How long will you wait to tell people about BFP?

roxyttandme · September 2009

9 weeks? 12 weeks??? After the NT Scan???

mjz · September 2009

Our current plan is to tell only my mom right away, then share the news with everyone else after 12 weeks. We don't live near any family, so I'm hoping it won't be too difficult.

Scout05 · September 2009

We're already telling our parents, because w're all very close and it would be impossible not to share with them. But we're waiting until the NT screening for everyone else - that was when we found that we would not be able to go forward with our first pregnancy, so it seems like the right milestone to get past first.

krate24 · September 2009

Depends who. My parents, ILs and a few select others? Very early on. Extended family? Sometime in the second tri. Everyone else? Who knows. Maybe around 20 weeks. We did basically the same thing the first time around.

ShellShockedMama · September 2009

I'm waiting until well into the 2nd tri, and/or when I can no longer hide a belly. not sure how long that will be.

katie9136 · September 2009

We only told our parents for now. Oh, and I told the workplace, in case something happens.

Everybody else gets to wait until we know the sex. Or for sure until i am out of 1st tri - i imagine i might be okay telling around 16 weeks.

lahorn · September 2009

i think i will be telling my best friend, she knew the last time. and i think i will want to tell my mom. she didnt know last time until i had m/c. but this time i think i will like her support and strength. otherwise we will wait until we get into the 2nd trimester.

Ehoff33 · September 2009

When we see the heart beat...We had a blighted Ovum the first time...so at our ultrasound if we see a strong heart beat Im screaming it for everyone to hear!

JaimieLee · September 2009

krate24:
Depends who. My parents, ILs and a few select others? Very early on. Extended family? Sometime in the second tri. Everyone else? Who knows. Maybe around 20 weeks.

This.

MrsDCruz · September 2009

14 weeks

meggiejo · September 2009

Since we have been told twice that everything looked good, gone ahead and told family, then had to take it back a few days later, we have decided to tell everyone as soon as we get a BFP. We did that with DS and everything turned out okay, so maybe it will work the same again. Also, we had MAJOR issues with my SILs gossiping about if I was pg or not last time and it really upset me, so I figure getting it out in the open quickly prevents that from happening again.

Tlee714 · September 2009

this is a hard one for me...i could wait until 12 weeks, but with my last pregnancy that wouldn't have mattered anyway since i lost the baby at 19 weeks so everyone knew by then, i would like to wait until 20 weeks but i think people would notice.

Seamonkey88 · September 2009

I imagine that we will tell anyone relatively early (whenever we see or talk to people). Even though we had to tell people we had lost the pregnancy last time and it was difficult, it was wonderful to have the weeks we had that we thought we had a normal happy pregnancy and being able to share that with everyone. Not to mention that having everyones support after the loss was very helpful.

hopingwaiting · September 2009

I'll tell my friend who has been through m/c herself and has been such a rock through this with my BFP. Everyone else, including family, has to wait for after a good news ultrasound in second tri. This is our first so I don't want a lot of people to know we're even TTC.

PeetiePie · September 2009

I'll probably tell my mom, MIL, step-FIL and SIL right away. Everyone else will have to wait until my belly is as big as santa.

sydney0928 · September 2009

I'm planning to hide in my house with DH until baby arrives healthy and happy.

LMichelleG · September 2009

This time around we may tell a close friend or 2, otherwise we're going to try to wait until the 2nd tri or I start showing. Neither of our families can keep a secret, and it was just too painful to un-tell people last time.

Kelly0615 · September 2009

We are waiting until I'm possibly showing. I may tell my BFF and swear her to secrecy but that's it.

My sister experienced a loss at 20 weeks so I really don't need everyone on pins and needles for 2 months...I'll be nervous enough!

Heidisean · September 2009

Mother and IL's right away. Everyone else not until after the NT scan and everything is OK. My last mc was after 12 weeks and we told everyone for the 3rd time and had to until for the 3rd time. IT SUCKS!