Do you think having more than 1 LO made you more laid back?

MrsPreK · October 2009

Just curious....

I read all these posts over on 0-6 about new mom's freaking out for various reasons. Nothing in particular, just the things that I know would have upset me when I first had DS.

Now that I have (2) LO's I don't feel the need to get upset because either I've been through it already with DS, or I just don't feel it's that big of a deal Speaking of everyday issues here (sleeping, feedings, diaper changes, etc), not medical/sickness issues where I know we all can feel helpless at times.

Maybe I'm just a laid back person, lol.

Do you think having more than 1 child makes you more laid back and less worrisome (sp?)?

SpartanGirl · October 2009

I've definitely relaxed a lot more since DS was born. I'm naturally a pretty high strung person, but I think having been through it once has helped. I've also had to accept that some things just aren't possible or at least possible without a huge headache (the *perfect* picture of the kids, always having them dressed just so, a spotless house, etc).

I'm actually hoping I will relax even more once baby #3 is here.

daisies0406 · October 2009

I've always been pretty laid back, but I'm not nearly as concerned with things with DS as I was with DD, I just go with the flow and let him tell me what he needs.

MrsPreK · October 2009

Thanks ladies for responding.

I hate to be rude, but I see some posts on 0-6 and just roll my eyes. Sometimes I can't help myself and post anyways, LOL.

emas · October 2009

I am more relaxed now than before my first was born, and even than while she was little... then again, there is no way that I could be more uptight than I was before! I'm finding that, so far, the 2nd one is much less stressful - I think partly b/c I have a clue what's going on this time.

lvisser · October 2009

The opposite. I freak out more. 'm not sure why exactly...

I brought Kai to the Pedi when I thought his stub was infected... it fell off the next day... I even took him to the ER already (but that was probably with good cause...)

Rylee has been to the Pedi once (in addition to the well child checks of course) and never been to urgent care/ER...

lvisser · October 2009

Oh... in regards to sleeping/feeding I am way more relaxed... it will happen (like STTN) when it happens.. I enjoy my time with him alot in the middle of the night since I know its the last time..

JARbaby · October 2009

MrsPreK:
Thanks ladies for responding.
I hate to be rude, but I see some posts on 0-6 and just roll my eyes. Sometimes I can't help myself and post anyways, LOL.

Spot on!

HarrietNJMommy · October 2009

Yup, and wait until you have 3 - you are super laid back! LOL!

I still worry, but not about the milestones, etc. More about how I'm raising my kids (morals, values, etc.) and my relationship with them.

MrsGeek · October 2009

I am way more relaxed about hings. For example, I would sit in the back of the car with DD until she was 9 months old so that I could soothe her. I have never once sat in the back with DS. I was like, screw that, I'm over being in the back of the car!

lilone_06 · October 2009

Yes, in fact DH just remarked on this the other day. For instance, I now no longer freak out if DD2 goes to bed in her 'daytime' outfit (lol, they're all pretty much PJs at this age anyway - why was I so anal about it last time?!).

howleyshell · October 2009

WAYYYY more laid back with #2 than with #1.

I think that's normal.

2nd time around you know what to expect (to some degree) and you learn not to sweat the small stuff.

You know from experience that a fever and a runny nose is not likely to kill your kid. The first time you ever had a baby with a fever it was scary as hell. I wished that I had a medical degree so I'd feel competent enough to take care of him.

With #2 I knew that I had a "mommy degree" and I could handle him being sick and really know when I needed to get him to a medical professional.

Same with developmental stuff. I compared #1 to others his age and worried about his progression. Now that he's older I see that they all "get there" developmentally. They just have different areas of interest at different times. It doesn't really matter if they do something early or a little late. They'll get there.

I'm really really enjoying their lives and mine. I'm much more laid back.

I'm so so grateful that we got to have 2. There are so many who wish to and will never get to.

Mr.&MrsS · October 2009

I am definetly more laid back this time around. With Brady I worried about EVERYTHING, but this time I dont worry about all those things. I think I know what I am doing this time and I have more confidence so that makes it easier.

LoveEeyore · October 2009

Yes and no. Yes b/c I wasn't afvraid to break them. Yes b/c witgh #1 I complied data sheets upon data sheets on her eating- how long on each breast, time, etc, sleep, even the activities that we did and how well she liked them. I haven't taken any data on the twins...and to be honest don't typically really know who ate/slept for how long... if they're hungry, they eat, if they're tired they sleep...

No- because the things I am rigid on I am 3 times as inflexible- ie our eveening routine. I am going to be a real joy TO BE around over the holidays!

scherza · October 2009

Yes, but I'm not dealing with PPD this time around, which helps a lot.

ITA with LoveEeyore; I am NOT flexible about bed and nap routines and regularity, and I just don't care how much static I get about it from anybody. THEY aren't the ones who are going to have to try to soothe an overtired baby later!

Want a personalized experience?

Do you think having more than 1 LO made you more laid back?

Re: Do you think having more than 1 LO made you more laid back?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards