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DavezWife
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My Poppa is dying :-(
DavezWife
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I just got off the phone with my mom. Her dad fell in the bathroom the other night, I insisted they check him into the hospital b/c of some other minor issues he was having... and a scope today revealed his stomach is one huge inoperable cancerous tumor. Doc says 3 weeks to 3 months, but I say that's generous. He's alert and aware, no pain at the moment. He wants to come home to die. I've worked hospice and oncology and seen 50+ people take their last breath. I never thought my own grandfather would be 51, but I would rather be there than some strange nurses coming in and out all the time. We're going to all figure out a game plan tomorrow.
I'm just kinda numb. Watching someone die slowly has got to be the worst thing everrrrrrr. In about a week or so, after we've all said what we want to, etc. I'm going to just start hoping he has a nice long sleep, and gets to skip the chitty part.
Sorry to post such sadness on a happy night for Babbs, but this just sucks.
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Re: My Poppa is dying :-(
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
I'm so so sorry...that stinks.
While I was still doing hospice, I had a very close friend of the family on services with my hospice, and it was tough. I was there when he passed, and I thought I could do it. I broke down...and I've been with more dying people (hospice and ICU) than I care to remember.
Get hospice...let them medicate him and be there to hold you and your family up when you need it. You can still be there with him...but you can just be his grand-daughter and let the nurses do the tough stuff...
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They arrived at 36 weeks after PTL and bedrest for 14 weeks.
hospice will be on board - I imagine legally they'll have to be, I can't be pushing meds as his granddaughter ;-)
I just reaaaaalllllllyyyyyyyy don't want this to be drawn out. He's age 87. He's had a great life. My goodness, we've had some GREAT years with him, he wants to be with his wife (she died many years ago, quickly, I might add) and I have many wonderful memories, etc. I just don't want it to take a long time. That effing sucks for anyone to go thru.
Thanks for all the hugs, as much as I claim to hate them, it's very nice of you all. I'm heading off to bed soon (bless the ativan and red wine, lol) so thanks in advance. g'nite.
Here he is as one of my "ring bearers" in our wedding, he also took the rings around and had everyone lay their hands on them and bless them. It was beyond cute.
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I am sorry Tracie... I have now watched 3/4 of my own grandparents die and 1 of Todd's. and watching my beloved Nana descent into the hell of alzheimers...
I am so sorry, it never gets easier and it never stops making us aware of the fragility of life. Hug Ava and Davez close...
I'm so sorry. Love that story about him at your wedding, though. It's stories like that that'll get you through the quiet, sad times to come.
I was lucky enough to be with my mother during her final weeks. It was the greatest gift I could give to her ... and to myself. I still think, that after having kids, it's the best, most amazing thing I've ever gone through. It was hard as hell losing her, and I miss her every day and the pain will never go away, but to be there with her through her dying, as she was with me through my being born ... I thank God I could do it. I thank the universe I could be with her.
Saddest time of my life, but ... it's part of life. I'm glad your grandfather had a good life. He's lucky to have you. And you're lucky you'll be able to be with him during his final days. It's important. The last thing you'll ever be able to do for him.
I'm sorry. It's very rough to get those kind of news.
Enjoy your time together as much as you can. If your gpa is up for it, have him read a story for Ava and record it. I wish I did that with my gfather before he passed away this summer
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I'm so sorry. I watched my grandpa pass and although it was very hard it was also very peaceful and lovely since he had suffered with cancer for a while. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Take care.
*hugs*
I'm so sorry, it must be so hard.
Sorry Davez. ((HUGS))
I understand. My dad was just d/x w/ stage 4 lung cancer. I'm not ready to watch him die. ::sigh::
oh tracie, i'm so sorry. huge hugs, sweetie.