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I'm so sorry for all of you...

TCTFTCTF
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
I'm sure this might not be what a lot of you want to hear, but I just can't help but want to cry every time I hear of someone losing their baby. I'm in my 15 weeks, and everything is fine so far, but I'm still scared. My husband has a coworker who has been trying for almost a year and a half, and last week they found out they were pregnant, but then the other day she lost the baby, and I cried for forever. I've never even met this woman, but it kills me every time. So I just wanted to say that if any of you just need someone to try and make them feel better, I'll be more than willing.
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  • DandNclarkDandNclark
    I respectfully disagree. It has been almost three weeks since my MC and I am happy to say this post makes me feel better. I know I could be bitter at you for being 15 weeks and pregnant but I think the way you phrased your post is very nice and considerate. Good luck with your baby! Your sweet.
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    Congratulations on your pregnancy.  Try not to be scared, it won't help your nerves or the pregnancy by being stressed out that something might happen.  I'm glad that you have compassion for others who have suffered losses, it is a terrible thing to endure.  I wish you luck with your pregnancy.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • someflower6someflower6 member
    imagesoftskate31:

    thanks for the random outpouring of sympathy, but honestly coming from someone who is 15 weeks and has never had a loss - its a little hard to take.

    I don't think anyone here will seek you out to make them feel better, but it was a nice gesture.

     

    i tend to agree with this. hope you have a H&H 9 months.

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  • priya&peterpriya&peter member

    I very much appreciate your sentiments.  I know that when you are pregnant hearing about someone else's loss can be particularly scary since it hits sort of close to home.  I wish you nothing but a H&H9 but I also understand the ladies who feel offended, for the lack of a better word, by this random outpouring of sympathy.  No one likes to feel like they are pitiable, although I know your post came with good intentions.

    Anyway, enjoy your pregnancy and don't stress about the possibility of a loss.  At the end of the day, no one can control what will happen to them, but statistically, chances are much better you are going to be just fine once you pass the first trimester. 

     

     

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  • DereKimDereKim member
    this post gives me gas
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  • someflower6someflower6 member

    imageDereKim:
    this post gives me gas

    i tend to agree with this as well. Yes

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  • JennyTomJennyTom

    That's nice, I guess?  This just doesn't help me.

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  • Aiden'sMomAiden'sMom member
    Thanks for your empathy and don't worry about your own pregnancy. You have no reason to worry until the doctor gives you news to worry about. Otherwise, you have to assume everything is okay. Congrats to you and best wishes.
    BabyFetus Ticker *Baby Aiden: Silently Born on 11-26-08. *Baby #2: M/C on 4-12-09. *Genetic Testing Found MTHFR & PAI1 4G/5G *TTC Baby #3 Since July of 2009: -Fertility Treatments April 2010-February 2011 (Femara, Proverra, Clomid, HCG Trigger, FSH Injectibles, & IUI, as well as Laparoscopy & Hysteroscopy Surgery) *BFP: Febraury of 2011. Baby due 10-24-11!!! :-) ***Baby Angels- Always in Mommy & Daddy's Hearts & Prayers*** ***Prayers For Growing Baby In Belly To Be Healthy***
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  • superlupersuperluper
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    oh please. not KU. effed up.
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  • someflower6someflower6 member

    imagesuperluper:
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    love it!

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  • ReiszsPiecesReiszsPieces

    Thank you... that's really sweet.  I'm a firm believer that you don't have to go through all the same experiences as someone to give them support.  Otherwise, none of us could ever encourage anyone.  We all have different life experiences.  A lot of us happen to be sharing this m/c experience, but our lives are all very different and we still manage to be there for one another.
    Thank you TCTF for your kindness.  I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy... don't be too nervous, just enjoy being pregnant. (there's nothing like getting away with eating a pint of ice cream all by yourself... two nights in a row)

    :)

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