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breezey2323 · April 2009

Ok so I was debating if I should post this or not, but its a slow friday so I figured what the heck, why not?

H is friends with a Seahawks wide receiver. They are from the same town in Alabama and they hang out occasionally. Well he informs me this morning that said friend is going to "rent out" a strip club for his brother's (his brother is H's friend also) birthday on Monday.

Now, I'm not really the type that TELLS their H, you CANNOT do X, Y, or Z. And I wouldn't even really care if he went with some of his less NFL player friends for an occasion like a bachlor party or something. But it is particularly disgusting to me that his friend is going to "rent out" the place. The strippers are going to be on them like white on rice.

Ick!

Ever since he told me I've just been sick about it. I don't want to HAVE to tell him not to go. I want him to do the right thing and just not go. It reminds me of that Jennifer Anniston movie: "I want you to WANT to do the dishes!" He's not the most sympathetic/sensitive person and I don't think he'll get it unless I drive home my point. I anticipate many many "discussions" about this in my near future.

Tongue Tied

I guess that's all.

Echowysp · April 2009

Yeah, that wouldn't be cool in my book.

jenifairies · April 2009

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

kayleebugs · April 2009

Good luck! I hate when my DH even goes to a club for a bach party....I have a couple of friends that were strippers way back and the stories they have told me make my mind run wild when he goes. I barely touch my husband for like a week after he goes to one. Luckily all his friends are married so no more bach parties!

mrsmatto · April 2009

No way, no how, would I be okay with that. I'd tell my Dh exactly how I felt and ask him to respect my feelings. Period!

brandonsfuturewife07 · April 2009

nope nope nope.

too pacman jones to me.

kgb1411 · April 2009

wow. I would probably ask a man what they think you should do.

SBMBride406 · April 2009

I am not a very jealous person and I have no issue with DH going out, so if there is something I am not ok with, he usually takes it seriously and doesn't do it. I try and reserve my "hell nos" for when they are needed and it sounds like you do too. I think you should tell him you are not ok with it. This would definately be a "hell no, you're not going" for me.

nybride0705 · April 2009

I totally see your point. I wouldn't mind the strip club for a bachelor party but when you add the celebrity into it I feel like things can and will get out of hand. I hope your DH understands your reasoning.

ali-1411 · April 2009

We've been to strip clubs together before, I don't think its that big of a deal. I wouldn't nag him about going, but he's not allowed any lap dances if I'm not there.

*crunchy* · April 2009

Make sure he knows not to lick the lolly pops.

breezey2323 · April 2009

kayleebugs:

Good luck! I hate when my DH even goes to a club for a bach party....I have a couple of friends that were strippers way back and the stories they have told me make my mind run wild when he goes. I barely touch my husband for like a week after he goes to one. Luckily all his friends are married so no more bach parties!

I know! I don't have an ex-stripper firends but I have some guy friends that have told me stories about what goes on at this club. My buddy told me that once when he was there he saw with his own eyes a girl giving some guy a BJ in the back of the club.

I think I'm going to have to take a hard line with this and just say NO. Yeah, b/c if he thinks he's not getting any now...the thought of skanky girls all over him is not exactly the turn on that I need.

Amrice78 · April 2009

jenifairies:
Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

breezey2323 · April 2009

*crunchy*:
Make sure he knows not to lick the lolly pops.

ummm...ew.

soontobeBailey · April 2009

I normally don't like to tell my dh that he can't do things either....but this would be an exception! I would have told him no from the first second he mentioned it. Actually, I would tell him he could go, but he would first have to undergo a simple castration (a la Lorena Bobitt) first. that should take care of any fears that you may have

breezey2323 · April 2009

Amrice78:
jenifairies:

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

Hint: This year is his 3rd year playing in the NFL. He used to play for Auburn.

He's not all super famous. I would be surprised if you guessed it.

Amrice78 · April 2009

breezey2323:
Amrice78:
jenifairies:

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

Hint: This year is his 3rd year playing in the NFL. He used to play for Auburn.

Got it

breezey2323 · April 2009

Amrice78:
breezey2323:
Amrice78:
jenifairies:

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

Hint: This year is his 3rd year playing in the NFL. He used to play for Auburn.

Got it

REALLY?

cbwm · April 2009

I don't understand what the big deal is.

Amrice78 · April 2009

breezey2323:
Amrice78:
breezey2323:
Amrice78:
jenifairies:

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

Hint: This year is his 3rd year playing in the NFL. He used to play for Auburn.

Got it

REALLY?

Yeah, but I cheated and looked up the roster

smiling76 · April 2009

mrsmatto:
No way, no how, would I be okay with that. I'd tell my Dh exactly how I felt and ask him to respect my feelings. Period!

Ditto that sister!!

breezey2323 · April 2009

Amrice78:
breezey2323:
Amrice78:
breezey2323:
Amrice78:
jenifairies:

Ugh, I would be that person who said you are NOT going.

Me too, but I'm really wondering which wide receiver your DH is friends with

Hint: This year is his 3rd year playing in the NFL. He used to play for Auburn.

Got it

REALLY?

Yeah, but I cheated and looked up the roster

lol. I was gonna say you must be a serious Seattle fan! He also knows Walter Jones and his whole family, but they don't hang out up here. Apparently Walter doesn't hang out much at all.

Amrice78 · April 2009

breezey2323:
lol. I was gonna say you must be a serious Seattle fan! He also knows Walter Jones and his whole family, but they don't hang out up here. Apparently Walter doesn't hang out much at all.

I think Walter has the right idea. When you're a football player I think it's way too easy to get into trouble and it's best to be a bit of a homebody, kwim?

carolinag · April 2009

a strip club for a bach party or something. ok fine. look but don't touch. but a rented out strip club? eek. you're totally right. those ladies will be all over them for the $$$. i'd be trying to come up with some excuse why dh couldn't go. "oh sorry babe, remember how i already made plans for us... i told you a month ago!"

ABMcKinney · April 2009

cbwm:
I don't understand what the big deal is.

It wouldn't be a big deal in my house either. My DH would have politely declined and probably wouldn't even have mentioned it to me.

jlb7640 · April 2009

Not if they are renting the place out. No way!

breezey2323 · April 2009

ABMcKinney:

cbwm:
I don't understand what the big deal is.

It wouldn't be a big deal in my house either. My DH would have politely declined and probably wouldn't even have mentioned it to me.

Yeah and that's cool...but somehow I don't think thats what cbwn meant.

breezey2323 · April 2009

Amrice78:
breezey2323:

lol. I was gonna say you must be a serious Seattle fan! He also knows Walter Jones and his whole family, but they don't hang out up here. Apparently Walter doesn't hang out much at all.

I think Walter has the right idea. When you're a football player I think it's way too easy to get into trouble and it's best to be a bit of a homebody, kwim?

Oh I know. And Courtney doesn't much either. He has a GF and is really nice and laid back. He usually just kicks back at home. In fact in the 2 years he's been up here they have gone out twice. Once for his brother's birthday and once for his.

ABMcKinney · April 2009

breezey2323:
ABMcKinney:

cbwm:
I don't understand what the big deal is.

It wouldn't be a big deal in my house either. My DH would have politely declined and probably wouldn't even have mentioned it to me.

Yeah and that's cool...but somehow I don't think thats what cbwn meant.

Lol. I know.

lildutch · April 2009

I totally get where you are coming from but maybe you can compromise. Like he can go for an hour or so to make an appearance but leave before things get too rowdy. IMHO, I'm way more freaked out of DH finding someone he liked at work or a place with intelligent women fully clothed.

KGsky · April 2009

Ok, but I mean, do you trust DH? And maybe I'm *too* trusting, but DH really has never given me reason not to trust him. So if he wants to go out and revel with the boyz every once in a blue moon (when someone gets married) I think it's o.k. Let me tell you, my bachelorette party was not rated PG--perhaps not even rated R--so I have no room to judge. But that kind of stuff really doesn't bother me, in terms of DH getting a lap dance or stuffing dollars in a hot chicks G-string after she spins upside down on a pole or bounces her butt cheeks individually to the beat of the music. I trust that he will not be the dude in the back of da club gettin' head. But you know your DH and you have to be comfortable with what he does. Just my 2 cents.

Janimal · April 2009

Just because the club is rented out doesn't make the strippers any more or less money hungry. They are ALWAYS all over the men for the their $$.

I respect that many women have very strong feelings about strip clubs. I personally would have no problem with this scenario. IDK if DH looks at naked women. And I believe with all my heart that he wouldn't do anything that I wouldn't approve of. I wouldn't have married him otherwise. Heck, I booked the strippers for his bachelor party in Vegas because I had a connection at a casino who gave me a discount.

breezey2323 · April 2009

You guys (KG and Janimal) are both right. And I do trust him, but in the back of my mind bad bad things are happening. Like I said if it were under normal circumstances I could totally deal.

BUT, VIP status and going with a group of NFL players? ugh. I just don't know about that.

ABMcKinney · April 2009

For me it's not a trust issue. My/husbands morals aside, it's just not appropriate for a married man with kids to be out looking at naked women.

Amrice78 · April 2009

My objection is not a trust issue either, but a respect one.

Judah'sMommy · April 2009

breezey2323:

You guys (KG and Janimal) are both right. And I do trust him, but in the back of my mind bad bad things are happening. Like I said if it were under normal circumstances I could totally deal.

BUT, VIP status and going with a group of NFL players? ugh. I just don't know about that.

So he could only go if he was a broke nobody that the strippers paid no attention to? lol I see why you're uncomfortable but it wouldn't be a big deal to me. But that type of stuff just doesn't bother me. Like PP said, I'd be more concerned about my DH meeting a fully clothed intelligent woman at work or something than some skank at a bachelor party.

jenifairies · April 2009

ABMcKinney:
For me it's not a trust issue. My/husbands morals aside, it's just not appropriate for a married man with kids to be out looking at naked women.

ditto. it's a respect issue, not a trust issue.

my h wouldn't even ASK to go, let alone assume it's all good. he didn't even have a TnA bachelor party. His idea to have a BBQ together with friends.

breezey2323 · April 2009

Judah'sMommy:
breezey2323:

You guys (KG and Janimal) are both right. And I do trust him, but in the back of my mind bad bad things are happening. Like I said if it were under normal circumstances I could totally deal.

BUT, VIP status and going with a group of NFL players? ugh. I just don't know about that.

So he could only go if he was a broke nobody that the strippers paid no attention to? lol I see why you're uncomfortable but it wouldn't be a big deal to me. But that type of stuff just doesn't bother me. Like PP said, I'd be more concerned about my DH meeting a fully clothed intelligent woman at work or something than some skank at a bachelor party.

EXACTLY! LOL!

Judah'sMommy · April 2009

ABMcKinney:
For me it's not a trust issue. My/husbands morals aside, it's just not appropriate for a married man with kids to be out looking at naked women.

I think what is appropriate is totally subjective.

jade_sweatpea · April 2009

brandonsfuturewife07:

nope nope nope.

too pacman jones to me.

lol my husband would not be "making it rain" with grocery my money

breezey2323 · April 2009

jade_sweatpea:
brandonsfuturewife07:

nope nope nope.

too pacman jones to me.

lol my husband would not be "making it rain" with grocery my money

Ok. I know thats a football player but what? huh?

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