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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
Scout17
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D&E Followup w/o DH
Scout17
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This is my first post, so as an intro, my husband and I found out at 11w3d that our baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks and I had the D&E three days later. The two weeks right after we found out were definitely the darkest days and I felt completely lost when I wasn?t with my husband, I guess because I knew he understood. I?m starting to feel like I can breathe again but my follow-up appt is on Monday and I am so nervous that it?s going to take me right back. He is out of town and I?m wondering if this is something I am going to be able to handle on my own. I guess I am wondering if the appt is going to be as traumatic as I?m making it out to be in my head. Thanks you so much for any help!
Baby May:
Baby Dot: BFP 6/8/09, missed m/c found 7/28 (11w3d) due to Monosomy X, D&E 7/31
Baby September: BFP 1/9/10, missed m/c found 2/8/10 (8w1d)
Baby Dot: BFP 6/8/09, missed m/c found 7/28 (11w3d) due to Monosomy X, D&E 7/31
Baby September: BFP 1/9/10, missed m/c found 2/8/10 (8w1d)This discussion has been closed.
Re: D&E Followup w/o DH
It won't be as traumatic as you think it will be. Your doctor will probably just ask you some pretty standard questions:
How are you doing? How do you feel physically? Is there anything that you are worried about?
He/She may or may not preform an exam, depending on the information that you provide for him/her.
Did you guys have any sort of testing done in regards to your baby? If you did, and you don't think you can handle the results, ask if your doctor if you can schedule another appointment to discuss them when your DH has returned.
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this but am glad that you have started posting here. I know that you will find comfort and strength among these ladies. Good luck to you!
I am so sorry for your loss.
My follow up appt wasn't that bad. They asked me basic questions about how I was feeling, and what I should expect with regards to my body and healing in the following weeks. They did discuss test results, but we basically new what they were going to say - they all came back normal, so that didn't take me by suprise or upset me.
Thank you both! It does give me the confidence to think I can go on Monday and a better idea of what to expect. I think I was most nervous of ending up back in the ultrasound room by myself (where we found out) for some reason. And we did ask for testing. The doctor told us looking at the ultrasound that she could tell there was a chromosomal problem (the neck was too thick and the umbilical cord was too thick). I know this is going to be hard to hear but I am expecting it and hopeful that it'll give us some answers.
While I'm asking questions, did anyone hear (or experience) of being more emotional when you ovulate for the first time after your loss? My husband's boss told him to be prepared for it (she's been here) and I have been having a tough few days and wondering if this is why. Thanks again!
I hope this isn't posting 8 times...I can't get it to go through!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I think it depends. After my loss, the first time I went back into the office, they happened to be running late, there were millions of pregnant woman in there, the receptionist said something stupid to me, my DH wasn't with me and they put me in the same room where I found out that our little girl lost her heartbeat. I cried hysterically. If you had testing done on your baby and you are going to find anything out there then it may be hard for you. It's hard to say.
It is normal for your emotions to be stronger during your first cycle after your loss, I posted in another post how I was completely crazy that first month after. But, your hormones will level out soon!I hope it goes well and that everything goes smoothly.