I don't want any more children.

Re: I don't want any more children.

• SoontobeSavino

  March 2009

  i said the same thing about my second child, that it would be for alex and not for me. boy was i wrong. Its so much different the second time around, at least for me. im more at ease and find myself not wanting max to grow up. everything seems easier this time around because i knew what to expect. the sleepless nights dont last forever and the teething goes away too. dont worry about number 2 yet, just keep enjoying all of your time with nadia. it goes by really fast, irs crazy to me that Alex is already 3.
  

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• Snshine

  March 2009

  I promise you will feel differently once all her teeth are in.  I will however tell you that you will curse ever single one she gets.  Hang in there!  I totally feel your pain!

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• MelanieJH1016

  March 2009

  i hear ya, Mari! I have no desire for another child... but DH keeps telling me we'll regret it later for Zoe not having any siblings. As of now, I am sticking tight to my plan of just 1 though! Teething totally sucks, but it comes to an end, eventually!

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• love4ever2006

  March 2009

  Aww.....poor you. You sound very overwhelmed. I don't have my second child here yet but you will forget. Just enjoy it (even the bad) because it goes by really fast and then you will miss everything so bad that you tend to remember only the good.?

  Hugs.....

  Barbie?

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• melly&jimmy

  March 2009

  We do forget all the tough times.  And with the second child - you already know what to expect, you're more experienced, and not as stressed out.  Enjoy Nadia now - as they say...this too shall pass.

  

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• ANJ410

  March 2009

  I vividly remember laying in the dark with a three month old Nicholas one night at 4 am, tears streaming down my face, and thinking "I never ever want to do this again!"

  Sleep deprivation night after night really takes its toll. Even now, I am afraid of taking that leap and having another one because I don't want to go through it all again. Motherhood is by far 1000X harder than anyone could have ever prepared me for.  Of course, I don't want Nicky to be an only child, so evenutally I will have to take that leap, but for me its been a hard decision to make. I'm hoping all the moms of two who posted reassuring words are right! But two is definitely going to be it for me.
  

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• YapYap0813 member

  March 2009

  It really does get easier when #2 comes. You're totally more prepared in all aspects. And you can always remember "Oh wait, I remember this hell only last like 3 more weeks!" LOL!

  That said, I'm definitley not in any rush for #3! Hannah has been a much more difficult baby than Kaitlyn ever was and is really keeping me from taking the leap for a thrid child. We're really on the fence on that one.

  If I can give any useful advice it would be to give yourself plenty of time to enjoy Nadia as an only child. Kaitlyn was only 20 months old when Hannah was born and it's really tough with that age difference to split your time and make sure the oldest is still getting enough mommy time.

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• Haleakala

  March 2009

  Funny you post this...I was thinking lately about how happy I am with having one child. I was an only child for almost 10 years before my mom had more children and I was fine by myself and with brothers/sisters. For me, pregnancy wasn't that bad, even labor was fine but I'm not sure if I want to have antother child. (And she slept almost 9 hours this weekend).

  I have a friend that wants to have one child soon (when I tell her how I feel about this subject) and she was an only child (and loved it) so I don't think of it as the worst thing in the world. I am 30, so maybe if I was younger I would feel diferently but there is so much we want to do, and having 2 children make it more difficult.

  That being said I always said 2 is my limit depending on how things go in the next few years but lately Madison may be our one and only and we are very happy with our little girl (I also worry that if we did go for #2 it would be the complete opposite experience and so much harder since she is so good).            

  

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• CesEve99 member

  March 2009

  i'm sorry u are feeling this way. i have no advice for you i just wanted to send you a big hug

  motherhood is hard but worth every penny savor every moment, before you know it she will be one year and the infancy has slipped from right under you!

  

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• MellyMelB

  March 2009

  It is not easy and whoever said it was LIED. There is a lot that goes into a parent that involves putting your needs second and when the baby is sick or needs extra attention you kinda forget what it is like to do what YOU want to do. I am sending some huge hugs your way! I always think that maybe with the second it IS easy only because you know what to expect and like, Erin says, you know how long it lasts vs this unknown with the first one.

  One can only hope, right?

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