still hold the belief that if you're invited to a wedding and don't already have something HUGE planned, you should go. But like I said, it sounds like you have many other issues with this cousin, so I have no idea what you should do.
As for the FB thing, are you sure it was you? Maybe some other family member ranted about her on some other board.
ahhahahahha... How funny would that be? If this really is the last straw with her, I would just quietly defriend her and be done. You don't need more drama.
Love you, girl. I'll be thinking about you and praying for you. (((BIG HUGS)))
Natural miscarriage - April 2009 ~ We love you, 'Blueberry'
Lydia, born July 12, 2010
Labor buddy to Kelly0615
Oh this totally made up my mind about going to the wedding.. I will NOT be going. She showed her true colors and just totally proved my point about why I didnt want to go in the first place...
And maybe we found the OSB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe we should all go stalk her on theknot?!
Her posting on FB is total passive agressive BS. If she happened to see it (and why would she even be internet stalking you?) and had issue, she should have talked to you IN PERSON. I would be so mad if I were you.
And please don't leave us, we love you too much.
This. Banning should just not be saved for TTCAL
lololololol.
::Spits coffee all over keyboard::: That made me LMAO! Thank you!
I dont know if I want to stoop to her level ya know...? And I havent found a post from her yet! LOL
Completely agree with this!! Can't believe she feels this is all about her!!!
Well said. Don't leave because she has issues. She'd just be robbing you of your safe place to reveal your feelings.
If you need to leave for your mental health, by all means take a bump break. I think I need one myself.
But if you're leaving because this person is stalking you and posting passive agressive comments on facebook, please don't let her take away your space and your community. She may stalk you for a bit, but she'll lose interest because this has nothing to do with her.
Lynn,
Don't let your stupid, ignorant, pathetic, loser, immature, f*** up cousin drive you away from here. (Cousin, feel free to PM me, I'd love to give you a piece of my mind) This is where YOU come to get support that sh*tty people like you cousin can't give you because they must have some major issues including zero compassion. Delete her from FB and keep on posting here. If she has the balls to come here and say something on one of your post, I'm sure your real friends and true support system will let her know how they feel about her.
Love ya girl
BTW, I'm mailing your thing today!
Only because I try to see some good in everyone...
Does your cousin by chance have any friends or other relatives that are Bump or Nest users? Maybe someone found your SN and then looked up posts?
That'll be my only benefit of the doubt of her for you. I'm sorry she left such a snarky message (on her status no less!)! Even if she wasn't the one stalking you on here, I don't think she should've left a message like that.
I'm sorry you'll be leaving us for a bit, I know I'm going to miss you!
2 years of TTC, Seeing RE Feb 09, 2 medicated TI cycles - BFNs, 3 medicated IUIs - BFNs, back to medicated TI cycles until IVF approval, IVF approved in March 2010. BFP on last medicated TI cycle.