How long are you waiting???

kyrastapp · August 2009

How long are you waiting to have another LO? My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. I'm thinking when my DS is about 1 year. She doesnt even want me to go on BC. Does anyone else have this issue going on? What are your thoughts. I cant wait to have another baby but I want to enjoy my DS a little first without the morning sickness and tiredness! Your thoughts are welcome here

MrsShackleford · August 2009

"the 30 mark"??

WTH is wrong with having a baby after 30?

asnowracer · August 2009

That's weird that your OB is even putting her 2 cents in.

I'm waiting till he's in kindergarten because I'm terrified of several months of bedrest again but this time with a child at home. (husband works entirely too many hours a day.) No family nearby.

it's a shame because I'd really like to have 2 kids about 2-3 years apart.

katlizabeth · August 2009

What???? I will be 30 in a few months and have no problem waiting. I understand that I may become less fertile as I grow older, but it's certainly a decision my dh and I will make, not with my ob. I think you need to do what is best for your family (which very well could be conceiving right now, that's up to you guys). I, personally, cannot imagine having morning sickness right now when trying to be a mother to a 6 month old. I know some people do it, on purpose, but it's just not something I want to do right now. Dh and I only use condoms as bc, so we know that it's entirely possible that I could get pregnant, and we'd be happy, but we're not planning to try until we feel it's right for us.

jenn11980 · August 2009

I would like to wait until DS is 2 to start trying again. ?I'll be 32 by then. ?I don't see what the big deal is about having a baby after 30. ?I would do whatever you are comfortable with. ?My doctor didn't say anything to me about being over 30 and pregnant.

alaskabride2be · August 2009

I think that it is interesting that your OB is pushing you into having another baby right away. You still have years to have kids. You don't start changing your risks until after 35 and then again at 40. My OB told me that waiting at least a year was best to give my body a break and to get back to normal. I also plan on BFing that long and don't want to be pregnant and bfing DS. On that note, we are planing on waiting until DS is 2 to start trying, so that would put us having kids around 3 years apart as long as it doesn't take us very long to get pregnant. I did get a Mirena, so that shouldn't be a problem. I would say have your next child when the time is right for you and your family.

RandZB · August 2009

Agree with PP, what's wrong with having a baby after 30? 35 is considered "advanced maternal age" and I know tons of women who have had babies after 35, and some after 40. I had trouble getting pregnant, so I will not be going on hormonal birth control again. I think we will wait until DS is around 18 months, so that he can hopefully be mostly potty trained by the time another one came along.

Sweetgurl6630@yahoo.com · August 2009

The plan is to wait until DS is 2 and then I will stop BC and let nature take its course. Secretly I would like to try when DS is 1 but DH doesn't want too, lol. He says it's too soon!

kyrastapp · August 2009

My OB is also our family doctor and a very good family friend! She knows my whole family so its not like she just is a doctor out of the phone book.

She just thinks that having children before or just around 30 is better than waiting later. She sees less problems with the moms and LO. Plus because I'm not for all the extra testing that is required when your a little older, she just thinks its better for us as a couple to not wait to long. DH wants to try now, he loves being a dad. I love being a mom but I think I want to wait a few months before the morning sickness starts.

fallbride00 · August 2009

Maybe two years before we try again? I'm really just waiting to see how this first one goes though. With all the sleep deprivation and baby blues I'm going through I'm considering only having one.

golfbride11 · August 2009

Sorry to chime in - I'm still a 3rd tri girl but WOW!

I'll be 38 when I deliver this baby (assuming he/she is not 3 weeks late) and this has been a very healthy pregnancy. My OB started out by telling me not to let anyone tell me that I'm doing anything "crazy" by having a baby over 35. There are risks and extra tests run in the beginning but if you haven't even hit 30 yet, I wouldn't think there's much of a rush.

kcbrandle · August 2009

I am not sure we'll be trying again... I guess we'll know if we want to

golfbride11 · August 2009

and your LO is soo cute!!

July_2009 · August 2009

kyrastapp:
How long are you waiting to have another LO? My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. I'm thinking when my DS is about 1 year. She doesnt even want me to go on BC. Does anyone else have this issue going on? What are your thoughts. I cant wait to have another baby but I want to enjoy my DS a little first without the morning sickness and tiredness! Your thoughts are welcome here

Eh? For real? I am 33 and just had my first. OMG...did I commit a croime as per your OB?

kyrastapp · August 2009

golfbride11:

Sorry to chime in - I'm still a 3rd tri girl but WOW!

I'll be 38 when I deliver this baby (assuming he/she is not 3 weeks late) and this has been a very healthy pregnancy. My OB started out by telling me not to let anyone tell me that I'm doing anything "crazy" by having a baby over 35. There are risks and extra tests run in the beginning but if you haven't even hit 30 yet, I wouldn't think there's much of a rush.

Congrats on the LO on the way I hope for you that your not 3 weeks late.. Lol. I also dont think its crazy have a baby at 38 or even 40. My aunt had her first daughter at 39. It was a the best thing that she has ever done. Congrats again and GL with the delivery!

*KC*luvs*RJ* · August 2009

We'll start trying again next August.

kyrastapp · August 2009

July_2009:
kyrastapp:

How long are you waiting to have another LO? My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. I'm thinking when my DS is about 1 year. She doesnt even want me to go on BC. Does anyone else have this issue going on? What are your thoughts. I cant wait to have another baby but I want to enjoy my DS a little first without the morning sickness and tiredness! Your thoughts are welcome here

Eh? For real? I am 33 and just had my first. OMG...did I commit a croime as per your OB?

Not at all. This is based on my beliefs on testing and DH's age (34) and my family's medical history. She bases her opinion on an individaul case.

kyrastapp · August 2009

golfbride11:

and your LO is soo cute!!

Thank you! We are in total love with this little man!

armandos_girl · August 2009

Right now, we are going to wait until DS is about one, but that isn't set in stone. I'll be 30 then, but that isn't why we are trying again so early. DH is 9 years older than I am and he would like to have more kids sooner than later so he can be active with them etc.

mollymurphy · August 2009

kyrastapp:
My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. ?

LOL...I guess I'm totally over the hill. But hey, as everyone knows, 30 is, like, sooo old. ?

mediadiva · August 2009

If you already have had one before 30 I don't think you should rush to have another, I'm not saying wait 5 years but IMHO after JUST having my second (and I am exactly 30.5 years old at her birth) and while I adore my little Rowan and would not do it differently as I love her, I will say having a newborn with a 2yo is rough. If I was going to have a 3rd I would wait until this the new baby is 2 before getting pregnant so she would be 3 when I had the baby, vs being 2 like my toddler is. It's very hard on my toddler. I can handle it, it sucks but to think i was pregnant all through her being 1 thru 2, then with a newborn with her being 2 thru 3, it sucks for her so much. I don't have the patience, time or stamina to do with her what I wish I could.?

?So IMHO (and I feel it's a bit valid as I now have 2) wait until your new one is 2 before "trying" again. Nothing wrong with being 31 or 32 at all. Also I don't think it's good for YOUR body or YOUR hormones to do it as quickly as you are talking about (pregnant with a 6 month old?) you need to give your body time to heal and your hormones to level out. I've been pregnant 2 years of the last 3, but before I got pregnant again my body was pretty much 100% back to what it was before we got pregnant again (and it happened in less then a month where last time it took us 6 months!).

Jenny3 · August 2009

Yikes, I didn't realize 30 was so old! LOL

I'm 34 and LO was my last baby. DH is getting the big V soon

kyrastapp · August 2009

mollymurphy:
kyrastapp:

My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark.

LOL...I guess I'm totally over the hill. But hey, as everyone knows, 30 is, like, sooo old.

Lol

hillausky · August 2009

Don't let you OB tell you when is good or not. Age is just a number. Do what is right for you and your family. We are going to wait a couple of years, at least until DS is closer to 2 years old.

mollymurphy · August 2009

kyrastapp:
mollymurphy:
kyrastapp:

My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. ?
LOL...I guess I'm totally over the hill. But hey, as everyone knows, 30 is, like, sooo old. ?
Lol

Um, actually not really. I'm almost 34. ?

kyrastapp · August 2009

armandos_girl:
Right now, we are going to wait until DS is about one, but that isn't set in stone. I'll be 30 then, but that isn't why we are trying again so early. DH is 9 years older than I am and he would like to have more kids sooner than later so he can be active with them etc.

This is one of the reasons for us also! DH is just a little over 7 years older than I.

kyrastapp · August 2009

mollymurphy:
kyrastapp:
mollymurphy:
kyrastapp:

My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark.

LOL...I guess I'm totally over the hill. But hey, as everyone knows, 30 is, like, sooo old.

Lol

Um, actually not really. I'm almost 34.

Its older than 20 but think about it its younger than 40 and 50 See there is always a bright side to everything

grinsandgiggles · August 2009

This makes me feel like they are pushing people to have kids younger and younger. You are 28...that's crazy to be rushing you. To me, that is an ideal age for having kids.

I am planning on waiting for another 3-4 years to get pregnant. I'd like LO to be a little self sufficient before I have to be pregnant again. I had morning sickness my whole entire pregnancy and I'd hate to deal with a baby or toddler on top of that. I was also so tired and just can't imagine.

I say wait until you are 100% comfortable. If you just had a baby and had no problems getting pregnant, then there is no rush. You are 28. That gives you 7 years before you have to deal with testing. 7 years is a long time.

Chrysallys · August 2009

MrsShackleford:

"the 30 mark"??

WTH is wrong with having a baby after 30?

Because you're ancient! Confused

We are planning on one and done, but even if we weren't my MW told me it isn't good to get pg before a year,even at my crotchety old age of 37.

kyrastapp · August 2009

grinsandgiggles:

This makes me feel like they are pushing people to have kids younger and younger. You are 28...that's crazy to be rushing you. To me, that is an ideal age for having kids.

I am planning on waiting for another 3-4 years to get pregnant. I'd like LO to be a little self sufficient before I have to be pregnant again. I had morning sickness my whole entire pregnancy and I'd hate to deal with a baby or toddler on top of that. I was also so tired and just can't imagine.

I say wait until you are 100% comfortable. If you just had a baby and had no problems getting pregnant, then there is no rush. You are 28. That gives you 7 years before you have to deal with testing. 7 years is a long time.

My parents waited 7 years to give me a sibling and that was a disaster. I have the only child and 1st child syndrom. So we wont be waiting that long. I have a sharing problem still I agree it seems that they are pushing for people to be having children younger and younger.

bb80 · August 2009

don't flame me for lurking lol, just wanted to say i have an older brother who is a year and a half older and a brother who is four years younger and i'm closer with the younger one, i don't think it really matters

kyrastapp · August 2009

Chrysallys:
MrsShackleford:

"the 30 mark"??

WTH is wrong with having a baby after 30?

Because you're ancient!

We are planning on one and done, but even if we weren't my MW told me it isn't good to get pg before a year,even at my crotchety old age of 37.

Nothing is wrong with have children after 30. My doctor is basing this on my family history! It is totally different for every couple.

Chrysallys · August 2009

kyrastapp:
My OB is also our family doctor and a very good family friend! She knows my whole family so its not like she just is a doctor out of the phone book. She just thinks that having children before or just around 30 is better than waiting later. She sees less problems with the moms and LO. Plus because I'm not for all the extra testing that is required when your a little older, she just thinks its better for us as a couple to not wait to long. DH wants to try now, he loves being a dad. I love being a mom but I think I want to wait a few months before the morning sickness starts.

*gag*

For what it's worth the only "extra" testing I had done was the NT scan and genetic blood screen of a finger prick. Plus I opted to do them. No one forces you to do them.

kyrastapp · August 2009

bb80:
don't flame me for lurking lol, just wanted to say i have an older brother who is a year and a half older and a brother who is four years younger and i'm closer with the younger one, i don't think it really matters

I have two younger brothers one 7 years younger and one 9 years younger! I'm closer to the youngest one! It depends on the personality of the siblings. My other brothers personality kind of stinks.

kyrastapp · August 2009

Chrysallys:

kyrastapp:
My OB is also our family doctor and a very good family friend! She knows my whole family so its not like she just is a doctor out of the phone book. She just thinks that having children before or just around 30 is better than waiting later. She sees less problems with the moms and LO. Plus because I'm not for all the extra testing that is required when your a little older, she just thinks its better for us as a couple to not wait to long. DH wants to try now, he loves being a dad. I love being a mom but I think I want to wait a few months before the morning sickness starts.

*gag*

For what it's worth the only "extra" testing I had done was the NT scan and genetic blood screen of a finger prick. Plus I opted to do them. No one forces you to do them.

Thats great that you didnt have to do any special tests. But I didnt think that my OB would have offended anyone do to this is based on me and my family history! So its totally different for her other clients.

Sahara6971 · August 2009

I had my 1st at 28 and 2nd at 32. I think the 3 1/2 year gap is perfect! I feel like I got to really enjoy DS #1 and now his is old enough to be my little helper. My OB told me that she would like me to wait at least 18 months before trying again (1 had 2 c-sections) because of the delivery risks but never said anything about my age.

Brooke81 · August 2009

the average age here for becoming a mother is 30! I agree with others it would be different if you were almost 40 but at 28 I think most doctors would tell you that it's okay to take your time. Well unless you plan on having 10 kids or something.

My midwife recomended waiting until #1 can walk because then you don't have to carry 2 all the time. But that is just because it would be a bit easier.

you need to do what is right for YOU and your family not what the doc thinks you should do. She doesen't have to take care of them you do!

kyrastapp · August 2009

Sahara6971:
I had my 1st at 28 and 2nd at 32. I think the 3 1/2 year gap is perfect! I feel like I got to really enjoy DS #1 and now his is old enough to be my little helper. My OB told me that she would like me to wait at least 18 months before trying again (1 had 2 c-sections) because of the delivery risks but never said anything about my age.

Thank you. I really like getting a first hand look. My brothers are 2 years apart and my mom had a hard time. My little brother didnt want to talk because the other brother talked for him. So 3 1/2 years seems to be the best time frame. Plus DS will be potty trained

Shellbelle22 · August 2009

I actually hope to be done having kids by the time I'm 30. However, I'm only 22 now so I think 8 years of childbearing is enough for me! Like pp said, there's certainly no rush and it just depends on what works for your family. We will wait until DD is at least 18 months and then we'll see. We hope to have 3 kids.

mAnYaSha · August 2009

hillausky:
Don't let you OB tell you when is good or not. Age is just a number. Do what is right for you and your family. We are going to wait a couple of years, at least until DS is closer to 2 years old.

Sorry, but age is not just a number... at some point you hit menopause Stick out tongue

I've never heart 30 being a mark of any sort. DH would like to try again when DS is 1 yr, but it is not realistic with our finances. I don't want to be struggling if I can avoid it. I am hoping to start trying when DS is 2, but I think 3 is more realistic. I am now 27, so either way I would be over 30.

MarriedBestFriends · August 2009

I'm waiting forever.?

Your OB sounds like a real peach.?

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