xp: putting loved one to sleep

bikramgirl

Hi ladies,

I don't normally post on the bump bc quite frankly I had forgotten about it. I am at home with my 7.5 month old all day so you can probably imagine.

So here is the problem I am running into. I coslept with my son up until he was about 4 or 5 months. He needed his own space and transitioned to the crib fairly easily. I was able to swaddle his arms and rock him to sleep. After a couple of weeks we ditched the swaddle and just rocked him to sleep. Now at 7.5 months we are still rocking him to sleep.

Unfortunately, he has ditched all of his naps this week and won't sleep during the day. I feel like I have been spending half my day rocking him trying to get him to sleep anymore. I know he needs to nap but I have gotten so worn out that I've given up. Our nap and bedtime routine is failing us now.

It has been suggested to do a CIO method which I just can't imagine doing in my household. I was just wondering what your nap and bedtime routines are like? How do you get lo one to sleep? What do you do when Lo wakes up in the middle of the night? Etc

Emerald27

DS has had phases during which he didn't want to nap. I've found that when he isn't going down easily, if I let him take a warm bath first, he typically falls asleep quickly afterwards.

We nurse to sleep and don't have much of a routine. I would like to encorporate reading a book, singing lullabies, and rubbing his back as he falls asleep.

Do you think he might need to drop a nap? You could not worry about a schedule but try just following his cues. Good luck! We won't CIO either. DS wouldn't understand, and it would be very hurtful for him. I think it's part of treating him as an equal member of the household and respecting his needs.

=Lee=B

My daughter is only 4 months so this may not help.

If my daughter gets over tired there is no getting her down.  Currently she does not last more than 1hr30min before naps.  She doesn't get cranky...but yawns and does a glassy eyed stare.  When I notice her sleep cues I put her for nap.  If I don't notice these cues she goes down at 1hr30min.

She is good in her crib and used to happily put herself to sleep.  Now she is too happy with her hands that she enthusiastically pops her soother out and sucks on her fingers....but this is so fun she stays awake.  So lately I stand over her in the crib and I keep her soother in by letting her hold my fingers (this is very exciting for her for some reason).  She drifts off quickly.

At other times I nurse and let her sleep on the couch...I cuddle up next to her and she quickly falls asleep I then put rolled up blankets around her and do stuff nearby (she doesn't roll yet so this works).

Wearing her in the baby carrier is instant nap.  I put her in, walk, "shhhhhh" her and gently pat her bum she's out quickly.  Occasionally if we are at the 1hr 30min mark and she is too excited to watch everything I put he hood up covering most her face so she can only see me...instant asleep.

My daughter is a sneaky overtired baby. She is happy, alert, smiley, giggly and ohhh so playful.  She tricks us into thinking she doesn't need sleep then WHAM.  Overtired meltdown, end of the world, needs both me and my husband doing everything we can think of to get her calmed enough to finally sleep.  This does not happen often as I put her down at her 1.5hr mark even if she is trying to trick us!

You LO is older...but I work in childcare (teacher, past daycare teacher, past nanny) I have yet to meet a young child that does not NEED to nap...I'm met many that don't want to nap.  Sleep is so important for their brain development, general health and not to mention mood.

Can you try being very boring for awhile.  Stay home, watch for cues, figure out his max time awake, work on cuing him to sleep (my daughter knows that the "shhh" and bum pat means time to sleep).  I personally would do what I can to get baby napping again (co-sleep, baby wear etc) then once that is back into routine get back to getting baby into crib and sleeping without you.

In my experience once they are overtired it is very hard to get them to sleep...but it should get easier!

 

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cpmich

A good baby carrier or parent tot swim lessons will pretty much guarantee napping.

SarahinMD

At that age we would try the pick up/put down method. We NEVER let DD CIO, but she also reached a point where she became too distracted by being rocked. We would rock her calm, then set her down and leave. If she'd cry, we'd go back in, pick her up, once she calmed, put her down and leave. Repeat till down. Worked for us though at first you're in and out a lot depending on the kid.

Bigger thing for us is not letting DD get overtired, even if that means earlier nap or low key activities before nap. Keeping LO up longer to try to sleep more is the worst idea at that age. Sleep begets sleep. 

bikramgirl

SarahinMD:

At that age we would try the pick up/put down method. We NEVER let DD CIO, but she also reached a point where she became too distracted by being rocked. We would rock her calm, then set her down and leave. If she'd cry, we'd go back in, pick her up, once she calmed, put her down and leave. Repeat till down. Worked for us though at first you're in and out a lot depending on the kid.

Bigger thing for us is not letting DD get overtired, even if that means earlier nap or low key activities before nap. Keeping LO up longer to try to sleep more is the worst idea at that age. Sleep begets sleep. 

 

Just reading this now...obviously distracted by my baby for awhile...haha.  This is a perfect plan for us I think.  I don't want to use a CIO method but I also want to help him learn to fall asleep on his own.  Thanks for the help!