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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
6 months-sleeping habits
So, after doing tons of research about children and developing sleeping habits, I started doing what I thought was best. Gabriel just turned 6 months, so I thought I might have a window of oppurtunity to start now. Last night, I put him to bed, normal time, and he cried and cried. I checked on him every 10-15 minutes. Everytime I went in there, he was content, but the second I left, he cried, no he screamed. He did this until about 5am when my hubby and I finally gave in and I slept with him in the recliner.
I dont know what to do. My house is a mess, he will NOT sleep on his own even during the day. That was okay when he was a newborn, but not now. I know theirs debate about the whole "cry it out" methods. I understand that its okay for a while, but he wont give up. To hear my son cry for 8 hours makes me feel like a terrible mom. Okay, so he wasnt awake the whole time, but when he did fall asleep, it was for a little bit at a time. I feel like I'm dealing with a toddler with an attitude. I'm going crazy!! I need advice!!
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Re: 6 months-sleeping habits
You mentioned that you have done a lot of research but it doesn't sound like it. I can't believe you let your LO cry all night.
I suggest you read Dr. Ferber's Solve your child's sleep problems he talks about checking at intervals but you start out small and work your way up. We just started Ferber last weekend and DS is just about 9 months. Your LO might not be ready yet.And please read some books on sleep training.
You let your 5 month old cry until 5 in the morning.
In these parts there is one word for you. BIITCH.
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Please, for the love of God and your child, go get a copy of Dr. Ferber's book. Or some book. NONE of them will say that letting a child cry for 8 hours is okay.
Some kids don't STTN until much later. Some never do. I have 2 bad sleepers myself. They get it from me and I got it from my dad. Some people are blessed with the ability to sleep and some are not. You have to figure out what is right for you and your family...but I can guarentee that 8 hours was NOT good for anyone in that house.
Let me get this straight....you let your 6 month old cry for 8 hours? That is not sleep training, that is abandonment even if you checked up on him every 10 to 15 minutes.
Right now I want to find a medieval torture device and shove it up your a$$. Nothing short of that will do. What a terrible thing to do to an infant!
I hope this is MUD but I doubt it.
Okay, so I didnt let him cry for that long. Of course I got up and fed my child and rocked him so it wasnt constant.
I didnt torture him nor am I a ***. Its not like he was in his crib the whole time balling his eyes out....
i asked for advice, i had a rough night, what i shouldve said was that even in my arms he wouldnt go to sleep. i thought the idea of this board was to help others, and give advice, and maybe to rant a bit. You all get this idea of me that I'm terrible, when you dont even know half of it. Maybe I need to reword my post a bit, but regardless, I'm a new mom looking for advice. I have enough common sense not to let my child cry in his crib all night long! thanks a lot everyone!! I would never say that to someone I didnt know.....
If you are looking for a good book on sleeping I highly recommend Baby Whisperer, it does not involve ANY CIO if you are uncomfortable with that and don't want to hear your baby cry alone anymore...it talks a lot about getting your baby on a good routine for both day and night sleeping. ?My baby was a horrible sleeper as well, but I definitely think there are ways to tweak your baby's schedule to find the optimal times for sleep so your baby can get the sleep he needs...it is very important to their development!!
I'm glad you are looking for answers - just take what everyone is saying with a grain of salt - we are all trying to help, but it is hard to hear when other moms say that they just let their baby cry...I know what sleep deprivation does I've SO been there...I recommend reading everything you can (not just doing internet research because there is a lot of crap out there!) and finding the solution that best fits your baby. ?We went through several different techniques - Babywise, No Cry Sleep Solution, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, before finding Baby Whisperer and finally soliving DS's sleep problems...
GL!?
yes i have a routine...
and hes usually really good with it
Perhaps I'm misreading your text but you checked on your baby every 10-15mins even if he wasn't crying? That just doesn't make sense if you did do the research so I'm going to assume you did the proper technique (y'know, graduated increasing intervals at which you go in if your baby is still crying and just pat the bum/shhussh a little and leave, repeat for about an hour the first time doing it).
IF this is what you meant, then I'd say give it 2wks, keep up the routine you probably have set up (right?) and try again at 6.5. Sounds like he's just not ready.
he'd fall asllep and no, i only went in there when he was actually crying. he fell asleep for an hour or so, and then wake up, realize he wasnt being held, and then cry.