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Self Esteem Slump (possible TMI)

Kendall13Kendall13
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It's not like I expected my body to be able to go back to "normal" after having babies.  I was mentally prepared for stretch marks and remaining baby weight.  I know full well that after going from a 36D to a 36G that my boobs are going to be saggy when all is said and done.

It's not the little lines that showed up after my belly shrank that bother me, it's the horrible tearing from labor that does. 

I worked out my entire pregnancy thinking that if I was fit enough I'd be able to just pop him out.  After pushing for 1.5 hours the on call OB decided to use a vacuum.  I was feeling so frustrated and discouraged that I didn't object, but now I wish that I had given my body more time to stretch on its own.

I tore up the front and received 5 or so stitches.  I don't know if my stitches dissolved too quickly, but they didn't seem to take.  Now that I've healed it still feels like (sorry if this is TMI) I'm torn from my vaginal opening almost to my urethral opening. 

I try to talk to my DH about it.  He says that it's not a big deal and that I shouldn't worry about it, but I can't help but feeling like damaged goods.  I can't imagine wanting to have sex again.

I'm sure that I'll get over it, but for the time being I just feel sad.

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Re: Self Esteem Slump (possible TMI)

  • jolis_petits_bijouxjolis_petits_bijoux

    Urethral tears... I've heard they can be pretty terrible.  I was especially afraid of this as I have Interstitial Cystitis (so I already have enough trouble in that area!)

    Don't feel bad.  Eventually you'll be ready to have sex again.  I had a C/S, and it still took me a long time to warm up to the idea.

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  • mrs.serrato85mrs.serrato85
    I know exactly how you feel. My lady bits will never look the same and im embarassed. Luckily im married and th eonly person who will ever have to see it is my Dr and my husband.
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  • rmarrufformarruffo member
    Youll get there. DH and I went 5 mo wo sex, was too wierd for both during and too wierd for me after. Just be patient.
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  • LGMHRSLGMHRS
    I tore up the front too (not as bad) and I felt the same way.  I didnt want to have sex for a while and when I finally did it HURT. Give it time and I bet you'll feel a whole lot better.  I'm just recently feeling back to normal.
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