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Being a mom/having a mom

RufflesRamboRufflesRambo
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because I'm flying home with DS to see my parents this weekend. I have a great mom and I talk to her every day, several times a day - and she is SO excited that we are coming. It sort of dawned on me that she must love me as much as I love DS. Now don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but my love for DS is the strongest thing I've ever felt. I guess I never really thought about my mom thinking of me as "her baby" in the way I see DS. Makes me look at her in a different light that's for sure!
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  • *blondiem**blondiem*

    As a motherless daughter, this post makes me so happy inside.

    I have friends that have terrible relationships with their mothers. Not having mine here, makes me resentful towards them and their actions towards their moms.

    It's so nice to see someone that has a fab relationship with their mom. And you are so right.  She does love you as much as you love DS! And think about her love for him!! Whoa.

     

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  • star173star173 member
    Agreed. My mom and I had a good relationship before, but now that I am a mom too..I see so much more clearly all the sacrifices she made. We have a much stronger relationship now.
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  • lovely40lovely40 member
    I agree. I have come to understand/appreciate my mom so much better now that I have a daughter of my own. It's been very enlightening.
    DD 4yo DS 1yo
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  • SBear12SBear12 member

    I so agree. I'm really, really close to my parents and since having DD, even MORE respectful/appreciative of them. My deepest hope is that DD and I end up with a relationship like the one my mom and I have.

    That said, it makes me even more incredulous that my in-laws treat DH (their only child!) the way they do... the guilt trips and resentment directed at such a kind, selfless guy... ugh. I look at DD and can't IMAGINE knowingly doing that to her, ever.

    I was raised in a home where unconditional love was a way of life, and that's the kind of home I want for my children, too. I'm so thankful I had parents that modeled that for me. :)

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  • laur1120laur1120

    That is awesome! I too am superclose with my mom and she is coming to visit me this weekend!! I can't freakkkking wait!! :)

    I too hope that DD and I will always be as close as my mom and I are.  I hope I can be as great a mom to her and my mom has been to me.  Ok now you are making me cry, I better stop!

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  • JandB07JandB07
    It's amazing how much things change once you become a parent!  I've always been very close with my family but my mom and I (being way too much alike) have always butted heads at times.  Ever since I had my DD our relationship has completely changed and is a million times better!  Not only do I appreciate her so much more but I think she also has a new view of me that has only strengthened our relationship.
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  • rlthomas7rlthomas7
    I read something in the Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy that has stuck with me. It said that even if your relationship with your mom or MIL isn't great, in most cases, these ladies would fight a tiger with their bare hands if it would save their grandchild. And every time one of them drives me a little nuts (more MIL of course!), I just remember that and figure that Adam's world is a better place because he's loved so much by so many. And that can never be bad. So yes, your mom loves you AND your child like you can only now understand.
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