I am very lucky to have my hubby. He has been very helpful and supportive of my actual needs (food , doing laundry, clean house) and had been very active in planning and prepping for baby. However, when it comes to sticking up for my needs in other ways I am on my own. My MIL overstepping and over shopping and over pushing for private Cathlic school that is my battle. His bilogical mother dropping the oh we night show up for her birth ( I have never met the woman and she would be bringing her daughter who is due in July all of which would be staying with us ) I get the they are my family my hands our tied response. I love him and I hate to say this but I need him to find his bits start sticking up for his family (ME And BABY!) help me
Re: I need man help
I'm a lurker here on this board but I must say this sounds like my world. My MIL has tried to take control over everything. She pushed my mom aside at my shower, when our LO was born she wouldn't let my family hold her and she's still that way, she refuses to get the whooping cough shot or let her brother and husband get it to and the best is every time she comes over she brings more and more stuff and then asks for her bags back so she can bring more. It's very hard when the H doesn't know how or who to side with. I've sat him down alone and expressed my concerns and how I feel with him not supporting me and I took his mom out for dinner all for her to lie to me and at the end of the conversation ask me if I'm jealous of her. Ridiculous if you ask me. Well I know its not helping any but you are not alone but I would recommend sitting at least your H down and expressing why you are upset might help.
If the MIL lives close by have your husband tell her what I told my MIL. The Christmas gifts and other toys that they buy for my son stays at their place. It helps that she is our primary care giver for him during the week so she needs these to help keep him entertained.
As for private Catholic school, depending on what your school system is, getting at least an 8th grade education from the Catholic school will give your child a head start above other children.
I have similar issues, my brother is part of the leadership for his school district's teachers Union and is only for public school no matter what. My sister lives in one of the better school districts in North Carolina where her public schools are better then a lot of Catholic schools. Neither will believe me when I tell them that Akron City schools especially where I am living are among the lowest rated schools in our State thus I will not send them to a ghetto school and deal with that trouble.
Since it sounds like you are living in one of the better school districts I would show your MIL the proof that your school system is better then the local Catholic Schools.