Increasing the chance of multiples

MandieSueM

smileygirl75:

Ahhhh... Americans.  Always assuming that everyone is in the same country as they are.

Thank God I'm not as "fortunate"  as you.  Or is it "y'all"?!?

Not sure what exactly you're referring to, since you're location clearly says "Alberta," which I took to mean Alberta, Canada, no?  Or is it, "Eh?"  So are you saying that African yams bountiful up there?

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you must not know how to use google- b/c there is a ton of info ou there on how to increase odds for multiples.... yes- there are some factors that do increase the chances - but unless you do IF treatments- none are more probable than just luck.

your "fair bit of research" was pretty lame.... and ditto what everyone else has said.

MandieSueM

Cristallynn, you don't find it horrifying b/c you get the luxury of getting away from them.  So when you do see them and get to spend time with them it's the sweetest time ever.  Maybe you're wracked with guilt because you can't stay home with them yourself (I was when I put my oldest into daycare), but it makes you make every second you have with them so much less stressful, so much less taxing.  Quality, not quantity, right?  I spend all day, every day, with 3 1 year olds and a 2 1/2 year old and while I'm finding that as they get older it's getting easier, I still long for my own time.  If I go grocery shopping alone for 2 hours on a Saturday I'm that much happier to see my kids when I get home because I got that break.  I haven't been home in the thick of it with them getting under my skin constantly.

 

Twins run in my family so we always knew that was a possibility, but I never WANTED them.  It was one of those, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't things.  Well, it happened and then some.  Completely unplanned, completely unasked for, my life turned upside down, my dreams for myself out the window.  And I know I'm validated in being selfish, yearning for my old life because I've been in therapy for the last 9 months and I've learned that ONE unexpected baby may be a lot for some women to deal with, THREE unexpected babies is a lot for any one to deal with.

I'm not trying to be b!tchy, I just must have a much harder time dealing with the realities of my life than you.

clmontan@aol.com

Adding on to my repsonse, I think this is MUD, but if it's not....

I come from a family of 6, and it is EXTREMELY difficult to really give each child the individual attention they need. My mother is an amazing woman who did the best that she could, but there were many important moments in my life that she missed because she couldn't possibly be there for everything. Not that I'm bitter (really!) but I promised myself I wouldn't do that to my own kids and therefore am breaking the unofficial family tradition of having huge families. Having 4 other children is probably keeping you busy enough, but adding twins to it....

clmontan@aol.com

MandieSueM:

Cristallynn -

 

You don't find it horrifying b/c you get the luxury of getting away from them.  So when you do see them and get to spend time with them it's the sweetest time ever.  Maybe you're wracked with guilt because you can't stay home with them yourself (I was when I put my oldest into daycare), but it makes you make every second you have with them so much less stressful, so much less taxing.  Quality, not quantity, right?  I spend all day, every day, with 3 1 year olds and a 2 1/2 year old and while I'm finding that as they get older it's getting easier, I still long for my own time.  If I go grocery shopping alone for 2 hours on a Saturday I'm that much happier to see my kids when I get home because I got that break.  I haven't been home in the thick of it with them getting under my skin constantly.

Twins run in my family so we always knew that was a possibility, but I never WANTED them.  It was one of those, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't things.  Well, it happened and then some.  Completely unplanned, completely unasked for, my life turned upside down, my dreams for myself out the window.  And I know I'm validated in being selfish, yearning for my old life because I've been in therapy for the last 9 months and I've learned that ONE unexpected baby may be a lot for some women to deal with, THREE unexpected babies is a lot for any one to deal with.

I'm not trying to be b!tchy, I just must have a much harder time dealing with the realities of my life than you.

MandieSue, you certainly are entitled to your feelings. I am not wracked with guilt about going to work to support my family, and as a teacher I am home with them in the summer day in and day out.  For me personally, it is not horrifying. It doesn't mean it's not stressful, because the second I get home from work I'm on Mommy and Wife duty- it never ends! I too consider grocery shopping "me" time, because it really is the precious little time I get to myself.

I don't think you're b!tchy or a bad mom for being honest. I don't have triplets or 4 under 3!! All of your kids are still at very needy ages, and I'm sure it can seem almost impossible to handle some days.

blueladybug

MandieSueM:

Holy sh!t, I was thinking the same exact thing, with a few more colorful terms, and simoutaneously, oddly enough, Nadya Suleman kept popping into my head.  I am 33 and have 4 kids, AMONGST THEM are triplets (not in addition to), and I have waaaaayyyy more than I can handle.  I understand that people think it's "cool" to have multiples, but there has never been a bigger pain in my a$$ ever in my life than dealing with 4 kids between the ages of 1 and 3.  Ugh.

I didn't intend any popcorn eating either, I just don't get why people would ever, ever, ever (especially intentionally) want more than one baby at once.  I also think it's hilarious that everyone is always like, "Oh, the health risks, the bedrest, the prematurity, yada, yada, yada," but no one ever says, "just dealing with them on a day-to-day basis is horrifying."  Let me be the first.  LMAO!!!!

LMAO!!  My DH and I are rolling!  I totally agree even though I only have 2.

mommyof4boys

I think I heard my SIL say something about drinking two different types of wine and having sex twice in one night and that's how she got her twins.  Mine came from shooting myself up with lots of drugs in my stomach, having them concieved in a lab then was on bedrest from most of the pregnancy.

PianoPlayingSarah

OK, I have a confession.  I ATE THE YAMS!!!!!

clmontan@aol.com

OK- I know I'm only on here once in a while, but we have TWO moms of identical triplets??? WOW!

PianoPlayingSarah

Yes.  And my girls are going to marry Pam's (pea-kay) boys!!!

 

 

MandieSueM

PianoPlayingSarah:

OK, I have a confession.  I ATE THE YAMS!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!

I didn't go NEAR the yams, but I was on vacation, and I was doin' it reverse cowgirl followed by a nap while the baby was napping.  Stupid vacation sex.

PianoPlayingSarah

MandieSueM:

PianoPlayingSarah:

OK, I have a confession.  I ATE THE YAMS!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!

I didn't go NEAR the yams, but I was on vacation, and I was doin' it reverse cowgirl followed by a nap while the baby was napping.  Stupid vacation sex.

Sounds better than the yams!!!

BabyDavison

Umm.. I'm Canadian and that didn't keep me off of bedrest or my babies out of the NICU- that's international honey.