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Multiples
Smileygirl75
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Increasing the chance of multiples
Smileygirl75
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Hi
Please pardon my ignorance, but after doing a fair bit of research I've been unable to find any information.
My DH and I are just starting TTC and I'm wondering if there are any natural ways to increase our chances of multiples.
Just thought some been there/done that moms might know.
Thanks
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Re: Increasing the chance of multiples
No there isn't.
Having multiples is hard work both during and after your pregnancy and tons of complications can arise for you and your babies.
::flings popcorn around::
I agree! There are a ton of complications with multiples. And the babies, most of the time, spend a lot of time in NICU. Why would you want to put precious babies through that just because you WANT multiples.
Oh...here we go...
:passes popcorn and raisinets around:
This gets asked about once a week around here. Most people will tell you you don't want multiples because
1. multiple pregnancy = high risk pregnancy
2. high risk pregnancy means high probability of bedrest for you
3. high risk pregnancy means high probability of early delivery and NICU time
4. having two (or more) babies at once is really really hard. it puts a lot of strain on you, your relationship with your partner, and your finances
I could go on but I think you get the picture. You won't get a lot of help in "increasing your odds" from most of the people on here, just warnings.
Good luck TTC
This gets asked about once a week around here. Most people will tell you you don't want multiples because
1. multiple pregnancy = high risk pregnancy
2. high risk pregnancy means high probability of bedrest for you
3. high risk pregnancy means high probability of early delivery and NICU time
4. having two (or more) babies at once is really really hard. it puts a lot of strain on you, your relationship with your partner, and your finances
I could go on but I think you get the picture. You won't get a lot of help in "increasing your odds" from most of the people on here, just warnings.
Good luck TTC
It has been a few weeks since we have had one of these. Faery, have at it my dear. You seem to have the proper answer well rehearsed.
oh Sweet Jesus ..... why would you want more than one at once?
I'm already in tears trying to figure out how I will care for my two at the same time ..... and I'm in pain most days and I feel like a usless cow becuase everyday chores leaves me outta breath or tired or sore.
Reconsider .... just have 2 back to back or a few months apart!
and I think the only way to "increase your odds" would be fert drugs ...
Well thank you all for your opinions. It certainly gives us more to think and talk about.
I certainly didn't mean/intend to diminish the struggle that both the pregnancy and parenting of multiples can be. I am a mother of four, and at 33 just curious about it more than anything.
Thanks.
lol....quickly googles online pharmacy
lol I just googled that too for SnG's ... and sadly I think you can order them ....
Looks like it. In all of the different doses. CRAZY to think that this could happen. How dangerous.
Oh goodness...you already have 4 and now you want multiples.....you really don't know what you're asking for....the reality of it is you could be on bedrest for MONTHS - and all that while having 4 other children to take care of
Although I seem to be in the minority around here, I DID want multiples. Of course, I was coming into it without any knowledge of the issues that can happen; just thought it would be awesome to have twins. My best friends growing up were twins and I think part of my fascination started with that.
I ended up with my wish after in-vetro #1 (DH has fertility issues) and haven't looked back. Although there are obviously more risks and issues that arise, I had a very easy pregnancy. I was in the hospital for 3 days to watch my fluid level at 36 weeks and delivered my sons at 37 weeks. Neither of them spent any time in the NICU and came home with us. Although it is challenging a lot of the time and I feel like I can't give them as much as I could if there were only 1, I wouldn't change it for the world.
To answer your question, I think fertility drugs are the only way you can increase your chances. That and prayer!!
A woman after my own heart!
Yams!
From my own experience:
- PTL since 20 wks.
- High Risk from day 1
- Placenta previa, bleedings every 2 wks (TMI: more like gushing)
- Deliver my boys at 31 wks due to bleeding and other complications
- Saw my boys for for 1 min each and they were taken for a diff hospital for 8 days
- recovery by myself, no baby to see, hold, smell and feed
- Go home w: 0 babies?
- NICU time: baby "A" 4 wks and "B" 3 wk
- Possible surgery, death, breathing problems, devlp delays and and who know what else will come up during the 1st year.
- ?and they are EXPENSIVE!!!! wanna see my NICU bill? Helmet bill? MY OWN bill? Diapers, formula, 2 of everything? ?not to mention daycare
The fact is that we're all blessed with beautiful babies. They are cute, fun but also hard work. Very expensive and this can cause problems in your relationship. I hope you don't feel like we are rude or mean, the ladies on this board are amazing. We've experience so much that we would hate for other to have to experience the same. Best of luck TTC, if God want twins for you then may he bless you.?
The Yam thing: ?
Eat yams.There are certain cultures that have more twins than others. One of these is a tribe where they eat a lot of yams. There is a theory that it is a certain chemical in the yams that helps the women in this culture have more twins.?
Zeidy?
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Holy sh!t, I was thinking the same exact thing, with a few more colorful terms, and simoutaneously, oddly enough, Nadya Suleman kept popping into my head. I am 33 and have 4 kids, AMONGST THEM are triplets (not in addition to), and I have waaaaayyyy more than I can handle. I understand that people think it's "cool" to have multiples, but there has never been a bigger pain in my a$$ ever in my life than dealing with 4 kids between the ages of 1 and 3. Ugh.
I didn't intend any popcorn eating either, I just don't get why people would ever, ever, ever (especially intentionally) want more than one baby at once. I also think it's hilarious that everyone is always like, "Oh, the health risks, the bedrest, the prematurity, yada, yada, yada," but no one ever says, "just dealing with them on a day-to-day basis is horrifying." Let me be the first. LMAO!!!!
My understanding is that we don't have the actual yams in the US that cause this. All we get here are sweet potatoes (even if they say yams) and that only true African Yams grown in a certain region carry this.
Oh well....I guess online pharmacy is the way to go. (scary, you can get anything online)
Maybe she can get the yams online; imported from Africa??? Hehehehe...
Except African yams!
Ahhhh... Americans. Always assuming that everyone is in the same country as they are.
Thank God I'm not as "fortunate" as you. Or is it "y'all"?!?
WTF are you talking about? Because of the yam/sweet potato availability comment? lol...good lord.
And it is y'all. Thank you for showing your cultural awareness.
I also wanted multiples because I only wanted to have to go through the IVF process once. But to the OP, you dont want to go through IVF. To be able to have one baby naturally is such a blessing and miracle.
THAT'S WHAT I WAS THINKING! I think the TV showes are up to 18 kids so she is way too far behind for that.
I totally understand this type of want/need. IVF is difficult at best, I wouldn't want to do it more than once (actually, I wouldn't want to do it).
You should pretty blessed already.
Having multiples would be incredibly selfish as it would take away a HUGE amount of time away from your current 4 kids. 1 baby, fine. You can deal with that. But more than 1 and you won't have any time for your other four.
Brady Phoenix, 8.29.09
Claire Zoe, 10.26.10
You took the words out of my mouth!
::Chomping on popcorn::
Thanks ladies! I snarfed my soda reading all your comments!
Hy-Lar-ie-ous!
And to the OP: You really do smell a lot like Nadya Suleman. Why would you wish this on your family? You aren't thinking about the other people that having multiples will affect. My babies are a blessing and a joy and my life and I wouldn't trade them for the world. But the hell that has been their short little lives has been more than anyone should ever experience and you are wishing for the odds, both good and bad, to affect your WHOLE FAMILY.
So shut up, sit down and cross your legs and be happy with what you have!
Looks like someone else is showing their ignorance.
yes, we are all blessed to have our multiples...but please condsider the trouble we went thru to have them
the risks are just too much IMO to WANT multiples.
PTL, bedrest, blood clots, risk of losing one/two/more, NICU time, RSV shots (1000/month/kid x4-6 months), pre-e, etc
not to mention the cost! Do you have an idea of how expensive it is?
Yes, we are all blessed and I don't think there is one of us who would "put one back" if we could...maybe you can ask the octomom- I heard she really isnt taking care of her kids at the moment....she has 14 maybe she'll give you a couple????
*raises hand- can I have some popcorn too?*
I also WANTED twins and was shocked, yet THRILLED, to find out we were actually having them (naturally conceived). My babies are a year old and I'm still amazed! I had 3 children (including my twins) by 29 and though it's a tremendous challenge to raise 3 young ones and work full time, I never found it to be horrifying.