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this post is about my toddler and poop hell.

BrideofrankenBrideofranken
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so every time she has to go, she is a real troll. For hours. I usually know she has to go, because she is SO grouchy and whiny.

she always ends up going in the potty- but for hours leading up to the big event, she complains that her peep hurts, she runs to the toilet, sits for 10 seconds and then comes out...no product.

then finally, she goes and is a totally different kid.

WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THIS?

her poop isn't hard or gigantic, so it isn't constipation, she doesn't have any rash or anything, and she didn't do this with diapers...

right now I just yelled at her to go sit on the potty and not get up until she poops, because I am SICK of dealing with her intense jerkiness for hours until she craps...

I feel bad- but I am SO SICKOFIT!

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  • omurrayomurray
    My son did the exact same thing when he first learned to poop in the potty.  It was really frustrating and I yelled too.  I know you're not supposed to show frustration with potty training, but when you've been to the bathroom 54 times in 1 hour with your kid, you tend to lose it!  Anyway, he grew out of it after a couple weeks, thank goodness.  I'm sure your DD will stop doing this too as soon as she gets more comfortable with the process.
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  • xbrooklyngrlxbrooklyngrl
    B is the same way, I have to sit down with her, rub her belly and back WHILE reading a book to her at the same time. It makes me crazy.
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  • camrudecamrude

    That's how M was. Drove me insane. What worked for us (but I would never wish on anyone) is that she would get bound up because she would not poop. It got so bad we ended up having to give her an enema. Worst.thing.ever.

    After that, all we had to do was mention the "poop medicine" and she would go to the bathroom, no problem.

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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member
    I'm sure you've tried everything so I don't want to oversimplify, but my DD loves to sit with a book.  I think it really helps her relax.  She especially likes lift-the-flap books when she's pooping.  Something to do, I guess.
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  • BrideofrankenBrideofranken

    imagehikerbeth:
    I'm sure you've tried everything so I don't want to oversimplify, but my DD loves to sit with a book.  I think it really helps her relax.  She especially likes lift-the-flap books when she's pooping.  Something to do, I guess.

    this made me snort- im congested,ok- but I like that she has a poop book preference!

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  • tmp-726880625006534tmp-726880625006534 member

    My DD is your DD's poop twin!  LOL  I am as frustrated as you are.  She does this whole dance when she has to go, plus she has gas so it is totally obvious.  She tells me she has togo butthen won't go.  Or she will be doing her little poopy dance and I ask her if she has to go or tell ehr to go and she says "No, I;m fine".  But when she says this it is through clenched teeth because she has to go so bad.  And same thing - it is isn't hard, it is sometime sbig, but it doesn't hurt (at least she says it doesn't).  She'll tell me her tummy hurts.  Then finally she will go and first thing she says "Mommy I feel better".  Duh!!

    I don't get it.  I always remind her she feels better when she goes, I tell her everyone poops, I tried bribing with ice cream, I give her lots of fiber hoping to help.  Nothing works.

    My DH sat with her and read a book for 15 mins. the other day and she finally went.  I am trying the whole you can't leave the bathroom until you go, by giving  her some books to read while she is in there.   I keep waiting for this phase to pass. 

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  • hikerbethhikerbeth member
    imageBrideofranken:

    imagehikerbeth:
    I'm sure you've tried everything so I don't want to oversimplify, but my DD loves to sit with a book.  I think it really helps her relax.  She especially likes lift-the-flap books when she's pooping.  Something to do, I guess.

    this made me snort- im congested,ok- but I like that she has a poop book preference!

    I always think of that book as "flagged" like in Seinfeld where George took a book from a bookstore into the bathroom.

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  • LestaMarieLestaMarie

    girl, I feel your pain.  DD used to be a straight-up brat when she needed to poop and she WOULD NOT GO.  This lasted for over a year.  She just now (about a month ago) started going on the toilet.  She would get so mean and grouchy...it was terrible.  When the poo finally came out (as it's bound to do eventually), she really was a different little girl.  So sweet, and happy...but we would deal with it for days, rather than hours.  It s.u.c.k.e.d.

    Couple of suggestions - you could give her a teaspoon or two of Miralax every day.  Doesn't "make" her poop but it definitely eases things up.  There are also some stool softening tablets (walgreens brand - they're little red capsules) that are safe for ages 2 and up.  I give them to DD about every three days.  Also, PediaLax makes suppositories (think 12 for $3 or something)...just stick one of those up her butt and she won't have a choice. :P

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  • BrideofrankenBrideofranken
    imageRagdoll72:

    My DD is your DD's poop twin!  LOL  I am as frustrated as you are.  She does this whole dance when she has to go, plus she has gas so it is totally obvious.  She tells me she has togo butthen won't go.  Or she will be doing her little poopy dance and I ask her if she has to go or tell ehr to go and she says "No, I;m fine".  But when she says this it is through clenched teeth because she has to go so bad.  And same thing - it is isn't hard, it is sometime sbig, but it doesn't hurt (at least she says it doesn't).  She'll tell me her tummy hurts.  Then finally she will go and first thing she says "Mommy I feel better".  Duh!!

    I don't get it.  I always remind her she feels better when she goes, I tell her everyone poops, I tried bribing with ice cream, I give her lots of fiber hoping to help.  Nothing works.

    My DH sat with her and read a book for 15 mins. the other day and she finally went.  I am trying the whole you can't leave the bathroom until you go, by giving  her some books to read while she is in there.   I keep waiting for this phase to pass. 

    you are SO right- all of this, I could have written-except I bribe with cupcakes! (pink ones? yes. pink ones.)

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    imagecamrude:

    That's how M was. Drove me insane. What worked for us (but I would never wish on anyone) is that she would get bound up because she would not poop. It got so bad we ended up having to give her an enema. Worst.thing.ever.

    After that, all we had to do was mention the "poop medicine" and she would go to the bathroom, no problem.

    lol. my mother did this to me once and let me tell you -- I was cured!!

    My son looooves to use the My First Leap Frog Pad (the bus one) on the potty. He'll Sponge Bob it for a good 20 minutes or more. He gets a ring around his butt, which cracks me up.

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    imageBrideofranken:
    imageRagdoll72:

    My DD is your DD's poop twin!  LOL  I am as frustrated as you are.  She does this whole dance when she has to go, plus she has gas so it is totally obvious.  She tells me she has togo butthen won't go.  Or she will be doing her little poopy dance and I ask her if she has to go or tell ehr to go and she says "No, I;m fine".  But when she says this it is through clenched teeth because she has to go so bad.  And same thing - it is isn't hard, it is sometime sbig, but it doesn't hurt (at least she says it doesn't).  She'll tell me her tummy hurts.  Then finally she will go and first thing she says "Mommy I feel better".  Duh!!

    I don't get it.  I always remind her she feels better when she goes, I tell her everyone poops, I tried bribing with ice cream, I give her lots of fiber hoping to help.  Nothing works.

    My DH sat with her and read a book for 15 mins. the other day and she finally went.  I am trying the whole you can't leave the bathroom until you go, by giving  her some books to read while she is in there.   I keep waiting for this phase to pass. 

    you are SO right- all of this, I could have written-except I bribe with cupcakes! (pink ones? yes. pink ones.)

     Of course pink ones - what other color is there (well purple). 

    Hmmm.  Maybe something new to try! LOL  Mine would have to have sprinkles added though!

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  • babykin18babykin18
    Anthony does the same exact thing.  he usually ends up going in the potty eventually, but the hours leading up to it are frenzied, grumpy, and not fun.  We have tried even offering diapers, but he refuses and states he wants to go on the potty.  He just seems to hold it to the last possible second.  The only thing I can figure is that maybe he hasn't figure out how to "push it out" until it is literally coming out of him.  As soon as he goes he is totally a different kid.  We joke that his poop has grumpies in it, because the second he is done it's like his moody switch turns off.
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