If you are naming after a relative do you ever think that other relatives might feel "left out"? I was thinking that if we had a boy I would like to use my brothers name as the middle name. There's no real reason for this other than I think my brother would appreciate / like it and it's a name that would work well with a lot of other names. DH has 2 brothers and I'm worried that they would feel weird about us naming after my brother. I'm probably just being weird!! Who knows, we may never even have a boy! LOL
Re: A ? re: naming after relatives...
The first family name we have considered using (for a girl) is a name on both sides of our family. I like it so much because that could make everyone feel special! lol. For a boy I thought about using DH's name as a mn, which can't really offend anyone on one side of another, because, well, it's him.
I am not sure though-we've also talked about not using any family names at all, so that we aren't concerened about what side they are from with more than one child.
We'll I'm naming after the deceased so I don't think my other grandmas/grandpas who passed will care since they aren't alive.?
If the baby is a girl we are naming her Caroline Ruth. Caroline is Dh's great-grandma on his fathers' side and Ruth is Dh's grandma on his mother's side. If we have a son we are naming on my side. ?
Yeah I would feel a lot more comfortable naming after a deceased person, that way it seems like there's more of a "reason" to do it.
I've thought that too. Either, all our kids would have family names as middle names, or none of them would. I wouldn't ever want one to seem more 'meaningful'. I agree.?
Hmmm that's really interesting - I never thought about it from the kids perspective!
Our picks are all from family names. So far, no one's complained about feeling left out.
I think it's a little odd naming after someone's whose still alive though.
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Yeah I've thought this too! LOL I actually just realized that my brother was named after my mom's dad (who passed away while my grandma was pg with my mom). So, I guess I'm technically naming after my deceased grandpa whom I've never met...
We were going to use my great grandma's middle name as our first DD's middle name, but it completely didn't work with her first name and our last name. so we're using it as a middle name for DD #2. She was very important to me and DH wasn't ever that close with his relatives, of which are all deceased except his mother, so no one has an issue with that. Of my relatives none had any middle names that they wanted passed on, they all didn't want them bestowed on a child
Of course if we ever have a boy- it's up in the air if we're going to have another kid after this one or not, we'll have issues b/c both of my grandpas would like their names passed down, and there's no way we're going to have 2 more kids, so that would be an issue...
This. Both of my brothers have family names and I don't. I alwasy wondered why my parents couldn't just pick a family name as a mn or something to give my name more meaning. All of our kids have middle names after family - and so far the names cover both sides of the family (Jean is both my mom's and my mil's mn, Robert is after my late (favorite) uncle and DH's dad).
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The middle name we picked for this LO is a combo from both sides. We're using Caron as the mn after my mother (Carol) and MIL (Sharon).
My worry is that they'll expect something similar next time around. If it's a boy, we'd be looking at combining Rodger and Donald. I guess we could go with Ronald, but I'm not really digging that (yeah, Dodger is out). So, we'll probably pick another family name or my maiden name.
I figure the kid is already getting DH's family's name, so IMO my side gets "dibs" on any family names we choose for the middle. (First name is unique and not "after" anyone - that way they get they're own ID.)
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