Why is everyone NOT want a C/S?

lbittma80 · February 2009

Hey, just curious here. I had a c/s with my son and plan to have another one this time.

I'm not about to rag on anyone's personal preferences, I'm just curious why folks seem almost afraid to have one or like it would be a huge let down or something.

lbittma80 · February 2009

I have to apologize for the grammatical error in my subject line...please don't send the Grammar Police!

Beccaboo0713 · February 2009

I know I sound childish when I say this but the idea of someone cutting open my stomach while I am a awake freaks me out.

Edit to add:

I am not anti C/S I would just rather have a vaginal birth.

chrissyellen · February 2009

As I read through the replys to my post below; I am wondering the same thing? First time ignorance for me maybe?

thatgirlang · February 2009

Because it's major surgery and a lot of people would prefer to avoid it unless medically necessary.

BadaBing327 · February 2009

Major abdominal surgery doesn't sound like a fun thing to me. If it's medically necessary I'm not going to feel "let down" but I would never ask my doctor to sign me up for one "just because."

MrsNnr · February 2009

I would rather push a baby out vaginally than be cut open... just my opinion. Either way though I know it will hurt like hell!

nicoleandadam · February 2009

From what I've heard, the recovery time is typically longer.

chrissyellen · February 2009

lbittma80:
I have to apologize for the grammatical error in my subject line...please don't send the Grammar Police!

watch out there is this one chick on here (i dont pay attention to her name) who corrects everything i type; i think she is a cyber-stalker to all my posts. Eee Indifferent

majors31 · February 2009

I don't really care either way. I've heard a lot of people say that it means a lot more if you don't have a c-section, but either way, I grew a human and birthed them. Having a c-section doesn't diminish how awesome that is.

My only concern is (either way) recovery time. And that a c-section is major surgery.

The Ganci's · February 2009

I think a lot of people are worried because they feel like a c/s is a major surgery. Its not (its not ladies, its routine and can sometimes be safer for baby and mom). But the stigma of surgery is frightening to most. I am of the opinion that - birthplan or not - whatever is best for the baby needs to be done. Its a nerve racking experience no matter what but no matter what the end result will be a beautiful little baby boy or girl.

lbittma80 · February 2009

chrissyellen:
lbittma80:
I have to apologize for the grammatical error in my subject line...please don't send the Grammar Police!

watch out there is this one chick on here (i dont pay attention to her name) who corrects everything i type; i think she is a cyber-stalker to all my posts. Eee

is it the same one who is mortified by my use of the word "retarded"?..just curious...

ShanLeAnn · February 2009

thatgirlang:
Because it's major surgery and a lot of people would prefer to avoid it unless medically necessary.

ditto this.

Kissmemylovely · February 2009

If I don't need a C/S than why do it? Birth is a natural thing and someone cutting my stomach open does not seem natural. And why do something that takes 6 weeks to heal when vaginal you start feeling normal after a few days (As long as you don't have major tearing). That's just how I feel though.

peachypear · February 2009

While routine, it's still major surgery. It takes longer to recover, it's more costly, there's evidence that it may not be as good for baby, it may not feel like a "birthing" experience, IVs totally freak me out (I've had them without issue; it's just a phobia)...

...but mainly, I simply don't want to do more than is necessary. I'd rather the baby leave through the hole I already have!

berry25 · February 2009

There was a good post on PC&E the other day about this:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/11550767.aspx

AshNicole331 · February 2009

I'm not anti-c/s. I've never actually had any surgery done in my entire life. It really scares me. I just can't understand why someone would choose to have a c/s, unless medically necessary.

thatgirlang · February 2009

Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

A c-section is NOT the end of the world but it's just not something I would choose. Also, I think some women aren't as much afraid of a c-section as they are of an EMERGENCY c-section. That almost happened to me and it was terrifying. I could have handled it a lot better had the doc said a few days or a week out, "Hey, this isn't going to happen vaginally, Prepare for a c-section."

Chrysallys · February 2009

I do not want one and am going out of my way to avoid getting one unless it is necessary to save my baby, ie. Ihave a MW, I'm delivering sans drugs, at a hospital that is natural birth friendly, avoiding induction, etc.

Why would you elect to have one is what I'd ask you? It's major abdominal surgery and it takes much more healing time. There have been studies that breastfeeding can be more difficult with C/S babies. I could go on and on but I'm not in the mood to type a book.

I'm going vaginal and drug free because my body was designed to do this. I'm not going to let pain get in my way. I figure if trillions of women have done this before me, why can't I? I also am more afraid of what could go wrong with medical intervention and a C/S. And to be a little bit vain, I don't want a scar.

chrissyellen · February 2009

lbittma80:
chrissyellen:

lbittma80:
I have to apologize for the grammatical error in my subject line...please don't send the Grammar Police!

watch out there is this one chick on here (i dont pay attention to her name) who corrects everything i type; i think she is a cyber-stalker to all my posts. Eee

is it the same one who is mortified by my use of the word "retarded"?..just curious...

ha ha no; never seen her before. ha ha

Mrs.Teddy · February 2009

I personally would rather have a c-section, that is just because I am convinced I will havea terrible vaginally delivery & never properly heal, like my sister.

While a c-section IS major surgery, it is also routine. However often when a c-section is done it is under emergency circumstances, making every situation very different.

I have seen vaginal deliveries that have longer recovery time. I have seen a poor girl with an episiotomy that tore, she still tore up & had a urethral & clitoral laceration, she had to go home with a catheter, as she was unable to pee on her own because the damage was so severe. You cannot tell me that is better then a neatr little abdominal incision. I guess I've seen too much. I think a straight forward vaginal delivery, even with a tear, 1 or 2 even 3 degrees is better then a c-section, but life has no gaurantees!

chrissyellen · February 2009

thatgirlang:

Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

A c-section is NOT the end of the world but it's just not something I would choose. Also, I think some women aren't as much afraid of a c-section as they are of an EMERGENCY c-section. That almost happened to me and it was terrifying. I could have handled it a lot better had the doc said a few days or a week out, "Hey, this isn't going to happen vaginally, Prepare for a c-section."

agreed

lbittma80 · February 2009

thatgirlang:
Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

That part was what I was most interested in. Why people think it's such a let down. I totally get the "major surgery" component, recover time and the "ew" factor. I am not looking forward to doing any of that again.

But I do have visions (delusional or not) of my uterus exploding if I went VBAC. I'm such a dork..

tigpom · February 2009

Well I just prefer to try a vaginal birth. I have already been told I have a change of needing a c-section and if that is the case then I am not going to be upset or disappointed. I have just had family and friends have c-sections and it seemed like their recovery was longer

HisLobster · February 2009

The Ganci's:
I think a lot of people are worried because they feel like a c/s is a major surgery. Its not (its not ladies, its routine and can sometimes be safer for baby and mom). But the stigma of surgery is frightening to most. I am of the opinion that - birthplan or not - whatever is best for the baby needs to be done. Its a nerve racking experience no matter what but no matter what the end result will be a beautiful little baby boy or girl.

It IS major surgery. Just because it's routine, doesn't mean it's not major. Also, in some cases it is best for baby but unless there is a medical reason, a vaginal birth is actually best. Also, even though I healed very quickly from my c/s, that's not true for many people. Recovery time is very important. If I had my druthers, I'd choose vaginal birth, but it's not the less risky option for me at this point.

theweathermanswife · February 2009

Being a first time mom with no risk factors, I wouldn't choose a c/s at this time. Yes it is routine, but it is also still major surgery with a longer recovery time. If I can have a vaginal birth, why wouldn't I? That hole is there for a reason! Situations can change and emergencies happen, and obviously if the baby or I were in any danger, I would not hesitate to agree to a c/s.

The Ganci's · February 2009

I personally would rather deliver vaginally although I'm not against a C/S. Yes recovery time is longer but if my baby is in distress I would with out a doubt opt for a c/s or what ever is best. I'm sure non of us would do anything that could harm the baby. I have also heard that there is a little disconnect with a c/s. I really dont know haha. I just think what ever needs to be done should be done and I am open to what ever is safest. Ugh now I've got more to think about for delivery and I'm only half way through hahaha.

The New Mrs. · February 2009

For me, vaginal birth is the ideal way to deliver. Every little girl imagines getting pg and having a baby (ok, maybe they don't imagine the whole vaginal process but they certainly don't imagine a c/s!). Plus, a c-section is a major sugery - I've had my appendix out and that 2 inch scar on my stomach affected everything I did - your stomach is your core to every mucsle/movement. I'd rather not have to worry about recovering from that with a newborn and being a first time mom. That said, I am willing to do whatever is medically necessary and the best possible option for the health of me and my son. If I go in and they tell me it has to be a c/s, ok, then it has to be a c/s - whatever gets my son here safe and healthy. I'm not against it, I just wouldn't pick it as my first choice.

lbittma80 · February 2009

Chrysallys:

Why would you elect to have one is what I'd ask you? It's major abdominal surgery and it takes much more healing time. There have been studies that breastfeeding can be more difficult with C/S babies. I could go on and on but I'm not in the mood to type a book.

Totally legit question. Mine is not elective. I had my first that way and the hospital is hesitant to do a VBAC with me and my doc STRONGLY recommended that I go C/S since my first was an emergency C/S.

NewLerma · February 2009

Chrysallys:
There have been studies that breastfeeding can be more difficult with C/S babies.

Wow I never heard that before? I didn't have any problems bf'ing the boys though. I was a little bit disappointed that I ended up with a C/S but I know he wouldn't have made it if I didn't so it was ok for me. Then my next Dr. scared me into doing a repeat, which I'm a lot bitter for because we wanted to have a large family and now I'm done

ForForever · February 2009

Maybe it's got something to do with the fact that I would prefer not to have major surgery.

theweathermanswife · February 2009

Mrs.Teddy:

I have seen vaginal deliveries that have longer recovery time. I have seen a poor girl with an episiotomy that tore, she still tore up & had a urethral & clitoral laceration, she had to go home with a catheter, as she was unable to pee on her own because the damage was so severe. You cannot tell me that is better then a neatr little abdominal incision. I guess I've seen too much. I think a straight forward vaginal delivery, even with a tear, 1 or 2 even 3 degrees is better then a c-section, but life has no gaurantees!

Are you an L&D nurse? I am a NICU nurse and have also "seen too much" as far as what happens after L&D

lovelyophelia · February 2009

I'm not anti C/S. I will have one if needed, but I'd rather just not have major abdominal surgery.

thatgirlang · February 2009

lbittma80:
thatgirlang:

Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

That part was what I was most interested in. Why people think it's such a let down. I totally get the "major surgery" component, recover time and the "ew" factor. I am not looking forward to doing any of that again.

But I do have visions (delusional or not) of my uterus exploding if I went VBAC. I'm such a dork..

I guess it's a let down because you most likely didn't plan it and when things don't go the way you planned, you feel sad or down about it. Especially when, as PP said, it's something you may have thought about going a certain way since you were a little girl.

My MIL had 3 c-sections with all of her kids. They are adults and she is almost 60 years old. With ALL of her experience, she has told me that she still feels like she missed out and I know/understand something she never did because I had a vaginal delivery. This is just how some women feel.

The Ganci's · February 2009

Ok I dont know where I heard that a c/s is not major surgery...hmm I might want to check my source. Sorry ladies, especially to those who have had a c/s. I'm just nervous about it all around, c/s and vaginal....I'm excited to meet my son but I'm freaked.

The New Mrs. · February 2009

lbittma80:

Hey, just curious here. I had a c/s with my son and plan to have another one this time.

I'm not about to rag on anyone's personal preferences, I'm just curious why folks seem almost afraid to have one or like it would be a huge let down or something.

And for various reasons, I can see why someone who previously had a c/s would choose to have another.... But I don't think that's something most first time mom's would opt for given the choice.

rumpunch21 · February 2009

I also believed my body was designed to give birth naturally and wanted a drug free birth also. After 27 hours of labor, no progression, and meconium in the water after they broke it, they did a c section. Did I feel let down? Hell no. I carried a beautiful, healthy 9 lb baby past term. I didn't WANT a c section, but I'm having another with this baby. I realize that it's not how you birth a baby, but how you PARENT a baby that matters.

Oh, and I had NO trouble breastfeeding. In fact the LC at the hospital said I was the only mom who had a baby feeding properly the day DD was born.

peppermintgirl · February 2009

The Ganci's:
I think a lot of people are worried because they feel like a c/s is a major surgery. Its not (its not ladies, its routine and can sometimes be safer for baby and mom).

Just because a surgery is routine does not mean that it's not major. In fact, the American Pregnancy Association even states that it's a major surgical procedure.

I would not feel like a failure or robbed of some kind of satisfaction if I needed a C-section for my/my baby's health. If that's what needs to be done, then so be it. I have serious surgical phobias due to having health problems as a child, so I'm not exactly looking forward to the possibility of being cut open, especially while I'm awake.

AutumnBride929 · February 2009

I would welcome a c/s if I needed one, lol. I'm not electing to have one for insurance purposes ($$$$). I'm not talking emergency though... that would suck. If for some reason I had to have one scheduled is what I'm talking about. That way my mom would for sure be able to plan her trip down here without worrying about me being overdue and giving birth after she left or something. We live in NC and our families are in MI.

~Stef~ · February 2009

Ya know ladies the number one rule you learn from your doula or any birthing class is YES it's okay to have a plan, and sometimes that plan doesn't go according to your expectations. Be realistic and know this little ones come when they want and sometimes do not enter this earth as easy as we would like. Some like to enter with a BAND! Don't feel as if you are letting yourself down or your baby down. AND definitely NEVER say NEVER. It will only cause you more pain and drama when in the midst of labor and you don't need that. It's CRAZY enough without adding anything extra. The bottom line is planning is good, but when you are faced with something possibly happening to you or your baby you WILL make the best decision for you both. I really warn anyone who says I WILL NEVER, don't set yourself up for that because you just MAY have to! End the end no matter how your child enters this world, they are still yours, the goal is to them hear as healthy and safely as possible.

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somethingchangd · February 2009

I'll pretty much ditto what most of the other women said and add the following:

I am not looking forward to recovering from a major surgery while simultaneously adjusting to raising another human being. I would like to be able to hold my child immediately upon his entry to the world - ideally before anyone else. I have always wanted to experience labor and delivery as an active participant, which I don't feel I'll be with my c-section. Etc.

I am (most likely) having a scheduled c due to placenta previa. It is not the birth I hoped for and I do feel some sense of being let down knowing I won't even be allowed to experience contractions, muchless labor and a vaginal birth. But there's nothing I can do to change it and I know that my baby boy arriving safe in my arms is the most important thing...even if it does happen a few hours after he's born.

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