MIL help--opinions needed

shelchris · May 2009

I get along with my MIL ok. ?DH is very close with his mom and while that is great, it sometimes gets annoying. ?She has been buying alot for the baby, which is nice. ?Anyway, FIL works in Denver, and commutes home to Cincinnati on the weekends. ?We all went to dinner last night and she mentioned traveling with the LO to Denver in a few months. ?I really don't want to fly to Denver with a LO until she is a little older, but MIL, FIL and H kind of ganged up on me. ?Would you guys fly with a LO? Am I being too protective? Am I being unreasonable?

Pecas13 · May 2009

How long is the flight? If my DH was gone for 5 days at a time, I might consider it if flights were reasonable and my baby was 1-2 months old.

GL!

LoveEeyore · May 2009

Just drop it and see how you feel. BUT, as long as you have pedi's permission, I say the younger the better for travel. They are SO much more portable before they start having opinions! LOL...

marcandjen · May 2009

I would have just deferred until I had the chance to speak with DH alone... something like, "Traveling with an infant isn't ideal, but I'm sure we'll work something out" while MIL is around and then have a convo with DH later. No matter what, it's his & your decision, not hers.?

(And no, I don't think you're being unreasonable.)?

steph_puck · May 2009

I'm not really sure if you're being unreasonable...but I think that I would react in the exact same was as you. My mom wants us to drive with our LO up to her house (7 hour drive) asap, but I already know I will not be ready or wanting to do that anytime soon.

kkenner · May 2009

I don't see anything wrong with flying once LO is a few months. We will probably fly with ours when she is about 3 months.

a003vp · May 2009

Blame the not being able to travel on the MD's. Also why do you need to have to go to Denver with your child? Any relitives out there that need to see the child when its a few weeks old?

MandaJo9 · May 2009

If you don't want to go, blame it on the age of the LO. As for traveling with babies, I've actually heard it's quite easy. Feed them and they pass out for the entire flight. My husband and I are visiting family the weekend of father's day in D.C. - we're flying and I'm sure everything will be just fine.

Temp534591562502098 · May 2009

We are planning to fly with our LO for Christmas when she'll be about 4 months. I actually think it will be easier to fly with a younger one than say a 1 year old since they just sleep and eat and poop when they are younger.

However, I would NOT fly with a LO "just cause". Maybe once a year at most unless we had to fly more for some reason. Its a PITA and tiring and kids always get sick and planes and travel can get you and the baby sick easily. Sure, easy for them to suggest, but you and DH actually gotta do it and put up with the good the bad and the ugly. I'd be open to the idea but I would make sure DH knew what he was getting into first and kinda set the precedent that this was not going to be a common occurence.

afg · May 2009

Yes I would fly with my LO BUT having said that it is not your MIL's call to make that decision. It is up to you and your H when that time is right. It's not fair of them to assume you'll go just because MIL and FIL want you to.

allison_oaks · May 2009

I don't see why she even wants you to do this. FIL comes home on the weekend, yes? So he'll see the baby then, unless there is another reason she wants you to do it, but I think it's unreasonable for her to ask this of you and put undue stress on the LO. I don't even see why it's nessisary at all. And the fact your DH ganged up on you and wouldn't even try to see your way sucks, especially in front of others.

I wouldn't do it until much later, I think if ppl want to see a newborn baby, THEY should come to the baby, not the other way around.

/my 2 cents

GRKaters · May 2009

We flew with DS at 2.5mo. I wanted him to have vaccinations first.

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mollymurphy · May 2009

I wouldn't do anything you're uncomfortable with, but our LO will probably be making his first international flight when he's about 8 wks old (as soon as his passport is issued.) First transatlantic flight probably later this year...so no, I probably wouldn't worry about it, esp. b/c it's much easier to travel w/an infant than a toddler. But that's just me: you need to take baby's health and the time of year into account, too. And at the end of the day, YOU are baby's mom and need to do what you feel is right, not what MIL wants you to do. But if your DH wants to spend more time w/the two of you and cutting down on commuting isn't an option, maybe a short trip to Denver is worth considering. I think it's more the time spent in a hotel that would be an issue than the flight itself...

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