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Liz4444

Make them good today!

Can someone GIF please, my computer is totally f'ed

[Deleted User]

I still don't care about what you name your child. No one else probably does either.

minouvan

Asbromle:

I still don't care about what you name your child. No one else probably does either.

This!

Erinm278

You don't have to "like" or "shares" every ecard, recipe, or stupid FB thing that resonates with you.  That's what Pinterest is for.  If you are one of those people, be advised that I will either defriend or block you from my newsfeed.

Also, I think it's weird when people like there own statuses and pictures.  Of course you like it..you wrote it!

 

I guess I'm annoyed with FB today.

Liz4444

I think people, especially on TB, I don't see it nearly as much IRL, rely too much on scientific studies for everything. It's great that you know what's currently recommended, but the chances are pretty high in a few years there is going to be a study disproving whatever it is your looking for and saying the exact opposite.

I just keep thinking of the big egg controversy. I feel like growing up, one year you have "the incredible, edible egg" commercial, the next year eggs are the devil, next year, commercial, next year, evil eggs, and it just kept going. I still have no idea what the current consensus on eggs is. Same with red meat.

50 bucks says in less then 10 years there will be a study saying babies should be sleeping on their stomachs.

I know everyone is just trying to be he best parent they can be with what information is available, but I think trusting your gut goes a long way.

[Deleted User]

Ok...for a real one though.  I don't understand women who can't go to a doctor's appointment alone.  I understand wanting your husband or whoever there for the big appointments, but for just a 5 minute check up?  Unnessary.  Or the women who always need a bathroom buddy?  Silly.  Unless you need help wiping...why do you need a friend?  But what really bugs me... women who don't have a drivers license. I can't imagine depending one someone else to get me from point A to point B. If you live in a city and use public transportation, I'm not including you in this.   

[Deleted User]

maryannespier:

Liz4444:

Make them good today! Can someone GIF please, my computer is totally f'ed

Great GIF!

Liz4444

maryannespier:

Liz4444:

Make them good today!
Can someone GIF please, my computer is totally f'ed

 

Love it, thank you!!!!

[Deleted User]

I agree Liz.  I don't put too much stock into studies.  I understand some of it is important and I always take it into consideration, but trusting your gut will take you a long way.

The 10 years, and stomach sleeping will probably definitely happen.

Liz4444

Asbromle:

Ok...for a real one though.nbsp; I don't understand women who can't go to a doctor's appointment alone.nbsp; Inbsp;understand wanting your husband or whoever there for the big appointments, but for just a 5 minute check up?nbsp; Unnessary.nbsp; Or the women who always need a bathroom buddy?nbsp; Silly.nbsp; Unless you need help wiping...why do you need a friend?nbsp; But what really bugs me...nbsp;women who don't have a drivers license. I can't imagine depending one someone else to get me from pointnbsp;A to point B.nbsp;If you live in a city and use public transportation, I'm not including you in this.nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;

Totally agree, although, I could use the help wiping these days.

I understand wanting your SO to go to an ultrasound or big appointment, but it would have been ridiculous if he came yesterday to watch me pee, get weighed and have my blood pressure taken. He can take off work whenever he wants, and works 10 minutes from home, but it would have been silly.

alexandra1818

I've got a Facebook one too...

I know some people do things against the law that could get them some serious jail time.  That's fine, if you want to be an idiot, go ahead.

I do, however, draw the line at POSTING PICTURES OF IT ON FACEBOOK!!  FFS!  

In this case, my stupid cousin is an "urban explorer" (fancy talk for someone who trespasses, and breaks & enters), and posts about it proudly on Facebook. 

Meanwhile, my mother works for the OPP (the equivalent of the state police) as a police dispatcher ... and has had to remove herself from her console SEVERAL TIMES because dumbass posted that he'd be exploring in the area, and that B&E call she has to dispatch may be him.

For crying out loud, at least have the decency to keep it off social media, so others aren't affected by your stupidity!

[Deleted User]

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this.
My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

[Deleted User]

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this. My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

OMgosh...YES!  I totally agree, also the organizing of the clothes, it's not that difficult.  Just put the darn things away! 

eggymaye

zoeyjack:

My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

THIS.  People chill the fark out, Also, I hate it when some people complain about their life going back to normal after baby has arrived.  Your life has irrevocably changed, it will never go back to the way it was before you had baby! This also goes for your body posy baby.  Please be prepared that you aren't Heidi Klum and it may take YEARS to get back to near what your body was pre-pregnancy especially if you have a few kids. I hate to tell you, it may NEVER go back. GRRRR. 

pgermain11

eggymaye:

zoeyjack:

My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

THIS.  People chill the fark out, Also, I hate it when some people complain about their life going back to normal after baby has arrived.  Your life has irrevocably changed, it will never go back to the way it was before you had baby! This also goes for your body posy baby.  Please be prepared that you aren't Heidi Klum and it may take YEARS to get back to near what your body was pre-pregnancy especially if you have a few kids. I hate to tell you, it may NEVER go back. GRRRR. 

I try to explain this to MH. He thinks I'm going to be my old self again in no time... Sigh. He doesn't get it.  

pgermain11

I don't believe in "nesting". Even when I wasn't pregnant I would get these strong urges to clean or rearrange everything. 

I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a c-section. There are medicated natural births and med-free natural births, no? 

valstulas

I've got a highly controversial, very flammable one.

Boys are stupid. I mean this in the most loveable, nurturing way. I think boys can also be very smart, my kids are smart, but now that I have a houseful of boys, I realize just how dumb some of the things they do can be. For example, would you need to adopt this rule if you had a bunch of girls?: No sticking cheese sticks up your sibling's butt!

[Deleted User]

Mamasighs:

This is going to result in some serious flaming. People who treat their pets as humans or call them furbabies. No, they are not your babies. They are animals. If any of our pets had an issue when we brought DS home from the hospital, we would've found them a new home. Would not have thought twice about it. If one of them is in ill health with a small to slim chance of recovery, I would seriously consider euthanasia. This issue is at the forefront for me right now because we're at a crossroads about our elderly lab and how to decide when his suffering outweighs his ability to enjoy life.

I seriously would not, could not get rid of my dog.  I know I won't have a problem with him once baby arrives b/c he's been around my sisters baby and other children in various age groups and he loves them.  If he were aggressive, then I might consider finding him a new home. 

He is like my family though and he's gotten me through a couple rough patches over the last 4 years and I would do anything for him.  If he needed a surgery that cost 10,000 or more even, I'd have it done if I knew it would save his life or even prolong it for that matter. 

eggymaye

valstulas:

I've got a highly controversial, very flammable one. Boys are stupid. I mean this in the most loveable, nurturing way. I think boys can also be very smart, my kids are smart, but now that I have a houseful of boys, I realize just how dumb some of the things they do can be. For example, would you need to adopt this rule if you had a bunch of girls?: No sticking cheese sticks up your sibling's butt!

Okay I am sorry but that made me LOL so hard!  I think you owe me a new keyboard. 

valstulas

pgermain11:

I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a csection. There are medicated natural births and medfree natural births, no?nbsp;

I think putting labels on your birth experience just makes women feel bad about themselves. Whether you have a c section, an induction, or a totally med free birth, it doesn't matter and you shouldn't feel bad about yourself. If you and baby come out the other side healthy, that's enough.

pgermain11

valstulas:

pgermain11:

I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a csection. There are medicated natural births and medfree natural births, no?nbsp;

I think putting labels on your birth experience just makes women feel bad about themselves. Whether you have a c section, an induction, or a totally med free birth, it doesn't matter and you shouldn't feel bad about yourself. If you and baby come out the other side healthy, that's enough.

Absolutely agree. I feel there is a huge side-eye from people who do a med-free birth on those who chose to have an epidural or who happen to need a c-section. I think it's incredibly rude.  

[Deleted User]

maryannespier:

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this.
My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

I plan on cooking and freezing food for post-baby because honestly, cooking calms me down.  I know that in the next few weeks I'm going to have some serious anxiety re: baby and having a cooking project will calm me down.  Totally aware that I would be able to eat afterwards even if there weren't any ready to crock foods in the freezer. Also totally aware that foods I freeze will be cheaper and probably healthier than the take out option. 

If it calms you down go for it. I'm looking forward to getting a break from it honestly. And as long as you're fully aware you won't starve to death without having you're freezer stocked, it's cool. If you tell me you have 3 boxes of each size NB to 5 diapers stocked up as well though, I don't know if I can let it slide!

[Deleted User]

I'm glad to see I'm not alone! All of the prep posts were making me feel like a slacker!!

Liz4444

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this.
My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

Seriously, diapers.com people... Best thing ever!!!

Liz4444

pgermain11:

I don't believe in "nesting". Even when I wasn't pregnant I would get these strong urges to clean or rearrange everything.nbsp;I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a csection. There are medicated natural births and medfree natural births, no?nbsp;

Totally agree with you. This was a UO of mine months ago and I got totally bitched out with people defining natural birth and pointing out the fact that there is a natural birth board...

[Deleted User]

etoille:

zoeyjack:

I'm glad to see I'm not alone! All of the prep posts were making me feel like a slacker!!

Yeah I'm not doing freezer meals either. 

The way DH's job panned out was kind of fortuitous - he's going to be working from home at least 4/5 days a week on average and its on his own schedule so if I need to take a shower or something we're pretty good. 

I don't want him going back to the DHS project and the DoD project (the one where he's home most of the time) is actually getting more funding so I anticipate it staying like this for the forseeable future. 

(There's even a chance *fingers crossed* that he'll get pulled out to PACOM in September - if that happens baby and I are going with to Hawaii).

Have any extra room?  I'd love to live in Hawaii, so beautiful. Haven't been since I turned 21 and I'll be 29 in July:( It's been way too long.

Carrie3102

Liz4444:

I think people, especially on TB, I don't see it nearly as much IRL, rely too much on scientific studies for everything. It's great that you know what's currently recommended, but the chances are pretty high in a few years there is going to be a study disproving whatever it is your looking for and saying the exact opposite. I just keep thinking of the big egg controversy. I feel like growing up, one year you have "the incredible, edible egg" commercial, the next year eggs are the devil, next year, commercial, next year, evil eggs, and it just kept going. I still have no idea what the current consensus on eggs is. Same with red meat. 50 bucks says in less then 10 years there will be a study saying babies should be sleeping on their stomachs. I know everyone is just trying to be he best parent they can be with what information is available, but I think trusting your gut goes a long way.

Amen sister a-freaking-men

 Insert slow clap gif. I'm still too stupid to figure it out.

arlingirl

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this. My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

::thumbs up:: I haven't BTDT yet, but I hope I will still have the faculties to pour myself some granola. I DO plan on a major grocery trip the week before little man gets here to avoid unnecessary outings. 

Liz4444

valstulas:

I've got a highly controversial, very flammable one.

Boys are stupid. I mean this in the most loveable, nurturing way. I think boys can also be very smart, my kids are smart, but now that I have a houseful of boys, I realize just how dumb some of the things they do can be. For example, would you need to adopt this rule if you had a bunch of girls?: No sticking cheese sticks up your sibling's butt!

Holy hell, I just blew yogurt out my nose... That's hysterical! Another reason I'm happy I'm having girls!

PrimRoseMama

I went over it in another thread, but I have more sympathy for overweight people who struggle with their body issues than I do for skinny people that complain about their bodies. 

solsburyhill

1.  I actually enjoy talking names : )  Not so much for my own baby because that stressed me out, but I like discussing other people's names.

2. My dog IS my first baby.  She's a member of our family and I love her fiercly.

3. I have 8 boxes of diapers for this baby for several reasons - I coupon and if there's a great deal, I'd rather pay for it now while I'm earning income vs. when I'm on maternity leave and not bringing in money.  Also, my Target is 20 minutes away and if #2 is anything like #1, it'll be hard for me to do a Target trip at least the first month, if not two.  (DS nursed for an hour and ate every 2 hours so I'd get about one hour between feedings to run errands).

I also found it a bit hard to cook meals on maternity leave.  Yes, eventually you get on a schedule and things get easier, but those first 6 weeks can be a blur.  I had some PPD and cried for 2 weeks straight, no cooking was being done.  And again, I had an hour between feedings to do stuff.  Maybe during that hour close to dinner time the baby will need a diaper change or attention and dinner just won't get made, you never know.  Those early weeks are survival mode and a nice dinner of lasagna from the freezer vs. a bowl of cereal can really make you feel like a normal human being.

Just saying.  Especially FTMs, don't judge how hard those early weeks are. 

Erinm278

Mamasighs:

This is going to result in some serious flaming. People who treat their pets as humans or call them furbabies. No, they are not your babies. They are animals. If any of our pets had an issue when we brought DS home from the hospital, we would've found them a new home. Would not have thought twice about it. If one of them is in ill health with a small to slim chance of recovery, I would seriously consider euthanasia. This issue is at the forefront for me right now because we're at a crossroads about our elderly lab and how to decide when his suffering outweighs his ability to enjoy life.

While I agree with you on some of this, I know that  could never get rid of my dog.  He is a part of our family and I love him more than I thought I could ever love an animal.  That being said, the baby will obviously come before the dog, but I will do anything possible to help our dog adjust if he has issues.

Liz4444

maryannespier:

zoeyjack:

If it calms you down go for it. I'm looking forward to getting a break from it honestly. And as long as you're fully aware you won't starve to death without having you're freezer stocked, it's cool. If you tell me you have 3 boxes of each size NB to 5 diapers stocked up as well though, I don't know if I can let it slide!

Lol.  I have exactly one package of diapers, sized newborn.  Only because my mom bought them.

I have NB, size 1 and 2 diapers because we didn't go through all of them w li and we saved them.

PrimRoseMama

pgermain11:

I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a c-section. There are medicated natural births and med-free natural births, no? 

I think that, like the word "gender" people just get in the habit of using this one incorrectly or inaccurately. Generally, people know what you mean (in that you didn't use pain medication and had a vaginal birth). However, I agree "natural" can be offensive. I prefer the terms med-free vaginal birth, but that is a mouthful and people are lazy. Accuracy is less and less of a concern for folks these days it appears.  

Erinm278

solsburyhill:

1.  I actually enjoy talking names : )  Not so much for my own baby because that stressed me out, but I like discussing other people's names.

2. My dog IS my first baby.  She's a member of our family and I love her fiercly.

3. I have 8 boxes of diapers for this baby for several reasons - I coupon and if there's a great deal, I'd rather pay for it now while I'm earning income vs. when I'm on maternity leave and not bringing in money. 

 

ALL of this is totally me!  Especially the bit about my dog and buying diapers and wipes.  I coupon as well and if I can get a big box of diapers for $5 then I'm going to get it now.   have diapers in varying sizes and at least 5 big boxes of wipes.  I wouldn't have bought them if I didn't get them dirt cheap or free.

Liz4444

etoille:

Liz4444:

pgermain11:

I don't believe in "nesting". Even when I wasn't pregnant I would get these strong urges to clean or rearrange everything.nbsp;I don't like when people say a natural birth is one without medication. It bugs the shiz out of me. So if I squeeze my baby out of my vag with medication it's not natural? Maybe I'm wrong in the definition, but I think of natural birth as giving birth thru your lady bits and not having a csection. There are medicated natural births and medfree natural births, no?nbsp;

Totally agree with you. This was a UO of mine months ago and I got totally bitched out with people defining natural birth and pointing out the fact that there is a natural birth board...

Shame.  No "I'm a better mom than you" merit badge for you!

Damnit!

[Deleted User]

etoille:

zoeyjack:

I'm glad to see I'm not alone! All of the prep posts were making me feel like a slacker!!

Yeah I'm not doing freezer meals either. 

The way DH's job panned out was kind of fortuitous - he's going to be working from home at least 4/5 days a week on average and its on his own schedule so if I need to take a shower or something we're pretty good. 

I don't want him going back to the DHS project and the DoD project (the one where he's home most of the time) is actually getting more funding so I anticipate it staying like this for the forseeable future. 

(There's even a chance *fingers crossed* that he'll get pulled out to PACOM in September - if that happens baby and I are going with to Hawaii).

ETA - on all the other crazy prep stuff yeah I will totally cop to that.  But that's just how my brain (dys)functions.

Wow, that's awesome!! Asbromle will have to fight me for that spot in your suitcase!

Carrie3102

maryannespier:

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this. My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

I plan on cooking and freezing food for post-baby because honestly, cooking calms me down.  I know that in the next few weeks I'm going to have some serious anxiety re: baby and having a cooking project will calm me down.  Totally aware that I would be able to eat afterwards even if there weren't any ready to crock foods in the freezer. Also totally aware that foods I freeze will be cheaper and probably healthier than the take out option. 

Agree it is not the apocolypse however, it is nice to not have to "do" anything for dinner when your baby is brand new.

I didn't freeze any last time (DH thought like you that it would be fine, but he didn't want cereal and expected meals, and we ordered in a lot and wasted a lot of money) this time I'm freezing enough for the first month or two... why?  Because now instead of 2 kids (DD and DH) I'll have 3.  It was hard enough to get motivated to do the cooking when I had just DD... this time will be worse.

bobcee

Asbromle:

Ok...for a real one though.  I don't understand women who can't go to a doctor's appointment alone.  I understand wanting your husband or whoever there for the big appointments, but for just a 5 minute check up?  Unnessary.  Or the women who always need a bathroom buddy?  Silly.  Unless you need help wiping...why do you need a friend?  But what really bugs me... women who don't have a drivers license. I can't imagine depending one someone else to get me from point A to point B. If you live in a city and use public transportation, I'm not including you in this.   

My H goes with me to every appt.  I don't ask him but he always wants to go.  I think maybe it makes him feel like he's more a part of it all.  Plus he loves hearing the baby's HB and reminds me of questions I wanted to ask or gets questions of his own answered.  He also likes hearing what the doc has to say and it's good to have a second set of ears because I sometimes forget.  I'm not going to insist he goes, but if he's available to go and wants to, I don't see the harm.  He should be as much a part of this as I am if he wants. 

Liz4444

PrimRoseMama:

I went over it in another thread, but I have more sympathy for overweight people who struggle with their body issues than I do for skinny people that complain about their bodies.nbsp;

I suffered from a very serious eating disorder, was almost hospitalized a few times and still have body dysmorphic disorder. For someone to think my struggles aren't just as valid because I'm thin in their eyes pisses me off.

bobcee

BetsyD2010:

Carrie3102:

maryannespier:

zoeyjack:

I agree 100 percent about the studies. It's such a joke to take them so seriously and not realize this. My UO is I don't understand why some people think they're preparing for a nuclear war and not a baby. I'm not freezing a single meal. A TV dinner, bowl of cereal, or take out will get you by. And guess what? You WILL cook again. I have one box of diapers. With a click of a button I can have 10 more sitting on my stoop or send MH out. And again, you WILL get out and shop again! Simmer.. Down.. Now.

I plan on cooking and freezing food for post-baby because honestly, cooking calms me down.  I know that in the next few weeks I'm going to have some serious anxiety re: baby and having a cooking project will calm me down.  Totally aware that I would be able to eat afterwards even if there weren't any ready to crock foods in the freezer. Also totally aware that foods I freeze will be cheaper and probably healthier than the take out option. 

Agree it is not the apocolypse however, it is nice to not have to "do" anything for dinner when your baby is brand new.

I didn't freeze any last time (DH thought like you that it would be fine, but he didn't want cereal and expected meals, and we ordered in a lot and wasted a lot of money) this time I'm freezing enough for the first month or two... why?  Because now instead of 2 kids (DD and DH) I'll have 3.  It was hard enough to get motivated to do the cooking when I had just DD... this time will be worse.

Agreed. I have the time now and it's important to me that my boys still get good healthy meals after LO comes. If it was DH I maybe wouldn't be concerned as much but with a growing boy in the house I'm still concerned about his nutrition not to mention I'll need to eat well while my body is trying to recover from birth and ease into BF again. While we could survive on pizza, take out and cereal for a while I can't turn off my Mom duties just because there's a new baby in the house. We'll be doing freezer meals.

I agree as well.  I enjoy cooking, but know that it was really difficult to get a good healthy meal on the table when DD was a newborn and will be even harder this time with a toddler in the mix.  I'd rather prep a little in advance so I'm not wasting money on eating out or eating junk all the time.  I'd much prefer a home cooked meal whenever I can get it.  Am I going to wither away and die if I don't have them prepped, obviously no, but it is a really nice thing to have.  And we also were very much appreciative of our neighbors and friends who brought us meals which included things like fresh salads because after eating cereal or take out for a few days, you start to crave things like that.