Any divorced bumpies out there?

blessedinthewest · August 2009

My ex is the last person on my list that I need to tell I'm pg. We do not talk on a regular basis, but we still have "joint custody" of the dogs. Most times I pick and drop them off he is at work so I don't see him. But I will be seeing him next week so I need to break the news.

Anyone have any experience with this?

Mrs.KLF · August 2009

Just to make sure I understand...you are remarried/with a new guy and it's his baby, right? Just making sure it's not ex's baby before I give my advice.

If you and your ex aren't on good terms, I wouldn't bring it up at all. If he does, great, but I wouldn't go out of my way to tell him.

cara_swinney · August 2009

Sort of, but maybe in not so new of a situation. My DS's father and I divorced several years ago. I'm remarried, he's in a relationship. We see each other a couple of times a week when he picks DS up for dinner or visits. It wasn't exactly 'comfortable' telling him that we are expecting a baby, but he was cordial about it and congratulated us. Still a little awkward.

second_time_around_4_me · August 2009

I am on my second marriage. My ex-husband and I have no contact. That sucks that you still have to see him. I wouldn't say anything to him, but I don't know your situation. My ex is not someone that I would share any personal information with, but that's just me.

Giannismommy707 · August 2009

I'm not divorced since my sons father and I were never married, only engaged.

We've been separated for 2 and a half years, and see each other every week to exchange for visits. I didn't mention anything of it...He noticed my little bump and said it looks like you're having another baby....and our DS said....Santa's bringing me a baby for Christmas. He was happy for us....But we have grown to have a very civil, almost friendly relationship.

I dont think you need to tell him. I mean, it isn't exactly any of his concern. I am sure he will notice soon enough....Good luck though!

second_time_around_4_me · August 2009

Sorry! I hope I didn't sound too harsh (re-read what I said). I guess you can tell how I feel about my ex- haha.

Alex17 · August 2009

If you have any mutual friends or acquaintances he probably already knows.

cinderellabella · August 2009

I see no reason to tell him. If he notices your belly, then he notices. There's not point to point it out to him, he'll find out sooner or later.

blessedinthewest · August 2009

Mrs.KLF:

Just to make sure I understand...you are remarried/with a new guy and it's his baby, right? Just making sure it's not ex's baby before I give my advice.

If you and your ex aren't on good terms, I wouldn't bring it up at all. If he does, great, but I wouldn't go out of my way to tell him.

Yep, definitely not the ex's baby.

Mrs.KLF · August 2009

MrsGarciatobe:
Mrs.KLF:

Just to make sure I understand...you are remarried/with a new guy and it's his baby, right? Just making sure it's not ex's baby before I give my advice.

If you and your ex aren't on good terms, I wouldn't bring it up at all. If he does, great, but I wouldn't go out of my way to tell him.

Yep, definitely not the ex's baby.

LOL, OK. I didn't want my post to come off as rude, I just wanted to make sure I was understanding correctly before I said not to say anything to him, haha.

MrsCarroll.6-10-07 · August 2009

I'm not in this situation, but my sister was in a similar situation, only a little reversed. She was married to her ex, they tried to get PG, got PG, then he decided he was done, and remarried some other chick 8 months later, only a couple months after my niece was born. His wife got PG and he never came right out and told any of us...we just saw her growing. So we knew...just like your ex will know. I wouldn't tell him unless someone you know is going to tell him. GL!

kiki1213 · August 2009

I'm divorced, and my ex was the last person I cared about telling. We have mutual friends, so I'm sure he heard from one of them. He sent me a congratulations text message at one point, and I was cordial back and thanked him. I HATE my ex though, so it probably all depends on the level of dislike you have towards yours. :-)

ella.mabel · August 2009

I'm semi-friendly with my ex-husband. We're both happily remarried. We rarely see each other, but we occasionally run into each other at target for some reason. I decided to email him the news (lame, i know) around 16 weeks. I did it as kind of a "thought you'd want to hear it from me instead of through the grapevine..." because i thought it would be akward having to do it face-to-face.

MSC03 · August 2009

cinderellabella:
I see no reason to tell him. If he notices your belly, then he notices. There's not point to point it out to him, he'll find out sooner or later.

This.

MSC03 · August 2009

And wait... joint custody of the dogs? How long is this going to go on for?

Time to cut the cord, sister!

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