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Attachment Parenting
MIL Hospital Vent
DH and I are planning to go down to visit his parents and grandparents this weekend. His grandmother has not yet met the baby and we are planning to stay at her house for some quality time.
Last night she was admitted into the hospital:( It is not seeming like anything serious but she will be there through our stay.
Sadie has not had her shots yet and after talking to our pedi DH and I are not going to rush shots that we were hoping to hold off on just so she can go to the hospital. The pedi was also not 100% confortable with us being in the hospital at all with the baby.
So of course MIL just had to loose it on the phone with me and blame me for breaking her mom's heart since she cant see the baby. I offered to talk to the nurses and see if they could wheel grandma out of the hospital and meet the baby.
The call ended with me getting hung up on and MIL yelling, "you wouldnt even have the baby in a hospital- you are just scared of them and that is not fair!"
I love how I am awful and a bad person for being a good Mom and not exposing the baby to all those germs- even the pediatrician didnt want us going in!
That turned into a much longer vent than I meant it to!!!
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Re: MIL Hospital Vent
Oh FFS. She sounds like a tantruming toddler.
I'm sure something can be arranged so that grandma can come outside for a sec. and meet the baby.
It's unfortunate but life happens.
Wow. So uncool.
It might be out of your hands anyway - regardless of shots. The hospital I'm delivering in (and many, many others) flat-out does not allow visitors under the age of 16.
Check with the hospital. Then redirect your MIL's ire.
I'm so sorry.
how very understanding of your MIL
you are the mom you get to make those calls. dont let her bully you into doing something you (and your pedi) are not comfortable with. did you tell her the pedi said it was not a good idea? sometimes i just say "well my doctor said..." and it gets people to stfu
So gladI have this board of great Mommy's to vent to!!
We did tell MIL that the pedi suggested not going. I just spoke with grandma directly and rescheduled the trip. My MIL can remain upset but DH and I are doing what is best for Sadie!!!
Besides, this way grandma will get to spend quality time with us even if it is after Christmas!!
She is! It has taken me years to overcome the urge to act like a brat back!!!
make a little get well soon card,with baby's photo if possible.
Can you make a stamp of LO's hand on there?
GGM would love it and would certainly understand. It seems that the more elderly do the least judging and are the most appreciative of the little things
What a freak! Sorry you have to deal with that. She is probably just really stressed about her mom being in the hospital and taking it out on you,.
My hospital has no visitors under 16, so it wouldn't be an issue here.
At the hospital L&D tour DH was constantly warning me not to lean up on stuff or touch anything. He isn't paranoid about germs, but he has no illusions that hospitals are for sick people and a lot of bad germs hang out there.
You are making the right move. Stick to your guns.
Too bad you don't live in CO. The State Dept. of Health also barred all kids under 18 from visiting at the hospital. Probably will continue through flu season.
Your MIL is ridiculous. Does she have any idea how dangerous it could be to take an infant to the hospital???