Dating Q: Meeting the parents after 2 wks???

cmw&tdm

My sister (25) just started dating a guy two wks ago and she met his parents yesterday.  His parents live out of state, but happened to be visiting. 

I think she's moving a little (okay, maybe a lot) too fast.  They apparently have spent every day together since they met, and she tells me today that this is a serious relationship.

 What do you guys think?  Should I say something?  Maybe my experience has just been different ...

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Well, if they lived in town I would say it is too fast or if this is a pattern.  But when I met mh we got serious pretty fast and both of our parents live out of the area.  So, if they happened to be around 2 weeks after we met then I probably would have introduced them to him.  I guess it just depends on the situation.

winery

Sounds okay to me.

I met DH once in September.

Met him again at the end of October.

And drove 5 hours to his parents house for Thanksgiving in November.

I was 22, also.

 

stacynikki

I would say that you should keep your feelings to yourself.  She might resent it if you said anything.  DH and I moved really fast.  I met his parents very early on in our relationship.  We'd only been dating a year when we got engaged and were married 9 months after that! 

mrsterry

I think it all depends on the couple.  I don't know your sister or her history.  I know that DH and I were pretty serious (without admitting it) 2 weeks into dating.  I was purposely trying to take it slow and so was he.  I think it's hilarious now that I look back on it....because we were so overly cautious to take it slow but we were both obviously very serious at the same time.  It was a month before I even stepped foot in hi apartment (and we saw each other just about everyday from the day we met).

I agree that since the parents live out of town then it makes sense to meet.  I also don't think that a couple has to be extra serious to meet the parents.  What's wrong with just hanging out together and letting your parents see what kind of company you've been keeing?!

DandR

DH met my mom after 2 or 3 weeks of dating and my dad a week or two later because at the time they were living out of town and happened to come back for visits, seperately, because of weird things going on....

It was no big deal...I knew I was going to marry DH after knowing him for 3 days. 

I think its ok and I think you are over reacting...if it were a pattern where she was constantly dating and falling in love after minutes, then I'd say something, but if its just this time, maybe he really is the one!   leave her alone.

cmw&tdm

Yeah, it's definitely a pattern.  She meets a guy, falls for him, dates for a short time, and then decides she doesn't like him for one reason or another.  Oh well, hopefully this one is different.  DH (who takes things very slow) seemed to think this was crazy.  I didn't think it was so bad, but it's more that I'm afraid she's going to find something she doesn't like and ditch him before she really gets to know him.

Jen2124

Well, think of it this way, saying something isn't going to do a thing. There is no way she's going to be like "Yeah..You're right" and suddenly stop being "serious" with him. People don't listen when it comes to stuff like that.

Although I don't really think it's a big deal....esp since his parents are from out of town. Is she like that with lots of guys? If not, I'd be even more prone to take it seriousy.

I married dh within 3 months of knowing him and that was almost 8 years ago.