Hey everyone just wanted to post something and maybe get some people to talk to or what not. I am currently 11 weeks today and my husband deployed recently. He will be gone for a few months so he won't be able to meet baby until about 2 months. I have been so emotional and just lost because we are eachothers bestfriend and it has been truely rough on each of us. I Moved home to my parents for help until he comes home and it is stressful. Little brother and older sister fighting so me and my pup have been walking a lot and I am going to enroll in water classes. Just needed to vent some stuff and see if anyone else is in my situation. :
Edited by moderator. Please don't post so many specific details about deployment dates.
Re: Deployed daddy.
Four years ago, MH left for (out of state training for his deployment) when I was about 20 weeks along. He deployed, on Mother's Day, when I was about 30 weeks along. Because of the distance and how early into his deployment he was, we decided not to even try to coordinate his R&R with the deliver (which turned out to be a very good decision on our parts as LO was born 13 days past his EDD!). MH came home for R&R when LO was two months old and then redeployed when LO was nine months old.
I won't lie, at times it was hard. But, having support for you (and your LO) is key. If you do not have a good support network now, start working on it. Get out and get involved. Provide help and assistance to those who are in need as best you can. When you find a few people you feel you can trust, tell them that you are hoping to have some support down the line.
Have you considered hiring a doula? It is something to think about. There is an organization that provides free doula services to military wives who qualify. https://www.operationspecialdelivery.com/index.htm.
You can do this! And, remember, while it is difficult for you and YH, your baby will be too little to know that his/her daddy is not there. I found comfort in that. Best of luck!