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Shower: Who Should be invited?

swayedswayed
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I originally posted this on the Baby Shower board, but that place doesn't seem to get much traffic!

I don't have a close group of friends where I live. Most of my friends live scattered across the country, and my husband's family is all 3,000 miles away.  I was trying to compile my invitation list for the person hosting my shower, and I started wondering what was appropriate as far as who should be invited.  I know that my MIL and my husband's grandmother and aunts will be invited, even though I know they won't be able to attend.  But what is the ettiquette with friends who live far away?  I don't want people to think that they are just getting a request for a gift, but I also don't want to leave out people that would be invited if they lived closer.  Any thoughts?   

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Re: Shower: Who Should be invited?

  • Brittni RimmerBrittni Rimmer

    Hmm...send them an invitation anyways?

    My rule of thumb (not sure if this is proper etiquette) is that if you don't come, you're not expected to bring a gift.

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  • Leap08Leap08 member

    I live pretty far away from my family and many close friends. I was only planning on sending invites to local friends and immediate family members. If you know people won't attend, I don't see the point in sending an invitation. It's kind of like asking them to send a gift. I'd wait until the baby is born and then send everyone a birth announcement.  

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  • Tinkx123xTinkx123x
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    Hmm...send them an invitation anyways?

    My rule of thumb (not sure if this is proper etiquette) is that if you don't come, you're not expected to bring a gift.

    This! I assume the same thing. If you don't come I don't expect a gift! I don't know if this was wrong but I didn't invite the relatives that live far away and had no chance of coming. 

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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member

    I would invite them but preface it with I totally understand if you can't be there and we do not expect a gift conversation with those people before you send the invites.

    We are not inviting aunts and such who live far away though. Just MIL & SIL and one of my close friends.

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