1st Trimester

Anyone not ok with giving out baby names...

I know I probably sound paranoid but I'm totally not about sharing my baby names to most people... for one - I actually don't want the criticism from anyone over a name that my DH and I picked and love (like the line "oh I know someone with that name - they were jerks") and also.... there's a tiny part of me that's scared that someone will "take" the name that I love...

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Re: Anyone not ok with giving out baby names...

  • We're sharing name ideas, but we might keep the name a secret once we decide. Already someone has said, "Every Natalie I've ever known is a b!tch. Don't name your baby that" and I've heard "Ethan is a gay name" WTF! What a rude thing to say.
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  • haha, yes, for both reasons... but i also have a long list of possibilities, so i don't really mind sharing.
  • I feel the same way about the "taking" aspect. I share names now because I won't know the gender until mid-late July. Once I find out though, I'll probably be a lock box.

    My mind keeps changing anyway!

  • We'll probably keep our names pretty secret as we have some really close friends that are expecting and she's about 2 weeks ahead of me and I don't want to worry about taking any of her names or her taking ours.  Also to me, part of the suspense and suprise for our friends and family will be the baby's name.
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  • We're keeping the names we choose a secret mostly to avoid my mom's criticism.  It's just easier that way.
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  • I'm sharing with family and friends.... but I understand what you mean! I told my MIL one of the girl names we liked and she went on to criticize it for like 5 mins. I was pretty upset... luckily DH saw I was hurt and told his mom to stop. But now there is no way I can give our child that name.
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  • nadiarlnadiarl member

    Like Monica on Friends! Rachel stole her baby name (with permission).

    I agree with you. I don't need everyone weighing in on names. I read a post a few days/weeks ago about using decoy names and keeping the real ones secret until the birth.

  • I've told a few people, but I'm not going to tell others. My mom, for instance, doesn't like our boy name much and she's already being enough of a pill. I don't need to deal with "I hate that name" too.
  • Sus77Sus77 member

    We're the same, we have a shortlist but when people ask we tell them we haven't really started thinking about names yet. 

    I don't think we'll make a final decision until the baby is born to see which name suits best but even if we did I still wouldn't tell anyone before the birth for the reasons in the OP.

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  • No, you aren't crazy. We aren't either. Those are both valid concerns. We didn't tell anyone what we were considering. We accepted suggestions, but that was it. I have heard lots of people say that their moms or friends not only did the I knew a ____ and s/he _________, but also worse reactions as well. Like "Oh you wouldn't want to scar that poor child" etc.??

    I also know people who have had their names stolen. My bff from college wants to name her ?yet?conceived?daughter with the middle name of june after her grandmother. ?Her best friend from high school had a baby last year and her middle name is june.?

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  • we'll share with certain people... but I don't really go around just telling anyone and everyone who asks.  I really don't care if other people like the names we pick or not.
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  • I'm sorry but when one of my best friends told me she was naming her son Blue I had to say something. She asked my opinion and I had no trouble giving it to her. Plus, my dog's name is Blue. She didn't listen to us and now this poor little boy who has bright red hair is going through life with the name BLUE. She regrets it now.
  • We are not sharing our name with anyone, not even family. Don't want people's opinions!
  • We're not telling. Mostly, I don't want any comments...people generally refrain from making them once the kid is here. The norm in our family is to not tell, and I think it makes the birth of the baby that much more exciting to friends & family.
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  • We will discuss name options but since we are not finding out the sex, it will be a surprise to the actual name we choose.

     

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  • A few years ago I had my favorite boy name, Jack, hijacked by my aunt.  I was so bummed out. Also, I know how judgy I can be of other people's baby names (because, seriously, there are some jacked up ones out there) too.  

    We already have a girl's name picked out and are pretty sure of the boy's name.  My mom and sisters know the names we like but I don't know if we'll tell other people, definitely not right away.  I do like the idea of using decoy names -- I would like to pick something totally ridiculous as a decoy name and then insist that we LOVE it and no amount of criticism will make us change it.  

    I know I will tell my grandmother, because if it is a girl she will be named after her, and either way we are just really close and I'd want her to know.

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  • I think if it's a girl, we will keep the name a secret, because we are completely undecided on girls names- we disagree 100% with each  other. But a boy- we have a 60-40% name already figured out and aren't too afraid of what people think of it or someone taking it.

    60-Jax Scott and 40-Mikk Scott.

    Do your worst, I aint scurred!

  • Ours are a secret, my parent know them but no one else, we don't want people stealing them or making comments.?
  • I feel the same way. I am not sharing any of my names.
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  • If your opinion is asked or if a terrible injustice is about to be done unto an innocent child... it is acceptable to say something.  Just be tactful and people probably won't get mad. 
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  • In exchange for finding out the sex of our baby we're going to keep names a secret. That's pretty much the only reason we're keeping them hush hush.
  • Some of my family and friends asked if I would share and I told them sure because I could care less what they think.  MIL doesn't like our name choice, but she's not the one who made this baby so it doesn't really matter.

    I am the only one in my family pregnant and only have one pregnant friend who I hardly ever see so I'm not too worried about them "taking" my name.  If down the road one of my relatives for friends named their baby Henry I really wouldn't mind. 

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  • I think we will share, no ask, share...saying if it's a boy it will be XX and if it's a girl it will be XX... not asking for opininons just sharing and this way hopefully people won't chime in with their unnecessary comments. 
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  • We never do.  Didn't with the first two, won't with this one.  A long time ago, we were on the subject of names (back when DH and I were just dating) and I mentioned something about Kylee and my MIL went off on me about it and how it's a terrible name, blah blah blah.  I never mentioned names again, and still used it, but I just don't appreciate the negative opinions.
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  • imagemiss_beckman:

    I think if it's a girl, we will keep the name a secret, because we are completely undecided on girls names- we disagree 100% with each  other. But a boy- we have a 60-40% name already figured out and aren't too afraid of what people think of it or someone taking it.

    60-Jax Scott and 40-Mikk Scott.

    Do your worst, I aint scurred!

    I am just curious.....is Jax prounouced Jacks or Jack?

    And is Mikk prounounced Mik or Mike?

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  • We had an easy out with people.  We had 3 names picked out but were waiting until he was born to actually name him so we told everyone that - basically we didn't have a name and wouldn't until he was born.
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  • Personally I don't care if people like our name choices or not, I am willing to share my name choices.  If someone steals the name I like, oh well, it is not like I have a patent on that name. I'll probably still name my child that name as I had originally planned. JMO

    We shared with DS's name and got 99% positive feedback that people liked it. 

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  • imageAhappygilmore:
    imagemiss_beckman:

    I think if it's a girl, we will keep the name a secret, because we are completely undecided on girls names- we disagree 100% with each  other. But a boy- we have a 60-40% name already figured out and aren't too afraid of what people think of it or someone taking it.

    60-Jax Scott and 40-Mikk Scott.

    Do your worst, I aint scurred!

    I am just curious.....is Jax prounouced Jacks or Jack?

    And is Mikk prounounced Mik or Mike?

    Jacks- and mik

  • I'm sharing on here.

    But no one seems to like my girl name. Oh well. Allison is a pretty name and Lux means light... People just don't understand why I'd name someone Lux.

     

  • imagegoldenleaves:
    We're sharing name ideas, but we might keep the name a secret once we decide. Already someone has said, "Every Natalie I've ever known is a b!tch. Don't name your baby that" and I've heard "Ethan is a gay name" WTF! What a rude thing to say.

    Ethan is such a great name! And every Natalie I've known is a sweetie.

  • imageMrs.Keith2B:
    We're keeping the names we choose a secret mostly to avoid my mom's criticism.  It's just easier that way.

    Yeah I've already had to stop telling my mom names. She has a problem with creating nicknames that I don't like out of the names I give her.

  • I've had a couple names stolen from me! DH and I aren't revealing until we know at birth what sex the baby is.
  • We have already decided our names and are keeping them a secret.
  • imagegoldenleaves:
    We're sharing name ideas, but we might keep the name a secret once we decide. Already someone has said, "Every Natalie I've ever known is a b!tch. Don't name your baby that" and I've heard "Ethan is a gay name" WTF! What a rude thing to say.

    Hahahah  I am a Natalie, and I think I might be a bit of a *** sometimes.

  • We're not going to tell anyone our names until after the big u/s. Once the sex is determined, we'll share the name.

  • imageJackiefromCanada:

    I know I probably sound paranoid but I'm totally not about sharing my baby names to most people... for one - I actually don't want the criticism from anyone over a name that my DH and I picked and love (like the line "oh I know someone with that name - they were jerks") and also.... there's a tiny part of me that's scared that someone will "take" the name that I love...

    Ditto.  I may end up telling at the end of the pregnancy.

  • imagemiss_beckman:
    imageAhappygilmore:
    imagemiss_beckman:

    I think if it's a girl, we will keep the name a secret, because we are completely undecided on girls names- we disagree 100% with each  other. But a boy- we have a 60-40% name already figured out and aren't too afraid of what people think of it or someone taking it.

    60-Jax Scott and 40-Mikk Scott.

    Do your worst, I aint scurred!

     

    Very different, I like them!

    I am just curious.....is Jax prounouced Jacks or Jack?

    And is Mikk prounounced Mik or Mike?

    Jacks- and mik

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  • If we have girl, her middle name will be Tiffany, like mine and my friend is trying to come up with all kinds of different middle names because she hates a girl named Tiffany.  Really, I don't care either way.  We are not naming our child to make anyone happy except the 2 of us.  People can keep their opinions to themselves or put them in their back pockets and sit on them! Huh?
  • imagemwalliser:
    we'll share with certain people... but I don't really go around just telling anyone and everyone who asks.  I really don't care if other people like the names we pick or not.

    This!  There's always someone with an opinion, and honestly I don't want to hear it, because we've decided on a name we like.

  • We were just talking about this on SAL today...someone had the name they chose "stolen" by a coworker who specifically asked "do you have any names you like". ?It was the ONE name they had picked out for a boy. ?I think that's rude.

    We have shared ours with a few people. ?Our names are really unique and very personal to us, if I had a friend who was pregnant, I probably wouldnt share them...but then again, I have alot of shady friends.?

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