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Babies on the Brain
My husband makes me so mad!
So I am ovulating this week so obviously I wanted to fit in as much baby making as possible. We only have two days left. He had off work yesterday so I told him I would leave work early and maybe he could make dinner.
So, when I left work I get a text that he is out with his friends and to text me when I left work. I did but when we met up he smelled like alcohol and obviously no dinner was made. I was not in the mood after that.
Today he had no idea why I was mad. He said he had left as soon as I got off work. Ugh. Why would I want to have sex with someone who smells like a frat boy?
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Re: My husband makes me so mad!
My BFP Chart~
nope-I like it too!
Still holding a grudge today??
::Side-eye::?
Mes Petit Choux
I can't go back to yesterday - because I was a different person then. ~ Alice
I don't know about everyone else, but I try my hardest to not go to bed angry at DH and especially don't stay angry through the next day. You are asking for alot of problems if you hold silly stuff over his head. How long have ya'll been married?
Drunk sex is fun when you are BOTH drunk.
One person drunk is no fun.?
Well okay maybe I didn't give enough of a back story here. My birthday was on Monday. He had to work so we did nothing for it. He gave me my gifts when I walked in the door and on his way out. He still hadn't had time to sign my card.
So I figured Tuesday we would celebrate but instead he invited all his friends over to watch the Caps game and they all got obnoxious drunk and kept me awake until 3am when I had to get up at 6.
Yesterday was our next night together. We both work opposite hours so it is very hard to get together time. I asked him to make a birthday dinner so we could do at least something to celebrate and instead he went out with his friends.
And no I'm not mad today. I just figured I'd see if you all had had similar times when you knew the timing was important but the feeling just wasn't there.
Me too. Give the man a few beers and he can go for DAYS.
I think you need to figure out why your H still finds it fun to get falling-down-"obnoxious" drunk twice on weekdays (with apparently little respect for you or your work schedule) and why you're still upset about dinner/your unsigned birthday card before you continue to TTC.
Your H drinks too much too often and you hold grudges. Yay.
Well you know, this is a bag of baloney. You ovulate ONE day a month (if that) and you have to be charting/temping to be 100% certain of when that is.
I meant this is the week most likely to conceive. Sorry.
I am. It was yesterday.
I think you and your husband have bigger issues to deal before TTC--drinking excessively, being insensitive, dismissing SO's birthday, and so forth. Most people in grown-up relationships discuss this with their SO. Others clearly hold grudges and become bitter about missing out on "baby making time."
Just saying.
Oh good, then you have another whole month to be bitter and not talk to him.
BTW, chart link?
I know how you feel, I'm definitely not always in the mood to TTC. But if it's important to both, you will just lay there and let him do the work
Maybe he's trying to get the drinking rampages out of his system before a little one comes along....
But he should definitely be more considerate of you, from what it sounds like! How long have ya'll been married? I would NOT be havin' a bunch of guys over to my house keeping me up! Back before we were homeowners, we called the cops on people all the time for their weeknight escapades keeping us up. I certainly wouldn't allow DH to put me through that.
With that said, to each his own.
I'm really sorry that I posted this. I figured it would be the best place to get some support but its pretty much like the knot. Everyone is an expert and catty to boot.
When I post things I try to be considerate of what people might be going through instead of telling them their feelings are petty and silly.
Apparently DH's can do no wrong.
Um, most DH's are not saints but at least they aren't loud, drunken imbeciles who act like frat boys and don't follow through on what they say they're going to do. It doesn't take an expert to see through the BS that you have bigger issues in your relationship than just an unsigned birthday card or an unmade dinner.
This. Exactly.
Let me see if I've got this. Monday he couldn't celebrate your bday because he had to work. Not hang out with his friends or anything, but actually work. Plus he still got you gifts and a card (btw my DH has never ever gotten me a card, much less signed one so I don't see what the big deal is there). Sounds like a very thoughtful husband if you ask me.
You "figured" you would celebrate on Tuesday, but it doesn't sound like you actually sat down and agreed that this would happen. Classic lack of communication going on there, and you can't really blame him for not reading your mind. (Disregard this if you two actually did sit down and agree to celebrate on Tuesday and then he did his own thing anyway.)
Wednesday you wanted him to make you dinner after work and then have TTC sex. He had the day off so he hung out with some friends, but came home when you said you were on your way. He didn't stay longer, or not come home at all. And he had a few drinks with his friends. No big deal IMO. If he had stayed out forever and come home stumbling drunk, refusing to have dinner with you I could see why you'd be mad. But honestly I don't see how this is all his fault. At best it's an even split for the blame from what you've told us, and it sounds like you two need to work on your communication skills a little bit. Move on.
Oh and there were plenty of times when DH and I had TTC sex when one or the other of us didn't feel like it. Having a baby was important enough to us to get over that real quick.
He's not a drunk and certainly not a jerk. I mentioned two times of drinking which happened to be this week. He wasn't drunk on Tuesday night. He had two beers. His friends were the drunk ones.
He stopped drinking in February because he figured if I was going to stop he should too. I understand that he doesn't have the same motivation as me and he obviously fell off the wagon this week.
I certainly do not want you all thinking my husband is a drunk when he was the one who offered to stop drinking when I did. This has been one rough week. We don't have issues. We have a great marriage and have been friends since we were 11 years old. I feel bad that I painted him in such a bad light. I just had my feelings hurt this week.
What is that?
Listen girl...I feel the same way about this website. Sometimes I want some real advice and all I get is bitchiness...or someone that wants to tell me that I shouldn't make a baby b/c I'm exactly sure about everything...I thought that's what is website was all about....I'm frustrated too!!! AND...people care way too much about posting your damn "chart"...come on girls'...let's be more supportive of each other...I totally feel your pain...I do love drunk sex but I understand that when you want DH to do something specific or you expect something and it doesn't work out...then all you can do is get and stay pissed for a while...it's a woman thing...isn't there are saying that goes..."if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy"...that's all...
Awwww... honey!
Seems like you need some support.
I'm totally here for you.
I'm sorry, but how have you "only gotten bitchiness" when you've only posted 7 times? Maybe because you have a serious case of ellipses-abuse-itis??
GBCBOTB = goodbye cruel babies on the brain. Effectively you saying "this board is full of bitter biitches and i'm never posting here again".
But, since you haven't yet, maybe chill and just take it all in context. You came on here and posted about a tiff with your dh. Most people on here have been down the ttc road for a while, and basically the message here is, TTC is not always fun. You will have fights, there will be crappy times, but the important thing is to remember why you are going through it. If you get upset at the little stuff it's only going to make the road tougher on yourself. If you can understand that that is what people here are trying to say to you, then stick around because it's good advice.
Thank you. I know I can be over sensitive but god when I come on to justtry and get some support i feel like I'm the bad guy and I have to explain everything. We haven't told our friends we're trying so this is about the only place to go for any support.
Sounds serious. Maybe she should wear a mask?
I appreciate it.