How long are you waiting???

grinsandgiggles

kyrastapp:

grinsandgiggles:

This makes me feel like they are pushing people to have kids younger and younger.  You are 28...that's crazy to be rushing you.  To me, that is an ideal age for having kids.

I am planning on waiting for another 3-4 years to get pregnant.  I'd like LO to be a little self sufficient before I have to be pregnant again.  I had morning sickness my whole entire pregnancy and I'd hate to deal with a baby or toddler on top of that.  I was also so tired and just can't imagine. 

I say wait until you are 100% comfortable.  If you just had a baby and had no problems getting pregnant, then there is no rush.  You are 28.  That gives you 7 years before you have to deal with testing.  7 years is a long time.

My parents waited 7 years to give me a sibling and that was a disaster.  I have the only child and 1st child syndrom.  So we wont be waiting that long.   I have a sharing problem still   I agree it seems that they are pushing for people to be having children younger and younger.

My closest sister is 10 years older, so I know how that is  

But I wasn't saying wait 7 years...I was saying you have 7 years before you have to go through all the necessary testing.

Jen&Joe06

We are only having one child so we are all done. Plus since I am almost 32 that must mean my ovaries are ready to fall off right?

I guess I don't understand why it even matters how long others are waiting if you have all these "special" circumstances that are making your OB tell you to have another ASAP.

Mrs.Greenie

I will not be on BC, but we have issues conceiving and that is *mostly* why. I am 26 and idealy will have all my children before age 30. Not that there is anything wrong with having children later in life, with my medical history and fertility issues, for me I think younger is better. In fact I wish I would have started earlier if I knew what I know now. I live in Utah and most people I know have "2 under 2". Some things I considered are, I SAH. If I had to work I think I would wait longer. I have A LOT of help. Both of our families are nearby.

I agree with you that it is ok for an OB to make statements/recommendations on a case by case basis. My OB was my mom's OB and now mine, and i trust him and want to know what his opinions are. Of course in the end I will make the decision and he respects that. Anyway we will do IVF again in early/mid 2011, DS will be 2 and I will be 28 and that will most likely be my last PG. If only one baby comes from that I might adopt a few years later.

MuckDiva

The 30 mark?  I am going to be 30 in November and do not plan on having another one soon at all (maybe 2 years).  My OB said nothing about rushing and put me on BC. 

I don't think you should feel pressured to have another one because your OB says so unless he is the DH.

lewis610

from my experience with now 2 under 2 I would wait. my pregnancy was more exhausting second time around because I was not able to rest as much. I would wait until dc is atleast 2 or 3. Terrible twos are horrible.

JosieH

30 Seriously WTF?  I just had a baby and I'm almost 40!  I've never heard of a 30 cutoff and that the silliest thing I've ever heard.  I'm waiting about 6 months before we TTC again.  My Peri didn't counsel me at all on it either.  Just said 3 months would be fine, but it was up to me.

mollymurphy

kyrastapp:

mollymurphy:

kyrastapp:

mollymurphy:

kyrastapp:

My OB wants us to try soon due to the fact that I have two years to the 30 mark. ?

LOL...I guess I'm totally over the hill. But hey, as everyone knows, 30 is, like, sooo old. ?

Lol

Um, actually not really. I'm almost 34. ?

Its older than 20 but think about it its younger than 40 and 50 ? See there is always a bright side to everything ?

You're right: 34 is a great age. One of the things I like the best is I'm not as susceptible to questionable advice. Age does have its perks. You'll see. L.O.L.?

christina627

We don't have a set time frame.  DH doesn't like BC anyway and I just started it again.  I've got the baby itch bad.  I miss being pg and I loved the whole experience and our baby was so big when he was born, I feel I kindof missed out on the whole little baby time (not that the next one will be smaller).  But I would like us to be more settled.  We would like to move out of state and I hope that happens first and I would LOVE to have our own house.

1. Jobs out of state

2. House

3. Dog

4. Baby #2....and #3 and #4 and then maybe we'll quit.

poopteen

Preferably 2-3 years. I'd like to wait until SO finishes his degree and we get settled into a post-grad life, and he'd like to wait until DD is a bit more self-sufficient. I always thought it would be nice to wait until DD could be kind of aware of the becoming a big sister kind of thing, anyway.

renebean319

i hate these types of questions but maybe its just me or because i just pushed a bowling bowl out of my vag a couple months ago.

 * renebean319 shrugs.

sunnyday016

We'll probably wait 2-3 years, maybe a little longer. I love it just being the 3 of us right now so I'm in no rush. DH and I do want a lot of kids (4-5) so chances are I will be having kids after I'm 30. We're both very healthy and had no problems conceiving so I'm not too worried about it.