Flame-worthy confession-Yes, I am judging

KMLP · May 2009

I judge women who are SAHMs, yet have a cleaning lady. ?What the heck? In my opinion, if you SAH, those tasks, as well as caring for your baby, should be your full time job. ?

I work full time nine months out of the year (teacher) and I don't even have a cleaning lady! ?DH and I split the house work and it gets accomplished on the weekends or evenings. ?

punkfiction · May 2009

ok. i understand that. but i still clean every day. i just dont scrub toilets and showers and bathtubs. i dont have to change sheets and i dont have to mop. otherwise - i still do daily cleaning, kwim? maybe its how you were raised though LOL we have always had a maid to do that stuff

*parrothead* · May 2009

I disagree. I think anybody who can afford should have a cleaning person. Why wouldn't you? (IF you can afford it , that is.)

kate081206 · May 2009

Agreed. ::puts on flame resistant suit::

iris427 · May 2009

Judge me all you want. I hate cleaning and whenever I have the money, I pay someone to do it for me.

Smile

violetvirgo · May 2009

this should be fun.

i sah and have a cleaning lady. when we decided i would stay at home instead of hiring a nanny my dh and i both agreed that sah was essentially trading my corporate job for being with my daughter. i basically do what i would expect a nanny to do in terms of keeping things neat, but i also take my daughter to a class almost every day, we do playgroups and go to the zoo/aquarium/botanical gardens. sorry i'm not just going to put her in the floor all day while i scrub the toilet.

JAC1027 · May 2009

OMG KMLP! U DON'T NO MY LYFE! YOU DON'T NO HOW HARD IT IS TO TRY TO TAKE CARE OF A BABY AND NEST ALL DAY!!!1

Seriously, I agree. I SAH and I take it as my J.O.B. to take care of the house and baby while DH is away. Its really not that hard.

Faith1318 · May 2009

I do too, but mainly because of the expense. If money isn't an issue... ::shrug::. Whatever. I couldn't justify paying someone else to do it when I don't work outside the home, but if I won the lottery tomorrow, I might feel differently.

DG1 · May 2009

don't knock it until you've tried it. I agree with the "anyone who can afford it should" concept. It's a MUCH better luxury than a nice handbag or shoes or any number of other crap that people waste money on.

That said, it was the first thing to go when I got laid off 4 months ago. And I'd still have to do plenty of day-to-day cleaning even if I still had them.

akiernan · May 2009

I say if you can afford it, good for you.

If you can't afford it, suck it up and go clean your toilet.

loveybear · May 2009

i wish i had a cleaning lady. but i work. for now, at least. although, i think if we could afford a cleaning lady, i'd feel guilty spending the money on that and not something for the babies...

punkfiction · May 2009

LOL no one said its HARD to do all of the things around the house. but bottom line is i dont damn want to. how hard is that to understand? i dont feeeeeel like scrubbing a tub.

kate081206 · May 2009

*parrothead*:

I disagree. I think anybody who can afford should have a cleaning person. Why wouldn't you? (IF you can afford it , that is.)

Yeah but if you have the time to clean why don't you use the money for something substantial, like a savings account for DC.

LukeAndAmanda · May 2009

Maybe its because weve always been somewhat on the lower part of middle class, I always said I would never own a house I couldnt clean myself. I just couldnt see myself paying for something I could do myself, especially if I SAH.

MrsGsoon · May 2009

To me, it isn't about being able to do it. Of course I would have the time to clean. But, DH and I have worked very hard to get to this point in our lives where we can pay someone to do it for us. There are people who need the extra money and actually enjoy it, and these are the people I have come in to my home to clean. I believe it is more about personal preferences- some people HATE to clean. No big deal!

Milsby · May 2009

I was actually thinking that would be a WONDERFUL Mother's Day gift to get. ?

Does your daycare provider clean while they watch your kid? ?Just curious?

Muffin0 · May 2009

I'm a SAHM and my DH helps with cleaning *gasp* he also cooks dinner some nights, and takes care of the kid.

I'm not his maid, or his mom. He can clean up after himself sometimes too, and take care of some of the laundry.

OUMedBride · May 2009

I don't SAH, but I don't see why anyone who can comfortably afford a cleaning lady wouldn't have one. I'm counting down the days until I start residency and can actually afford one! I don't see how that would be any different if I were a SAHM. Who WANTS to clean? I'd much rather play with DD than clean. Obviously, if it's money you can't afford that you're taking away from something you need, then yeah stop being lazy and clean your own house. But why would you judge someone who has the money for doing it? Jealous much?

violetvirgo · May 2009

punkfiction:
LOL no one said its HARD to do all of the things around the house. but bottom line is i dont damn want to. how hard is that to understand? i dont feeeeeel like scrubbing a tub.

EXACTLY!

violetvirgo · May 2009

kate081206:
*parrothead*:

I disagree. I think anybody who can afford should have a cleaning person. Why wouldn't you? (IF you can afford it , that is.)

Yeah but if you have the time to clean why don't you use the money for something substantial, like a savings account for DC.

who says we don't? we have plenty of money in savings for us and for dd. no worries here.

ElizC · May 2009

I am ducking for cover because I agree. SAH IMO= taking care of all household things. Right now DH and I share all our household duties. If I end up being SAHM I will assume those responsibilities.

I also don't get SAHM that complain about thier DH's having to work a lot. I am fully aware once I stop working that DH will have to work more to make up the difference. Hence me having to do more at home.

MrsGsoon · May 2009

kate081206:
*parrothead*:

I disagree. I think anybody who can afford should have a cleaning person. Why wouldn't you? (IF you can afford it , that is.)

Yeah but if you have the time to clean why don't you use the money for something substantial, like a savings account for DC.

Many of us do both

DaisyAdair · May 2009

When I had 1 baby, my house was spotless.

When I had 2 under 1.....less spotless.

On bedrest with a toddler and an infant.....bet your butt I have help cleaning the house.

When I have 3 under 2.....someone will be coming once a month to a big clean since I know certain things are going to get neglected.

Judge all you want. If anyone has 3 under 2, I'll be happy to entertain all of the scheduling advice anyone has. Smile

punkfiction · May 2009

Muffin0:
I'm a SAHM and my DH helps with cleaning *gasp* he also cooks dinner some nights, and takes care of the kid.
I'm not his maid, or his mom. He can clean up after himself sometimes too, and take care of some of the laundry.

rofl wtf are you talking about?? no one is talking about their dh's

violetvirgo · May 2009

Muffin0:
I'm a SAHM and my DH helps with cleaning *gasp* he also cooks dinner some nights, and takes care of the kid.
I'm not his maid, or his mom. He can clean up after himself sometimes too, and take care of some of the laundry.

my dh does all the laundry ::gasp:: it's so nice to have retired my heels and pearls a la june cleaver - lol

*parrothead* · May 2009

kate081206:
*parrothead*:

I disagree. I think anybody who can afford should have a cleaning person. Why wouldn't you? (IF you can afford it , that is.)

Yeah but if you have the time to clean why don't you use the money for something substantial, like a savings account for DC.

This type of thinking drives me insane! Its not always an either or situation. You realize that some people have enough money for both, right?

Toosdai · May 2009

I'm not a SAHM but I disagree, maybe they would rather spend their weekends and evenings vegging or hanging out instead of cleaning.

I know I would. Hell, I do. I'm home all day (WAH) and don't find the time to clean.

kgrl21 · May 2009

Ehh, if you can afford it why not hire someone else? I don't know anyone who gets a real deep sense of satisfaction cleaning piss stains off the toliet seat cuz someone's DH has problems aiming.

KMLP · May 2009

JAC1027:
OMG KMLP!? U DON'T NO MY LYFE!? YOU DON'T NO HOW HARD IT IS TO TRY TO TAKE CARE OF A BABY AND NEST ALL DAY!!!1
Seriously, I agree.? I SAH and I take it as my J.O.B. to take care of the house and baby while DH is away.? Its really not that hard.

I lurve you...but you already knew that! ?;)?

~GatsbyGirl~ · May 2009

I SAH and dont get all of the cleaning done. In fact, when I have a cleaning day there is still much to do. I would rather dedicate my time to DD rather than stick her on the floor and go clean. It is more important to be present with my child than have a sparkling home. In fact, DH helps clean, cooks dinners some nights also. Sometimes I could probably do a little more cleaning, but it is tiring running after a mobile baby.

jenifairies · May 2009

iris427:

Judge me all you want. I hate cleaning and whenever I have the money, I pay someone to do it for me.

damn right. i even *gasp* thought about taking some pt work to pay for a cleaning lady! when i start watching another baby during the day, i'm probably going to take some of the money i earn from that to pay someone to clean my house. it's the biggest stressor to me - and for $100/mo or less I would do it in a heartbeat.

JAC1027 · May 2009

punkfiction:
LOL no one said its HARD to do all of the things around the house. but bottom line is i dont damn want to. how hard is that to understand? i dont feeeeeel like scrubbing a tub.

hold the presses. Didn't you start a shitstorm back in 0-6 when SAHMs were having a hard time getting things done and you called people lazy? I forget the entire context, but that was the gist... and why a lot of people didn't like you for awhile...

JennDave+1 · May 2009

I pay my 11 year old nice to help me clean when she comes home from school lol. It is a big help. Liam occupies a lot of time. And the last thing that I want to be doing when he goes down for the night is cleaning and I try to schedule activities during the day. So housework doesn't always get the attention it needs. If I had the money I would have someone come in once a week and help out with that.

breezey2323 · May 2009

I wish I had the money for a cleaning service. I would do it in a heartbeat, working mom, SAH, whatev! I am NOT mad at them.

Califlorida · May 2009

i have a SAHD with dh, a cleaning lady AND a savings account for DD. and i just had three months off from work and stayed home with both of them. all of these things work for my family!

JennDave+1 · May 2009

I meant niece

punkfiction · May 2009

JAC1027:
punkfiction:
LOL no one said its HARD to do all of the things around the house. but bottom line is i dont damn want to. how hard is that to understand? i dont feeeeeel like scrubbing a tub.
hold the presses. Didn't you start a shitstorm back in 0-6 when SAHMs were having a hard time getting things done and you called people lazy? I forget the entire context, but that was the gist... and why a lot of people didn't like you for awhile...

i totally DO think its weird that some SAHMs live in a clusterfvck of madness. and like others have said - i have tons of time during the day to clean the tub or shower, but i dont usually have to. but i most certainly judge a SAHM who can't do ANYTHING all day.

*Bre* · May 2009

This is all really amazing to me. I can't believe it. nft.

lanie26 · May 2009

I don't have an issue with it at all. I think more power to anyone who can afford it and pay WELL the person who is cleaning for them.

However... I have issues when women say "I don't have the time therefore I have a cleaning lady" and are SAHM's to one baby or 2 kids.

Hilarious. I think more women just need to own it. Say "I dont' WANT to clean." Who does? Its the lies I hate.

skoorbnibor · May 2009

I am a SAHM and if we could afford it, I totally would have someone clean. Unfortunately paying the bills takes priority!

Jenny0908 · May 2009

I am just jealous of SAHM who have a cleaning service... I want your life. I have to work full time and clean the house all by myself and now that DH is deployed I will be doing all the yard work too.

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