Why is everyone NOT want a C/S?

Mrs_mam

I don't really care, either way it's not going to be fun, I just want it over and to have a healthy me and baby afterward.

brownmouse

Because with a C/S, and a small version of the same with epidural/drugs, it takes away a lot of the immediate bonding a mother and child go through during birth, and in the first few moments after. You and baby are all drugged up, therefore not releasing all the oxytocin that you would in a normal vaginal delivery without pain meds. It's a big part of the bonding process, and a big reason why so many women get postpartum depression.

Also, the recovery time for a C/S versus recovery for a vaginaly birth are hugely different. You are having MAJOR surgery. It's not like they just snip you open, pull out the baby, and everything is hunky-dory.

People ave scheduled C/S's even for thier first baby because they are afraid of birth. When birth is NOT something to be afraid of. So yeah, it hurts. So do a lot of other things...Vaginal birth is a natural process that your body goes through. Your body, and your baby know how to work together to make it happen.

I don't see the point in ruining something completely natural just to avoid something your afraid of. 

Emergency C/S, and when you have to have on because of previous C/S, I understand...But these women just scheduling the day thier baby will come into the world out of convenience, or fear? I just don't understand that..........

LoveEeyore

I had DD vaginally, although when it was time to push I begged for a c/s!   For me the best thing about vaginal is that I did it.  Me.  In my mind a c/s is done TO me.  I am sad that with the twins I will most likely have to have a c/s, but since it is the safest way for them, I'm okay.  It's perception, I guess,

SFAug07

thatgirlang:

Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

A c-section is NOT the end of the world but it's just not something I would choose. Also, I think some women aren't as much afraid of a c-section as they are of an EMERGENCY c-section. That almost happened to me and it was terrifying. I could have handled it a lot better had the doc said a few days or a week out, "Hey, this isn't going to happen vaginally, Prepare for a c-section."

Personally, I don't want to experience that. I know we were designed to do it, but we were also designed to kill animals with our bare hands and I have no desire to do that. I won't go for a c-section unless necessary because of the longer recovery time. I want to be able to run as soon as possible after birth.

penguingrrl

I had an emergency c/s with my first and am trying my hardest to have a VBAC this time.  I ended up unable to hold my daughter for 12 hours due to a serious reaction to IV pain killers they gave me before taking out my epi and during that time the nurses gave her a bottle of formula without my knowledge or permission (I was trying to BF and did not want her having any formula at all... which I will make extremely clear this time).  I had a pretty "good" recovery and was okay, but am terrified of going through a c/s recovery again with a toddler to take care of.  I also hate the idea of a longer hospital stay (especially since this time I'm in a hospital that doesn't have private rooms) and being away from my daughter any longer than necessary.  If I end up having to have a c/s to have a healthy baby, I will do it, but I will do everything in my power to avoid it after my last experience.

While I understand an emergency c/s or a scheduled on due to medical conditions (and prior c/s is absolutely a medical reason), I don't understand a first time mother having a truly elective c/s or why a Dr would even offer it.  While it may be less pain at the time compared with unmedicated vaginal birth, it's far more pain and longer recovery after and a higher risk of complications (all the risks of birth plus the risks of surgery).

 

thatgirlang

SFAug07:

thatgirlang:

Also, as for the let down part- honestly, a vaginal delivery is an experience that I think many women want to experience. It's something we were designed to do and it is an amazing experience! Again, the only reason I wouldn't do it, is if a c-section were in the best medical interest of the baby, myself or both.

A c-section is NOT the end of the world but it's just not something I would choose. Also, I think some women aren't as much afraid of a c-section as they are of an EMERGENCY c-section. That almost happened to me and it was terrifying. I could have handled it a lot better had the doc said a few days or a week out, "Hey, this isn't going to happen vaginally, Prepare for a c-section."

Personally, I don't want to experience that. I know we were designed to do it, but we were also designed to kill animals with our bare hands and I have no desire to do that. I won't go for a c-section unless necessary because of the longer recovery time. I want to be able to run as soon as possible after birth.

No offense- but that's kind of a laughable comparison! If/once you're in the position of being pregnant, you are physically designed to deliver the baby vaginally unless something goes wrong and it's safer (or preferable) to have a c-section. That's all I meant.

Anyway, I know that there are women who aren't interested in vaginal deliveries. I would never speak for everyone and didn't try to. I just said that many women want to experience it. But I know some are afraid of the pain and uncertaintly of it all- thus you have elective c-sections that are done for no medical reason at all.