Now I have a decision

Netty_3

WWYD...So...I'm a loyal person...and despite being an INTJ I do have feelings and compassion.  I just received a great job offer for a job with 1/3 the commute and 30% raise...so of course that's ATTRACTIVE, and what I'd like...however I have feelings of guilt leaving where I work now.  My boss is super busy, we have a ton of projects coming to a head...not to mention I just (within the last two weeks) got us two grants totalling around $600k that need to be managed on top of the other engineering duties required for it. I really like my boss as a colleague, mentor, and person...I don't want to leave him high and dry...but obviously I need to think about my family.

What adds to the complexity of the timing is that his FIL just passed away Tuesday. Please give me your opinions and advice on how to handle this situation.

aglenn

LibraryChica:

I am evidently an INFJ so you have to listen to me because I have INTUITION and COMPASSION. mobile wink Take the job. Leave detailed instructions on how to take or your work, but leave. There will never be a good time to leave and this is when you have the opportunity, so take it.

This.  (From an ENFP).   

There will always be reasons to feel bad about leaving.  It will be OK.  This is a time when you have to do what is right for you and your family.

jkelly41

I don't know what INFJ means but I felt this way about my old job.  While discussing whether or not to leave that company, a higher up whom I am very close with said, "I appreciate your loyalty, but if anything were to happen to you, we'd send your husband a plant and find a replacement for your job.  Do what's best for your family."

It's nice that you care, but do what's right for your loved ones and you!! 

Netty_3

jkelly41:

I don't know what INFJ means but I felt this way about my old job.  While discussing whether or not to leave that company, a higher up whom I am very close with said, "I appreciate your loyalty, but if anything were to happen to you, we'd send your husband a plant and find a replacement for your job.  Do what's best for your family."

It's nice that you care, but do what's right for your loved ones and you!! 

I like this.

iverske9

You need to take that new job. I do not want to sound harsh, but business is business. If your company had layoffs and you had to let go they would do it. I currently love my boss but with a second on the way need more money....as much as I love him he is not supporting my kids.

You may never have this opportunity again so you need to jump on it.

traveltheworld

I'd take the job, but see if you can negotiate a later start date so that you can help with the transition.  I switched jobs years ago because I was miserble at my old firm, despite the fact that I loved the partner I worked with.  I stuck around for 4 weeks and worked every evening and weekend until I got all my files in order.  The partner was very upset at the time but now we are actually good personal friends.  It was by far the best decision I ever made.

Netty_3

Thank you all for support and encouragement.  I think the perspective that they would replace me if something happened is a good way to look at it. I am working with my new employer to see about a start date...most likely end of July beginning of August.  Excited and nervous...as most are with this change. Hoping it means good things for the family.