My twins are 5 weeks old. One seems to be a lot more demanding and higher maintenance than the other - she cries if you put her down awake and so we usually end up holding her or wearing her around the house in a carrier almost all day. Otherwise, she won't nap. The other twin goes down easily in her RNP and usually doesn't mind just sitting in it, awake, sucking a pacifier. She is also quite a bit smaller than her more demanding sister.
I'm worried that my smaller twin is getting slighted and will end up not having as close a bond with me and not develop as quickly because she spends all her time in the stupid RNP. I'm also worried that this is the reason she isn't gaining weight as fast as her sister (she's gaining about an ounce a day but the fussier twin eats constantly and is gaining about 2 ounces/day).
Does anyone else have multiples with similar personalities? Am I worrying for nothing? Any tips for being hands on with them at the same time at this young an age? I'm getting teary looking at my daughter, awake in her stupid RNP, sucking away on a pacifier while I'm wearing her sister.
My husband does help a lot but he works, and we take turns napping when we're both home and can get both girls soothed.