another poll: when (if ever) do you plan on having another LO?

kbs0929 · June 2009

I always thought that one would be it for us. But this cuddly, sweet little guy is making me second-guess that decision! Although, working full-time and still trying to have somewhat of a social life (rarely) I don't know when or if we would ever be ready for two!

katesmom73 · June 2009

I've always wanted two of my own (I also have a stepson) but it took me 18 months before I could even say I wanted to try for another (I don't like sleep deprivation). We've gone back and forth over the last 5 years and at one point we thought we were done. But we'll start trying again this summer. I didn't want my kids to be spaced this far apart but I also don't want to regret not having another.

madhatter2003 · June 2009

DS sort of snuck up on us He was a 'bonus' from a medical study I was in for PCOS.

We aren't sure if we'll go for 3 or not. I'm happy with 2 right now.

JLSBWG · June 2009

Well, we agreed on having just one child when we got married. When my DS was your son's age we both wanted to have another one. We were originally going to start trying for another one last Fall, but both of our companies were having layoffs, so we put it on hold. Now that DS is 18 months old, we are both not sure we want another one for many reasons. Unfortuantely, I am 37 and feel like I don't have a ton more time to mull it over, so I think we will make a decision this year. We are really struggling with what to do.

tmp-515711125009200 · June 2009

We're still discussing a third. We know we would like one, but we're not sure on the timing. It almost seems unfair to my DD to space the 3rd the same (just under a 3 year difference) . . . there are things we want to do, but have to wait until DS is old enough for us to enjoy. . . with the same spacing, we'll be waiting even longer for the 3rd to be old enough (for things like Disney or a cruise), KWIM? Part of me wants to go for the 2-under-2 with the 3rd just to get out of the baby stage sooner . . . but, with that comes expenses that wouldn't be there (new vehicle to accomodate 3 car seats, 3 i daycare, etc...) if we wait until DS is closer to 3 (then DD will be in school FT). I think, though, that if I'm not pregnant by DS's 2nd birthday, we will be a 2-and-through family.

azuremama · June 2009

I'd like to have another one and ideally get pg in the fall. DH does not want to even discuss it until DS is 1 year, 3 months. I think he's more on the fence about it than I am, but will probably come around. It's been harder in some ways than we anticipated, but I think in the long run, I'd like to have at least 2. And we're old and tired, so probably sooner is better than later. I think if I'm not pg by the time DS is 2 1/2, we might rethink.

EastCoastBride · June 2009

IF we have another, I want to wait at least 2 more years. But that's a HUGE "if". I seriously think one will be it.

FutureGosnell · June 2009

We know we want two and planned (before DS) to try for the second when the first was 1-1.5 years old. I think the plan is the same mostly, although some days I wonder how we will handle two!

carrieongrove · June 2009

DH and I are very ambivalent at this point. IF we choose to TTC, we will most likely shoot for a 3-year difference. Would love to hear general opinions on only children...

Stellasmom · June 2009

We want one more when Ds is around three.

Maybe a third, if the starts align and #2 is an angel...and Dh doubles his income or something. lol

omalley · June 2009

I started saying that this would be it and we won't have more when I was about 30 weeks pregnant <--- I was so uncomfortable. And have continued to feel that way up until this weekend. My 4 yr old nephew was helping me feed and burp one of the babies and I almost started to cry. It was a small glimpse at what an older sibling would feel like! But the feeling left me almost as fast as it came :-)

So to answer your question: this is probably it for us. I am 35 yrs old and we have 2 healthy boys. I am happy.

kbs0929 · June 2009

carrieongrove:
DH and I are very ambivalent at this point. IF we choose to TTC, we will most likely shoot for a 3-year difference. Would love to hear general opinions on only children...

I am an only child and have always loved being an only child. My DH is the oldest of 3, so we have different perspectives and both agree that having just 1 would be fine with us. But I'm loving this baby phase way too much to be 100% sure right now.

MissLinz · June 2009

We are going to start trying after LO is a year old. We want to have 3.

flyer23 · June 2009

I got my IUD removed when DD was 10 months old. We've been ready for #2 ever since then. It's just been a slightly longer road than we thought.

I do think we'll be done after 2, but we won't make any permanent decisions for at least a few years.

carrieongrove:
Would love to hear general opinions on only children...

From a child's perspective... I was an only child. When I was really little (like kindergarten-age), I wanted a sibling and asked my parents all the time for one. But I got over it, and now I recognize a TON of benefits to having been an only child, e.g. both my parents spent pretty much every weekend watching my volleyball tournaments and gymnastics meets, I was able to pick the college I wanted to attend based on the best fit for me and not just finances, we got to go on tons of neat vacations because we only had to buy three plane tickets and one hotel room, etc. etc. All things that might not have been possible had my parents had other kids to consider.

I flirted with the idea of DD being an only child during some of the worst parts of this TTC road, and I really think I'd be OK with that. If something goes wrong with this current baby, I may very well talk to DH about DD being an only, because I'm not sure how much more stress and heartache I can take.

May524 · June 2009

We hope to TTC next summer. So, that would make DS and baby #2 about 3 years apart. We may wait a bit longer just so DS is in pre-k. We are lucky enough to have my mom watch DS and I know she can't watch 2 full time, so we are trying to figure it out financially.

Maybride2 · June 2009

We have always wanted two children close-ish in age, and hope to start TTC #2 sometime in the next 1.5 years.

dpdw · June 2009

My two are 24 months apart and we're done.

mattsgal06 · June 2009

we would like to have a second and plan to start trying when DD is about 2

mclaugaa · June 2009

We are going to start TTC in 3 years. I want to spread out my baby days as long as possible since we only want 2 children.

senecamom · June 2009

Probably 3-4 years apart...so maybe next year. Ideally, I want to be done with having babies while I'm 30. So, I have 1.5 years before I'm 31!

kathya-h · June 2009

We go back and forth but I think we will have one more, but won't start TTC for at least a year or two. I'm ok with the kids being 4-5 years apart. For one thing, money would be really tight with two in daycare.

I am an only child and I've always wanted a sibling, even as an adult, I feel like I missed out on something. That said, I am very close to my parents and got to do a lot of things others didn't because there was just me. If dd is it, I will be ok with it.

beachybride1 · June 2009

I have always said I wanted 4 kids (I am the youngest of 4). Well, that has quickly gone out the window the past two months!!

Seriously - I love this little guy but as of right now, one is enough for both DH & I. Everyone tells me we'll change our minds, but we'll see.....

Mjmksb04 · June 2009

Ideally, I would like to have another when DS is 3, to get him out of diapers and in to preschool. I want to be able to enjoy the baby stage of our next child too so I don't want them to be babies too close together.

ai&Jas · June 2009

We originally wanted two but after I had DD I was not sure I really wanted another one while DH was ready for #2 immediately. Fastforward to now and I am beginning to think I could have another one since DD is now almost 18 months. Ideally I would like to get pregnant next May and have DD and #2 be 3 years apart.

o2bme · June 2009

We are planning of TTC next August. DD will be two, so by the time #2 gets here maybe she will be fully potty trained.

duchess0727 · June 2009

Ours are almost exactly two years apart. We will probably try for a third when DD is 15 months so that we have the third two years after the second. Since I don't have any free time now, it's not like 3 kids can take up any more of my time (: Plus before I know it they will be older and want nothing to do with me and I'll have my life back.

skittles_123 · June 2009

Hav two dc right now, 3 yrs and 15 months. Couldn't afford another one in daycare. Plus my ds (3 yr old) has autism and we are pouring so much energy, time and money into his therapies right now, that we wouldn't have much left over to offer a 3rd child. I already hold a lot of guilt for not spending more time with our typical dd, I don't need any more of that hanging over me.

We had orginally wanted 3 though. . .

Pesky · June 2009

I think I'll have another in about 24 hrs, give or take. Big Smile

(induction starts tonight)

kbs0929 · June 2009

Pesky:
I think I'll have another in about 24 hrs, give or take. (induction starts tonight)

oh wow, good luck!

jlw2505 · June 2009

I have my 2 awesome girls (21 months apart) and got my tubes tied during my c-section - we are DONE

stacylu · June 2009

We'll start trying again next spring. There will be a 2-1/2 year gap (or more) depending on how things go.

twinmommy13 · June 2009

Hubby and I were happy with 2- we had twins after 28 months of TTC. I figured that we were done and when we had a few scares come back negative we were relived. SO...I had a tummy tuck and we were staying on the pill....THEN SURPRISE!!!!! I am pg w/ my 3rd daughter and my twins are now 7 years old. At first we were shocked but now we are VERY happy that this little mirace has come along. Work will be a struggle but at least the older 2 are in school and will be great helpers. I think all things happen for a reason!

Ready4life · June 2009

DH would like another one asap. Me though...I want to wait. Partly because I am getting into acting and trying to get that going. So maybe 2 years?

MargieMom · June 2009

we are one and DONE!

mrshutch · June 2009

Hopefully in January, if all goes well

I've always said I want 3 kids, but DH is one of 5 boys and insists on just 2. After a 2nd loss, I just want another healthy baby. If we're meant to have 2, that's fine with me! We never wanted kids less than 2 years apart, and if all goes well our DC will be just under 3 years apart.

spinach · June 2009

Working on our 2nd now, wish us luck. Anyone else trying now?

shouldbeworkin · June 2009

My 2 are 22 mos apart. If we do TTC a third, it won't be until #2 is 3.

bcn68 · June 2009

I took me a while to get on board...but here I am PG:) Our DD is 3 yrs old. My DH was ready the day our DD was born...LOL. He's been patient.

SportsLover · June 2009

When the twins are 4, I'd like to start trying for another. Hopefully only one more next time! Smile

NicoleWI · June 2009

I'm 34, and we would like three kids. We'll start TTC again when DD is about one.

14years · July 2009

spinach:
Working on our 2nd now, wish us luck. Anyone else trying now?

The plan was to start on #2 when DS turned one year, which is in 17 days! Ack! But, we have a lot of travel coming up in August and September, so we are now going to start trying in October once all that is done. Good luck TTC, hope it happens fast for you!

We want 2 kids. I flirt with the idea of 3, but DH does not want to be outnumbered. We're both from families with 3 kids, so we know how they work you from first hand experience.

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