so my DH is in a wedding in December. the groom has decided he wants a huge bachelor party. they have decided to go to a state around us, rent a condo, and spend 4 days drinking and partying. I'm a little miffed about him going for 4 days and spending that kind of money when there is a child on the way. to make matters worse, DH overdrew his account last month and I had to pull out of our baby savings to cover what he needed. we had also committed to take care of 3 of our nieces and nephews for two of these days and now I'll be doing it by myself. I'm just pissed. do I have any reason to be?
Re: am I out of line?
Personally, I would be hacked off... just cause we already had plans with the nieces and taking them on by yourself is a lot. Can he not cut the trip in half, half the time and half the money?
My hubby is going on a bachelor weekend in July. I'm not too wild about it, but we aren't going to this friend's wedding-(he will be at Annual training-Army) and I will be 8 1/2 months pregnant, and wont' go alone.
I figure if you can make a deal-he goes for two days, or he has a budget. Like, you give him so much cash and that is it. I think he should be able to go, but that's IMO!
I'd be pissed. Even if I wasn't pregnant. Drinking adds up quickly, their are more important things in life once their is a baby on the way and/or in the house. Plus you will have your LO and 3 more, all by yourself. That is simply unfair.
I would be mad especially since you both agreed to watch your nieces and nephews during that time.
I would make him save up for this party on top of saving for the baby and repaying the money you took out of the baby fund to cover his overdrawing his account.
if we weren't going to the wedding I might have a little more sympathy. unfortunately the wedding is also out of state and he is a groomsman. that will also end up costing us a ton and we will have a newborn with us.
sorry...I should have made it clear this was next month so the LO will not be here yet. there is no way he'd be leaving if that was the case.
He's going to leave you with an infant and two other children? Id be a little miffed about that. I suppose it would be rude, though, not to attend a bachelor party for someone's wedding you are in..hmm.
I dont know what I would do. Maybe ask him if he can do 2 days instead of 4.
I know...this is what I was thinking. Whatever happened to just one night of fun?
I'd be pissed! Dh is doing the same thing, expensive multi-day bach party in key west and I loath the groom.
If there was a previous obligation and financial constraints I might kill him or maim him at the very least ?
yes u have a MAJOR reason to be ... I dont blame u ... id be ticked off too
This.
Yup. Pissed is a good word!
Can he go for part of the time?
this. seems as though the longer trip bachelor parties are becoming more popular. i don't see whay that is necessary at all. i'd be really pissed- especially about the money!