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i have a really great idea!

DereKimDereKim member
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i've read quite a few posts where girls are very upset that a friend told another friend they were pregnant. if you don't want anyone to know then don't tell ANYBODY! i apologize if this comes off a little mean but in all those type of posts you are all extremely upset.
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Re: i have a really great idea!

  • eilatheneilathen
    That's exactly why my lips are sealed!  :)   
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  • kimberleigh30kimberleigh30 member

    Easier said than done.  I called my BFF the day after I got my BFP and told her the only reason I was telling her was because I had to tell someone (besides my DH).  Now if she told my other friends and didn't le me tell them my good news I'd be pissed.

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  • Anna&MattAnna&Matt member
    agreed. I haven't even told my best friend who I tell everything.
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  • sunsmiles6sunsmiles6
    I agree with you. I've told my family well my mom and brother. But friend wise I haven't told anyone. If my family told the rest of my family I'm cool with that one less thing that I have to go in and tell the good news to. (good news to me maybe not good news to them) But it's my life and it's about what Melissa wants!
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  • littlemaybabylittlemaybaby member
    Thank you, thank you, thank you. 
    ds #1 | our perfect miracle born 39w1d | 12.9.2009 loss #1 | natural m/c 7/2010 (~8w) loss #2 | chemical pregnancy 6/2011 (4w4d) loss #3 | chemical pregnancy 7/2011 (4w3d) loss #4 | natural m/c 11/2011 (10w1d) RPL Testing 12/2011. Results 100% normal. ds #2 | our 2nd perfect miracle born 36w3d | 12.31.2012
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  • star678star678 member

    It's not so much about other people finding out... it's about the breach of trust between you and someone you believed would honor their word to keep YOUR news private. 

    When someone promises to keep something a secret and then they go and tell someone, that's shiitty no matter if it is regarding a pregnancy or not.

    And fwiw, I agree with you-- I've realized that no one can be trusted and if/when I have a second pregnancy, I will not be telling a soul.

    Married in 2008 - DD born in 2010 - EDD 6.15.2012!
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  • angie212angie212 member
    I agree.  My two best friends know, and that's it for now.  I trust them completely, but when I say that, I mean I trust them enough to not let mutual friends know.  I don't expect them to keep it a secret from people like their husbands!
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  • ashleyb0604ashleyb0604
    Yes
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  • Temp785382312506150Temp785382312506150 member

    And that is why we didn't tell anyone until we were comfortable with the whole world knowing.

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  • 12bailey1812bailey18 member
    Agreed...

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  • GershiGirlGershiGirl
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    It's not so much about other people finding out... it's about the breach of trust between you and someone you believed would honor their word to keep YOUR news private. 

    When someone promises to keep something a secret and then they go and tell someone, that's shiitty no matter if it is regarding a pregnancy or not.

    This.  I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a close friend who you supposedly trust to keep a secret and to be upset and hurt if they don't.  It's nice to have one or two people that know that you can talk to without having to worry that they're going to spill the beans to someone else.  That being said, I agree that the best way to keep a secret is not to share it with anyone else in the first place, but it sucks if you can't trust your friends.

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