UO

rp-chicago-mom

MrsWhipple:

Baker_Bride:

MrsWhipple:

Yes, when he didn't get me one for my birthday I told him how hurt I was, and please don't make the same mistake for Mother's Day. His excuse was that he is busy. Really? We have a Dollar General 3 blocks from our house that sells cards. I don't think that I was unreasonable with him.

He doesn't get lunch breaks? Or have five extra minutes to spend on amazon? That would anger me too.

I don't even mind that he didn't get me a gift, money is tight right now. I just wanted a card for my 1st Mother's Day.

I remember when we first got married, I was looking forward to my first wife birthday card. Didn't happen. He just got me a generic birthday card. I think it took him 2-3 years before he got me a wife birthday card.

There's a lot you can do with little money. I'm sorry he didn't follow through.

megmb24

Cheerilee:

Tula214:

I'm not sure if this is a UO, but it has been bothering me since last night. WTF is up with AZ physically restraining students who are angry? And locking them in small rooms to contain them? I know some students are aggressive, but are all kids in AZ aggressive enough that they need to be treated like mental patients? Seems excessive to me.

What in AZ are you referencing?  I'm in AZ and haven't heard anything in the news about this lately.

Physical restraint and time out rooms are pretty common across the US.  In fact, it's pretty common for a SPED teacher to receive restraint training.  There are situations where a child is a harm to himself or others and restraint is the only way to keep everyone (including the child) safe.  There are probably MORE situations where the situation was not correctly deescalated and the restraint could have been avoided.

This happens daily in my school, so it's normal to me. Then again I teach in a school for students with emotional disturbances as well as students who got kicked out of their home schools for behavior. It works for us here. I almost cried seeing a kid restrained for the first time, but we need to do what we need to do. My safety is just as important as my students.

sosoph

I don't really understand all the pedi hate on the bump.

I'd rather give my 9-mo old WCM than baby yogurt, puffs, pouches, and so on. He's had none of the above, but getting high and mighty about WCM (or even breastmilk to a year) only to give them processed stuff baby food companies tell you is healthy is beyond me.

LissaLynn0682

Cheerilee:

Tula214:

I'm not sure if this is a UO, but it has been bothering me since last night. WTF is up with AZ physically restraining students who are angry? And locking them in small rooms to contain them? I know some students are aggressive, but are all kids in AZ aggressive enough that they need to be treated like mental patients? Seems excessive to me.

What in AZ are you referencing?  I'm in AZ and haven't heard anything in the news about this lately.

Physical restraint and time out rooms are pretty common across the US.  In fact, it's pretty common for a SPED teacher to receive restraint training.  There are situations where a child is a harm to himself or others and restraint is the only way to keep everyone (including the child) safe.  There are probably MORE situations where the situation was not correctly deescalated and the restraint could have been avoided.

I agree here.

I'm one of our staff members certified in physical restraint. I don't have to use it often....but when I do it is ALWAYS because the student has become a danger to him or herself or others.  By restraining the child properly, it will actually be less harmful than if they were allowed to lash out that anger on their own.

Proper training is more than just teaching an adult how to physically restrain.  We learn how to de-escalate the situation by our gestures, stance, and words.  The LAST resort is to physically restrain.  The restraint itself is not painful whatsoever.  I've had it done to me so that I know.  The purpose is simply to give the child an opportunity to calm themselves.  We do frequent check-ins to ask if the child is ready. Afterwards, we always take the opportunity to talk it through once the child is calm....frequently the child is embarrassed afterwards.

If it's done with the right intentions and used only for the purpose to prevent harm, I am all for it. 

rp-chicago-mom

sosoph:

I don't really understand all the pedi hate on the bump. I'd rather give my 9mo old WCM than baby yogurt, puffs, pouches, and so on. He's had none of the above, but getting high and mighty about WCM or even breastmilk to a year only to give them processed stuff baby food companies tell you is healthy is beyond me.

I agree to a point but think the things mentioned above are ok to a point. I do just give plain whole milk yogurt. I also wonder if the pouches make one over eat because they suck it down so fast.

rp-chicago-mom

natalie8784:

I was one who posted in the Father's day thread. nbsp;I did get a card. nbsp;That he hid in the spare bedroom and wrote out real quick before giving it to me. nbsp;I was looking forward to it this year because last year he did an amazing job. nbsp;A very sweet card and necklace with B's name on it. nbsp;I cried for a good 20 minutes. nbsp;This year he claimed my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I scheduled the appt on the Saturday of that weekend, 2 months in advance. nbsp;So insted of a gift with my card, he told me all the things he WAS going to do/get, but my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I AM getting him something. I can't bring myself to just do a card. nbsp;But it still stings that my day was shitty. nbsp;nbsp;

What because he had to watch his child? He could have taken him along.

jodegaard

natalie8784:

I was one who posted in the Father's day thread. nbsp;I did get a card. nbsp;That he hid in the spare bedroom and wrote out real quick before giving it to me. nbsp;I was looking forward to it this year because last year he did an amazing job. nbsp;A very sweet card and necklace with B's name on it. nbsp;I cried for a good 20 minutes. nbsp;This year he claimed my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I scheduled the appt on the Saturday of that weekend, 2 months in advance. nbsp;So insted of a gift with my card, he told me all the things he WAS going to do/get, but my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I AM getting him something. I can't bring myself to just do a card. nbsp;But it still stings that my day was shitty. nbsp;nbsp;

I know you've been very frustrated with him lately. Have you told him that last sentence exactly the way you just said it?

rp-chicago-mom

natalie8784:

jodegaard:

natalie8784:

I was one who posted in the Father's day thread. nbsp;I did get a card. nbsp;That he hid in the spare bedroom and wrote out real quick before giving it to me. nbsp;I was looking forward to it this year because last year he did an amazing job. nbsp;A very sweet card and necklace with B's name on it. nbsp;I cried for a good 20 minutes. nbsp;This year he claimed my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I scheduled the appt on the Saturday of that weekend, 2 months in advance. nbsp;So insted of a gift with my card, he told me all the things he WAS going to do/get, but my hair appt got in the way. nbsp;I AM getting him something. I can't bring myself to just do a card. nbsp;But it still stings that my day was shitty. nbsp;nbsp;

I know you've been very frustrated with him lately. Have you told him that last sentence exactly the way you just said it?

 Not in so many words. I made a joke about it this weekend.  My dad brings me back pork rinds from KY when they go, and they are my favorite thing in the world.  I don't let anyone have them (childish, yes).  We were joking around in the kitchen and i said something like "I didnt get anything for Mothers day, at least let me have my pork rinds".  You could tell it took him by surprise that I said that,  

I have things I am like that about.

jodegaard

natalie8784:

Not in so many words. I made a joke about it this weekend. nbsp;My dad brings me back pork rinds from KY when they go, and they are my favorite thing in the world. nbsp;I don't let anyone have them childish, yes. nbsp;We were joking around in the kitchen and i said something like "I didnt get anything for Mothers day, at least let me have my pork rinds". nbsp;You could tell it took him by surprise that I said that, nbsp;

I wouldn't share either.

But that's kind of what I'm talking about. Jokingly making a jab at him is passive aggressive and most likely doesn't help. This is totally unsolicited advice here, so feel free to ignore me, but maybe try something like this:

"It still hurts that you neglected to do anything for Mother's Day to the point that I'm beginning to resent you over it. I think the fact that you do so little to help me with LO makes it worse."

Either way, I'm sorry. Sounds like it really sucks right now.

piphigirl

Thoughts:

- Maybe dudes need an example of a good gift?  We keep a running list of gift ideas for me.  This seems selfish, but DH asked for it.  It's actually a Google Doc now.

- I am a CD snob, I think.  I generally just buy the brands carried at our local store (Bummis, Thirsties, Tots Bots, BG, Smart Bottoms, GroVia) because I know the girls that own the store have tested and vouch for them.  I happily buy these brands used, though.  Also, a friend who lives in France just gave me 6 of her daughter's outgrown cloth diapers... they are French, so ooh la la for us.  ;o)

- Hashtags are good when useful, and absolutely terrible when not.  #hashtagproblems

-  We let Charlotte fall and bump herself occasionally.  Usually because we can't stand next to her 18 hours a day.  After she fell onto her face from standing at her Fisher Price play table two times, she started to catch herself with her hands.  She has also gotten a LOT better about falling on her bum and then not rolling backwards.  Also, yesterday she did a minor head bump on the bookshelf, cried for two seconds, and then got back up and calmed down on her own.  I think these are all positive "side effects" of letting her take minor spills.

 - Hot tubs are fun,

- Steak is delicious.

- I believe it was Aristotle who said that the best evidence of living a generous life is posting a lot of quotes on your Facebook page.

- As soon as I talk smack about girls who supposedly get pregnant while using 26 forms of BC, I will be KU.  So, I say nothing.

PaisleyRuth

stephaniemthomas:

 

Example of unnecessary hash tags :#smoothie #spinach #kale #strawberry #banana #protein #almondmilk #bomb #healthyliving #eatclean #christy #babygirl #sogrownup

This was on a picture of a little girl drinking a smoothie.

Lol, now that is ridiculous. 

Cheerilee

I don't like used books for myself.  I'll buy them for DD and DS, but not for myself.  My favorite part of reading a "real" book is breaking the binding (yes, I make sure to buy ONLY books that haven't been leafed through) and smelling the new paper.

Hashtags are horrible.

Steak is the best meat in the world.  

My UOs are boring today. 

Mrs. Rohde

loramag48:

bigbootyjudi:

I don't believe people who say they were taking their BCP correctly (at the same time, every single day) AND using condoms and still got KTFU.

And I don't believe that girl over on J14 who got KU with twins with an IUD in and am surprised that more people didn't call MUD.

 

 

 

She said her IUD fell out and he didn't notice. I've never had one I would think when you went to the bath room and it fell out you might feel something but I have no clue. Apparently 1 in 100 IUD's fall out.  IDK i'm taking her story with a grain of salt for now. 

My good friend had an IUD put in and when she went to have it checked later it had perforated her uterus and hanging out. She had to have surgery to remove it and fix the tear it made. EFF that shiz.

AutumnLeaves2

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all.

But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

CaliVal

I don't get 3D movies. Maybe it's because my depth perception is non existent but DH swears the quality is so much better and blah blah blah but I really just don't see a big difference.

The Great Gatsby movie was terrible. I've never read the book but I just did not get what the point of the story was. It was such a waste of time. And way too effing long.

I don't know if these are more FFFCs... Oh well!

Cheerilee

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all. But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

I need your mentality!  Go you! 

rp-chicago-mom

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all.

But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

That's the mentality in Brazil.

AutumnLeaves2

Cheerilee:

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all.

But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

I need your mentality!  Go you! 

Haha! The way I wrote it sounded like a FFFC. The UO part is the "I don't give an eff....drink in this chunky bodaaaay."

twoitalians

I'm not a fan of tankinis. Some look all cute and worthy or covering up my post baby belly. Then I get in the water and they billow up from all the air and water that gets inside them and won't stay down.

Still, no bikini for me yet. Give me the monokini!

rp-chicago-mom

BlueDevilLady:

I'm annoyed that hooslisa doesn't post anymore. We lost a good one because of a misunderstanding and a pileon.nbsp;ETA: I'm pretty sure this isn't unpopular considering the hooslisa thread. Just felt like saying it here, I guess.nbsp;

I agree but I respect it. This can be a rough place at times. I've considered GBCB a couple times.

Tula214

Cheerilee:

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all.

But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

I need your mentality!  Go you! 

I have a bikini, and I'm in no way bikini ready. I don't care.

jodegaard

natalie8784:

Saltylove:

BlueDevilLady:

I'm annoyed that hooslisa doesn't post anymore. We lost a good one because of a misunderstanding and a pile-on. 

ETA: I'm pretty sure this isn't unpopular considering the hooslisa thread. Just felt like saying it here, I guess. 

I'll bite, since that whole thing initially started from me. I have no issue with Hooslisa, and liked having her around. I hope people don't think I ran her off the board, because that was definitely not my intent.

I felt like her tone in that that thread to be condescending and somewhat pretentious. It felt like she was coming in telling a bunch of us how to feel without knowing any of the original context. When I pointed that out she got defensive and instead of apologizing, just kept insinuating that people were overreacting and speaking inappropriately about the mod. It just felt politician like to me, and in the moment, I felt like addressing it.

I'm sad the whole thing escalated to the point that it did, and if she feels like its best to stay away, that's fine. But the whole "poor Hooslisa" perspective on the whole thing irks me a bit. I mean, some of those issues could have been raised in PM's, for sure, but I still feel like she was in the wrong originally, and that all got glossed over and she became the victim.

I'm pretty certain this will be a UO. 

I still dont remember tis thread.   

Neither do I. Feeling super confused over here!

poppyseed1017

Saltylove:

BlueDevilLady:

I'm annoyed that hooslisa doesn't post anymore. We lost a good one because of a misunderstanding and a pile-on. 

ETA: I'm pretty sure this isn't unpopular considering the hooslisa thread. Just felt like saying it here, I guess. 

I'll bite, since that whole thing initially started from me. I have no issue with Hooslisa, and liked having her around. I hope people don't think I ran her off the board, because that was definitely not my intent.

I felt like her tone in that that thread to be condescending and somewhat pretentious. It felt like she was coming in telling a bunch of us how to feel without knowing any of the original context. When I pointed that out she got defensive and instead of apologizing, just kept insinuating that people were overreacting and speaking inappropriately about the mod. It just felt politician like to me, and in the moment, I felt like addressing it.

I'm sad the whole thing escalated to the point that it did, and if she feels like its best to stay away, that's fine. But the whole "poor Hooslisa" perspective on the whole thing irks me a bit. I mean, some of those issues could have been raised in PM's, for sure, but I still feel like she was in the wrong originally, and that all got glossed over and she became the victim.

I'm pretty certain this will be a UO. 

Yes.

You and me, Salty. You and me.

rp-chicago-mom

I wasn't on that day but remember the aftermath. It was bad [from all sides] but the only poster worthy of being run off the board is Shelbeh IMO.

Besides, anyone using 'taint in a post is golden in my book.

Rhomonk

Clicky for salty's link:  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72978622.aspx

poppyseed1017

Although hooslisa made it more than clear she didn't care for me, I didn't really have an issue with her until that thread. It seemed like she was good at calling others out but didn't want to take any sort of crticism herself.

JayandEmm

Tula214:

Cheerilee:

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all.

But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

I need your mentality!  Go you! 

I have a bikini, and I'm in no way bikini ready. I don't care.

Guuuurl, me too. I still have a little "pouch" on the mid section; I'm letting it all hang out!

I dislike tankinis and one pieces. It feels like I'm swimming with clothes on.

MoFree

I don't like hot tubs. I am hardly a clean freak but they seem like giant Petri dishes. When we moved into our house we placed an ad in CL that the hot tub was free for for taking. I'm sure the ASU frat boys who took it are very happy.

I don't know if I'm a CD snob but I prefer buying brands from WAHMs or made in North America.

My UO is that except for a wedding I think paper invitations are a waste of money and resource. I don't see why someone would have an issue with evites.

Cheerilee

JayandEmm:

Tula214:

Cheerilee:

Lgamache90:

My Uo: I just bought a bikini. Is my body "bikini ready" by most standards? Eff no. Naht even close. At all. But 2 pieces are way more comfortable and who the fudge do I need to impress? That's right. No one.

I need your mentality!  Go you! 

I have a bikini, and I'm in no way bikini ready. I don't care.

Guuuurl, me too. I still have a little "pouch" on the mid section; I'm letting it all hang out! I dislike tankinis and one pieces. It feels like I'm swimming with clothes on.

You ladies are braver than I!  I'm not going anywhere near my bikini until I knock off these last 5 lbs.  It doesn't help that I'd be in a swim suit around DH's friends' wives who are all 24, go to the gym everyday, have zero kids, and fake boobs.  Insanity Abs, here I come. 

jodegaard

Saltylove:

jodegaard:

natalie8784:

 

I still dont remember tis thread.   

Neither do I. Feeling super confused over here!

 https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72978622.aspx

Oh wow. I remember that thread now and I followed about a page and a half of posts, but never went back to check on it. That sucks.

sadeathe

natalie8784:

jodegaard:

natalie8784:

Not in so many words. I made a joke about it this weekend. nbsp;My dad brings me back pork rinds from KY when they go, and they are my favorite thing in the world. nbsp;I don't let anyone have them childish, yes. nbsp;We were joking around in the kitchen and i said something like "I didnt get anything for Mothers day, at least let me have my pork rinds". nbsp;You could tell it took him by surprise that I said that, nbsp;

I wouldn't share either. But that's kind of what I'm talking about. Jokingly making a jab at him is passive aggressive and most likely doesn't help. This is totally unsolicited advice here, so feel free to ignore me, but maybe try something like this: "It still hurts that you neglected to do anything for Mother's Day to the point that I'm beginning to resent you over it. I think the fact that you do so little to help me with LO makes it worse." Either way, I'm sorry. Sounds like it really sucks right now.

Nope I get it.  And I made the comment before I even realized what I said.  I wish we could have grown up conversations with out him completely shutting down and not speaking to me.  Which is what happened the last time I called him out for not helping me.   

I have had the same problem, but in reverse.  I am the one that shuts down, not because I don't want to talk about it, but because I am afraid that I will say something that I will regret.

Maybe try sending him a text or an email saying how you feel if you're afraid he'll shut down with a definite time you'd like to talk about the issue (if you want to talk about it) or just wait for an email/text back.  It will give him time to process it and come up with a response without the pressure of having to do it in the spur of the moment.

Just a suggestion, feel free to ignore.  It helps my husband and I communicate when I shut down.

MoFree

Saltylove:

MoFree:

I don't like hot tubs. I am hardly a clean freak but they seem like giant Petri dishes.

they are! Public ones, anyway. Since they are so small, the chlorine level needs to be kept really high because in such a small space with so many bodies, it doesn't take much to drop the chlorine level down to 0 and have nasties lingering in the water.

plus old men do gross things in public hot tubs.

sometimes we would shut the jets off and pretend to look for a lost piece of jewelry to see if someone was having a little too much fun with the jets... 

. The house we bought was a foreclosure and had been vacant for a while. Who knows what went on in that hot tub.
Another thing about hot tubs is they can lower sperm count and men with fertility issues are advised not to use them.

Cheerilee

I just read that entire thread that I apparently missed out on a long time ago.  It made me sad.

Crossingfingers

Cheerilee:

I just read that entire thread that I apparently missed out on a long time ago.  It made me sad.

Me too. How did I miss that?   

Crossingfingers

I am glad that Ks3 is part of the Aug 12 board. I don't agree with many of her opinions, but it is good for waking the board up occasionally.

bigbootyjudi

Cheerilee:

I just read that entire thread that I apparently missed out on a long time ago. nbsp;It made me sad.

Me too. I think that entire thread was uncalled for. Lisa has always been nothing but supportive to everyone on this board from day one.

I have felt like the "tone" of the board has changed lately. It makes more sense to me as to why now.

twoitalians

bigbootyjudi:

Cheerilee:

I just read that entire thread that I apparently missed out on a long time ago. nbsp;It made me sad.

Me too. I think that entire thread was uncalled for. Lisa has always been nothing but supportive to everyone on this board from day one.

I have felt like the "tone" of the board has changed lately. It makes more sense to me as to why now.

I felt the "tone" change too.

poppyseed1017

So, if it changed, what is the new tone?

cedenton

natalie8784:

Saltylove:

I still dont remember tis thread.   

Me either.

Me, three and I feel like I'm on here all the time!

ETA: Saw the link. Now I remember. Must have gotten distracted with the pesky "work" thing and missed the "good" parts. Or, more likely, got worked up b/c of my own BF issues and chose not to continue reading it.

twoitalians

poppyseed1017:

So, if it changed, what is the new tone?

I noticed different people stepping up and posting more and about more heated topics and I notice others changing their attitude to a more IDGAF approach who were never once like that. I may be wrong but that's the vibe I got.